k***y
发帖数: 143 | 1 没训练过。
但是记得Dr.Ferber的CIO里，主张白天最长哭30分钟，晚上最长哭1小时，超过时限就
得抱起来哄，或者放弃这个nap。
另外一本health sleeping，happier baby的书里，主张建立了好的schedule后，白天
最长可以哭1小时，晚上无时间限制，直到睡着。
有时候哭哭更健康。但是我总觉得哭太久，会对小孩不好。如果不ready，何不缓一缓
呢？
BTW：我一直缓到现在还没开train ：）） |
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t*******o
发帖数: 516 | 2 I just googled and found out this website:
http://www.bradsdeals.com/stores/target-coupons
click to activate the "$7 off + Free Shipping with $70" will direct you to
Target.com with applied $7 off + Free Shipping.
Got the Britax Roundabout for $88 plus tax. Cannot be happier with it. |
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b********t
发帖数: 5261 | 3 If you can find a good family care with lower ratio and more regular
schedule, that will be good. My big one stay in a family care with 4 kids,
she eats a lot and nap 1:30 everyday at the same time. I got a report of
what she did everyday. I think she is happier there than stay at home the
whole day. She learns alot there, too; like putting away things when
finishes playing. |
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F****n
发帖数: 746 | 4 Ding!!!
What LZ need to do is just not contact anyone from her family. The she would
have a much happier life.
I found she complained at this board twice, and "wo ai wo jia" in wenxuecity
.com twice too.
If LZ can't completely ignore all those so-called father, mother, brother or
niece, she will behave like "Qiang Ling Shao" all her life. |
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a***t
发帖数: 333 | 5 什么样的人相信什么样的故事。
And you might be happier if you trust people more.
Bless LZ and LZ's friend. |
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a***l
发帖数: 2397 | 6 育儿的还可以看：
Einstein Never Used Flashcards: How Our Children Really Learn--and Why
They
Need to Play More and Memorize Less
Young at Art: Teaching Toddlers Self-Expression, Problem-Solving
Skills, and
an Appreciation for Art
How To Raise An Amazing Child the Montessori Way
You Are Your Child's First Teacher: What Parents Can Do With and For
Their
Chlldren from Birth to Age Six
Playful Parenting （中文版《游戏力》）
Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise
Calmer,
Happier, and More... 阅读全帖 |
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a**********8
发帖数: 1393 | 7 My baby just turned to 4 month too. Big Bless...
MM, baby at this age doesn't have good vision. Don't worry so much, try to
schedule with other doctors at other hospital to double check. Also, be
strong, your baby needs you. hug her more, kiss her more, when she feels
your love, she will feel safer and be happier.
话，想逗她开心，虽然心里很难过，但是尽量不在她面前流泪。宝宝的精神这两天稍微
恢复了一些，不过我仍然感觉她的眼神是空的。关于眼底检查听说宝宝的眼皮会被夹子
拉开照光，加上强光刺激散瞳后的眼睛，宝宝反抗得很厉害，她从来没有被生人这样对
待过。只要有可能，我们以后再也不会丢下她一个人做任何检查。我们打算下周再去跟
那个眼科医生见一下，只做drum test, 看是否真... 阅读全帖 |
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c*******u
发帖数: 12899 | 8 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
kaixinbb (kaixinbb) 于 (Wed Jan 11 15:46:26 2012, 美东) 提到:
恩， 你还没ready. 你应该40岁后再要孩子， 生不出来问题也不大，因为你的生活已
经很充实了。
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HoH (HoH) 于 (Wed Jan 11 15:47:56 2012, 美东) 提到:
也有过类似想法，不过自己决定的事情就要自己承担。生下来就好了，看着孩子觉得其
他什么都不再重要。现在反正也不能退货，干脆放宽心吧。
我们以为拥有昨天和明天，我们以为世界上有假如和意外，其实我们拥有的只是当下，
而事情的发生只有一种可能，那就是你所经历的那一种。如果有什么错了，那不是现实
错了，而是我们的想象错了。
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leeking (life is drama) 于 (Wed Jan 11 15:48:11 2012, ... 阅读全帖 |
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s*********e
发帖数: 6149 | 9 i cried a lot after delivery. after my gp went back to china. i feel much
better. now i take care of the baby all by myself.i feel very tired but much
happier. big bless for you. |
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c*******u
发帖数: 12899 | 10 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
PandaCub (godblessmybaby) 于 (Sat Jan 7 01:31:40 2012, 美东) 提到:
Update:
谢谢宝宝版这么多热心善良的妈妈们为宝宝祈福，给我们鼓励建议。我们天天给她说话，想逗她开心，虽然心里很难过，但是尽量不在她面前流泪。宝宝的精神这两天稍微恢复了一些，不过我仍然感觉她的眼神是空的。关于眼底检查听说宝宝的眼皮会被夹子拉开照光，加上强光刺激散
难劬ΓΡΨ纯沟煤芾骱Γ永疵挥斜簧苏庋源Ｖ灰锌赡埽颐且院笤僖膊换岫滤桓鋈俗鋈魏渭觳椤Ｎ颐谴蛩阆轮茉偃ジ歉鲅劭埔缴幌拢蛔鰀rum test, 看是否真的造成了精神以外的创伤。
关于宝宝的病我们也在拼命看资料。宝宝的眼睛没有大家说起的那种典型的快速水平或垂直运动，否则我们也能够早察觉到。宝宝的眼睛有时似乎正常，只是眼神有些游移，有时有些微微晃动, 像是在找什么。Nystagmus确实只是一种symptom，但是被认为是眼睛的病变或神经系统的问
穑蟾欧殖蒻otor和sensory两类，因果关系不同。如果眼睛本身没有问题... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 11 Ear tube surgery is a very quick procedure, and the side effect is minimal.
My son did it a month ago. No ear infections and no complications so far.
Since his ear pain is gone, he becomes happier and more active.
They put a mask on him to put him to asleep (sedation), and he woke up right
after the 15 min procedure. He resumed normal activities that same
afternoon.
Usually for little kids, doctors don't give them IV anesthesia injection.
Of course, every surgery carries certain risk. You have t... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 12 The first thing you need to do is to find an experienced ENT (ear-nose-
throat) specialist, and he/she will judge whether your child needs the ear
tube surgery.
Statistically, the ear tube surgery can reduce incidence of ear infections
by around 85%. It is a very quick procedure, and the side effect is minimal.
My son had 6 ear infections in the past year. His ENT doctor performed
surgery on him two month ago. No ear infections and no complications so far.
Since his ear pain is gone, he becomes ... 阅读全帖 |
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r***e
发帖数: 2670 | 13 thanks! i'll try to be happier. |
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l*****s
发帖数: 279 | 14 是很难的，而且要变也要take time；刚开始我妈也很不接受我讲的。but you need to
be consistent, calm and serious. It's like discipline your child. Gradually
, my mother accepted my points and even though it's not perfect, we are much
happier now. |
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p***h
发帖数: 1462 | 15 nanny is better than daycare for my son
my son was very happy in daycare but now with a nanny, he is happier... |
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j********u
发帖数: 376 | 16 给各位妈妈推荐一本书，因为作者的身份背景是位有着两个女儿的妈妈，用自己的方式
爱着自己的生活，很适合各位追求自我生活与价值的美妈！以下是我的简单书评，写的
不好，希望大家见谅！
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很久没有读到这么一本书让我如此的入迷，如此的赞同。Oh, my God，这竟是一本非小
说的self-help的书; and oh my God again, 这竟是一本300页的英文书。
作者Gretchen Rubin并非什么大牛人，这本《The Happiness Project》也是目前为止
她唯一一本登上The New York Times Bestseller的作品。但就是这位住在New York
City，有着两位可爱女儿的妈妈，让我找到了内心的共鸣，找到了自我认知与进步的力
量，找到了真正可以实现的幸福未来！原来Happiness--真的可以很简单。
每一天我们走在自己的平凡生活之路，家庭，孩子，朋友，工作，有太多的人与事需要
我们关系参与，太多的纷扰... 阅读全帖 |
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m**********a
发帖数: 638 | 17 来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 养娃和打游戏 haha, your post makes me even happier that we are having a girl, who can
steal someone's son someday and have him forever!
you made my day! |
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J******d
发帖数: 287 | 18 Pardon me for using English.
If you two are in computer major (home gross income at least 250k,), I
suggest you go, otherwise, bay area is a very demanding place for both you
and your child.
We moved from Palo Alto to Maryland two years ago. My husband's job offers
the same salary in two areas. For me, it is easier to find a job here. our
life quality has improved a lot and we are much happier here since we moved
to MD.
1. Work pressure is much lighter for both of us in MD.
2. costs of living is... 阅读全帖 |
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p****a
发帖数: 267 | 19 strongly suggest you to raise the kid yourself! i have had experienced all
the options you are considering, i sent my baby to the familycare too young
while i work full time (where he could not adjust well), sent him back to
china for a few months (while we missed him every minute and didn't know
what to do when he was sick)...now i am staying at home and take care of him
myself...and i have never been happier now. Believe me the valuable time
with your kid is something you won't get back in the |
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H********l
发帖数: 17 | 20 知道自己有生育困难有7-8年了，以前一方面自己贪图顺其自然，一方面做试管的费用
是个不小的负担，所以这个事情就拖了下来，后来鼓足勇气决定去做试管了，预约好的
日子还没有到，和前妻的缘分也到头了。
现在的未婚妻关系很融洽，确定关系之前，所有的情况都如实相告。未婚妻是喜欢要孩
子的，我经过以前的经历，心态也改变很多，在这方面也准备好了，无论有多大困难，
我也会要孩子，a happier wife 比什么都重要。以前不喜欢狗，现在因为她喜欢狗，
我也非常愿意养狗，拉布拉多，她的dream dog。
去年年底回国，看了个口碑很好的医生，开了些中、西药回来吃。上周做了精子复查，
今天得到结果，其实算不上是surprise，不过这个没有改善的结果还是让人沮丧。
做试管吧！
羡慕大家！
也许大家可以在我的苦闷得到些这么轻易就做父母的幸福感。我也希望自己最终就能够
成为一个幸福的父亲。 |
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r*********e
发帖数: 174 | 21 You think the kids will be happier if they are sent to foster care family?
The dad is not a good dad for sure, but at least he's their father, the
girl is 15, it's safer to stay with her dad than some stranger.
Think twice before you act. |
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s**g
发帖数: 3271 | 22 cft cft
what you said make me happy with my decision. my daughter took group lessson
for about a year, learned some songs, but it's very hard to push her to
practice every day. Her teacher moved so we stopped. and I don't need to
push her to anything else (homework, reading, chinese etc)
we both are happier now. So I am very reluctant to let her learn that again. |
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s********8
发帖数: 264 | 23 a good kid in day care doesn't mean he/she is a happier kid. As parents,
our goal is for kids to have a happy childhood, not the best student in
daycare.. *RUN* |
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s********8
发帖数: 264 | 24 a good kid in day care doesn't mean he/she is a happier kid. As parents,
our goal is for kids to have a happy childhood, not the best student in
daycare.. *RUN* |
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h**********d
发帖数: 4313 | 25 I really don't think you get it here.
Best student doesn't mean he/she is a happier kid.
A kid with lots of friends and respect is.
In other words, 如果你孩子什么都不会，社交有困难，不仅交朋友难，还会受到别的
孩子一点judgement（虽然这不能怪任何人），然后就会不高兴。然后就会不想去，要
哭。越不去越不想去，最后就变成了再也不去。。。
结论就是，在家最高兴，在外面一点也不高兴 |
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l*********e
发帖数: 20 | 26 强烈建议大家关注一下这个牌子的琴.关键词:新款. 老款的Ritmuller和其他中国产的
琴一样被认为"不是乐器", 但近年的新款已被很多人认为超过YAMAHA.造价12million
的Berkeley The Freight and Salvage 音乐厅新进的三角琴就是这个牌子.我不懂琴,
但在给女儿买琴时听到它,觉得它真是在"唱". 女儿说yamaha听起来happier, 但这恰恰
是我觉得yamaha相较起来声音单薄些.而Kawai有些部件是塑料的.do some research,
you won't regret it. |
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m**k
发帖数: 18660 | 27 You might just feel happier when you spend money on kids than on yourself. |
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s******8
发帖数: 311 | 28 1. I think there is no final conclusion on whether gay is born or unborn.
But more scientific research suggests that it is "born".
2. The author of your cited book only attacked some very very old results (
in 80s or 90s). He probably never read any new scientific results himself.
3. I suggest that every parent watch the the movie "prayers for bobby",
which is based on a true story. A gay kid committed the suicide because his
religious mother does not accept "who he is". She believes that she ca... 阅读全帖 |
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a***l
发帖数: 2397 | 29 最近有本新书 Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to
Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids 值得看看
里面讲到玩具这部分时有个例子是某家庭收拾过后给两个孩子留下了十分之一的玩具
现在的大多数家庭的玩具和书都是过度丰富，收起来大部分对家庭环境和孩子的游戏都
有好处
书的最好放置方式是封面朝外摆出来，而不是在书架或者盒子里只看到书脊，可以买
book display放, 在Read-aloud handbook 里面还讲过用 rain gutter 自己装墙上的
http://raisingolives.com/2009/07/raingutter-book-shelves-tutorial/ |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 30 书的副标题是
10 simple steps for more joyful kids and happier parents
每一章讲一个step |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 31 2003年出了新版本
65年，第1版？怪不得我印象里书很旧 :)
Alright, sold!
我在图书馆hold了一本
这些年来，偶觉着偶其实更需要学习draw boundary,make myself happier :)
读的 |
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p*******e
发帖数: 986 | 32 【 以下文字转载自 Jan2010_baby 俱乐部 】
发信人: powerwave (YY, My heart!), 信区: Jan2010_baby
标 题: Psychological Immunity (ZZ)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Sep 7 16:23:21 2011, 美东)
This is a great article to read:
Consider a toddler who’s running in the park and trips on a rock, Bohn says
. Some parents swoop in immediately, pick up the toddler, and comfort her in
that moment of shock, before she even starts crying. But, Bohn explains,
this actually prevents her from feeling secure—not just on the playground,
but in l... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 33 A husband comes out of an ivy league college is likely to have higher
earning potential, but not necessarily more dependable. A lady who gets
married with a successful guy is likely to enjoy a richer life style, but
not necessarily feels happier. |
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p**f
发帖数: 2610 | 34 通常是，赚钱一般是有代价的，赚钱的同时，everything else就不会一样了。而且如
果为了赚钱，牺牲了健康，家庭生活的话，对一般人来说，幸福感是会变差的。
好像前面也没人说rich people are less happy. 不过有人质疑，rich people are
probably not happier.这倒是个很常见的说法。有些研究也是支持这个说法的。
现实的社会中，确实有很多人对金钱，权力，名誉，成功，性生活很痴迷，总觉得越多
越好，而且都不计代价了。我觉得这有点偏向病态行为的意思了。
more |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 35 Would you hub let you have full custody of your child?
What if you hub wants to keep the child in US, would you be able to give up
your child and go back to China?
stay in US
get a divorce, make sure there is a plan (in divorce paper) for the CHILD if
you decide to move back to China for good.
then aggressively look for a job in China
It seems to me that you would be much happier in China.
As long as you are sure the unhappiness is mostly caused by your marriage
not by living in US. |
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N*********6
发帖数: 348 | 36 I think there are problems on both sides. Parents should discipline kids
more and the school does not fit this little boy. My boy was sent to a
church school a little over 2. The teacher there were very strict but also
very responsive. He has an eating problem always drag on forever and only
eat fruits. When I asked the teacher about this, they said they noticed the
problem the first week he was there already. So he was only allowed to eat
regular food at lunch time and his fruits came in only a... 阅读全帖 |
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w********o
发帖数: 1621 | 37 Haha, I just noticed that your ID and My ID both end with 'gogo'.
Thanks for your kind words. However, when you sit down with him for hours
for something he can finish in minutes if he is willing, it will drive you
crazy. My husband will come by and told him to speed up. Then he stepped
away. In half an hour, he will come back with another kick. It can repeat
for hours if I don't take over. (Now you see where it comes from?) My
husband just doesn't think that it's a good idea to push our son. He... 阅读全帖 |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 38 pat pat
要不找个心理医师聊一聊？理一理感情和思路
make sense of your past
let go of things/people that are out of your control
move on and live happier?
观。 |
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t*g
发帖数: 1758 | 39 Like this "mentally tough". I think the sisters may have good leadership and
EQ too. I like them. I believe they're as happy as everybody else, or maybe
even happier. |
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t*g
发帖数: 1758 | 40 Like this "mentally tough". I think the sisters may have good leadership and
EQ too. I like them. I believe they're as happy as everybody else, or maybe
even happier. |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 41 赶紧发送resume
这次只发那些工作强度低比较轻松的
u might be happier this way
was
can |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 42 赶紧发送resume
这次只发那些工作强度低比较轻松的
u might be happier this way
was
can |
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a**y
发帖数: 6501 | 43 NOD, I dont think pursuing PhD will definitely makes her wife happier
than running their business with him.
吗？ |
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m**n
发帖数: 9010 | 44 你就应该回答说:
"I'm more interested in making my kids happier, and getting
more affordable and good quality products, rather than making
whichever country rich, or creating job opportunities for
whoever do not have a job. Those who care more about the latter
should go for a political office" |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 45 "Normal" is an artificial concept, and it is hard to draw a clear-cut line
between "normal" and "abnormal". Even if someone tells you that certain
behavior is normal, or his children also do similar things, that doesn't
solve your problem, or improve the situation in anyway, right? So forget
about the question "normal or not", just focus on "making things better" or
"help your child regulate his emotions and become happier". |
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d**********2
发帖数: 52 | 46
or
Yes, you are right. I do want to "make things better" or "help her regulate
her emotions and become happier". But the problem is that I do not know how
to make it. Hope you guys can give me some suggestion or share experience. |
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y*s
发帖数: 2868 | 47 I will not debate with you on this. We are not his wife, we can not say that
he treats her bad. It is all about what you think and I can not change it.
Life is short and sometimes not easy. Look on the bright side, you will feel
happier. |
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l******2
发帖数: 2994 | 48 因为淘气不听老师指令被老师罚靠墙站2次，没跟家长说。老师跟家长反映告状才知道
。问他罚站的时候难过不难过，羞不羞，人家说“NO,IT DOESN'T MATTER TO ME，
ACTUALLY I WAS HAPPIER".问他为什么还高兴， ”I WAS THINKING MINDCRAFT". 五六
岁的男生，挺会排解，但是这个年龄小孩是不是应该有自尊心了？，愁人。 |
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x*******i
发帖数: 54 | 49
So that I guess, my father will be happier. |
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n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 50 My colleague, a beautiful non Chinese girl, once told me that she was
looking for a man who would make her laugh. And she believe that is the only
meaningful way for the two to last to the last day of their lives.
Reading these posts, I could hardly see happiness. I could hardly see a
Chinese make stand up to respect his wife and find ways to make her life
easier and happier. |
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