n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 1 1, Isolates you Emotionally abusive spouses want you all to themselves. They
do not understand that you have a life outside of the relationship - one
that includes family and friends. It is healthy and normal for you to hang
out with other people as well, so if your partner prevents you from doing so
, this may be a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship.
2, Verbally abusive
If someone calls you derogatory names, even if they say they are joking,
they mean to hurt you and keep you in line. Abusers sometimes cover
themselves by blaming you, saying that you need to lighten up or that you
are too sensitive. You are not too sensitive; you are feeling in your gut
that this is not the way you should be treated.
3, Blames Others
If your significant other always blames everything on someone else, namely
you, this may be a bad sign. If he or she throws a tantrum or attacks you
verbally, he or she will say it was because of you. It is not a sign of a
healthy relationship if your partner never takes responsibility and never
admits to being at fault.
4, Instills fear If you feel fear around your partner or spouse, there is
something very wrong. Abusers may try to intimidate you with violence,
dominance or power tactics. For example, intentionally putting you in
possibly harmful situations, or showing you their gun collection and stating
they are not afraid to use them.
5,Punishes you for time away This goes along with the isolation technique,
where abusers want you all to themselves. If you do go somewhere or do
something without your partner, or even if he or she goes along but others
are also there, an emotional abuser will punish you later. An abuser may
shout, insult, threaten or worse, all because you were not exclusively
hanging out with him or her.
6,Expects You to Be a Servant
An emotional abuser goes through life feeling entitled to be treated like
royalty, and wants you to be a willing servant. He or she expects you to do
everything and will not help at all.
7, Is extremely jealous
A prominent trait of abusers is their jealousy. An abusive partner or spouse
is often jealous of you, other people and even your dreams and goals. Their
jealousy and rage over intangible things like your aspirations stem from
the lack of control they feel over those aspects of your life.
8, Control you through emotion
An abuser is a grand manipulator and will sulk, threaten to leave, and
emotionally punish you for not following their idea of how things should be.
An abuser will try to make you feel guilty any time you exert your will
and assert what is right for you. At times the abuser may appear to be
apologetic and loving; the abuse begins again when the abuser feels he or
she has your forgiveness.
9, Gets physical
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, there is a good chance
that eventually things may get physical. At first, the abuser might pull
your hair, push you, or grab you so hard that you bruise; these may only be
warning signs that things can escalate further | n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 2 The Chinese man and his family have conducted too many these abusive
behaviors. | r*g
发帖数: 3159 | 3 不错。搜到个类似中文版的：
13种迹象表明他在对你情感虐待：
1、他要和你24小时都不分开
这听起来很棒，但事实绝不是这样！当一个男人不管他的兴趣爱好和朋友，天天只想伴
你左右，这是一个很明显的标志——你们的关系正在转向错的方向。你完全没有自己的
时间，这个男人想要控制你。
2、他像个导演，定下各种规矩
他不让你和朋友出去，自己却可以和哥们儿混在一起。甚至认为你的朋友对你起了坏的
影响，他讨厌你最好的朋友。
3、他把你孤立于你的圈子
他让你和家人、朋友失去联系。似乎整个世界都要围着他转。他管不着你的交际圈。
4、他干涉你的自由
你无论去哪里都要向他汇报，并且询问你做什么、和谁在一起这些细节。如果发现你隐
瞒，就会很生气。你在精神上感到疲劳，因为要不断解释你的行为。
5、他用冷漠来惩罚你
一个情感虐待狂般的男人在生气的时候，会不回复你的任何电话或消息，也不告诉你他
为什么而生气，以此作为对你的惩罚。
6、他用指责来伤害你的感情
“笨”、“胖”、“丑”……这些侮辱性的词汇永远不该出现在一段关系中。这个男人
用降低你自尊的方式，让自己获得安全感。
7、他常吃醋
当你们外出时，他不让你看其他男人。尤其在你穿着性感的时候，更会激起他的嫉妒心
。这就是施虐者的表现。
8、他对某种事物上瘾
并不是所有情感滥用者都有着非理性的依赖，但有一部分确实会对某种事物格外上瘾，
而且不知道该怎么停下来。
9、他带给你恐惧感
健康的浪漫关系能为一个人带来支持和保障。你的另一半应该让你感到舒服、不怕成为
你自己。但如果一个男人总是威胁和恐吓你，带给你恐惧感，你该重新评估这段关系有
没有存续的必要。
10、他降低你的自尊心
一个理想的伴侣应该能够膨胀你的自尊，让你感到自己的是如此美丽。然而，一个施虐
者让你开始怀疑自己的优点，降低你的自我价值感和自尊。
11、他用像对待物品的方式对待你
在你们的关系里没有“我们”两个字，完全只是为了满足他一个人的利益。这个男人只
关心自己，并利用你来谋取利益。
12、这段关系像坐云霄飞车
如果你不知道这段关系能让你指望什么，那么就是不健康的标志。良好的情感关系应该
是稳定的，而不是跌宕起伏、犹如坐过山车。这会给你带来很多压力和艰辛。
13、身体虐待
精神虐待和身体虐待对于施虐者来说是同时存在的，一旦他动手打了你，就会有下一次
。不要寄希望于他会改变而原谅他，这只会给你带来更大的伤害。（文章来自：39健康
网） | u*****a
发帖数: 6276 | 4 哎哟，那个中文的读起来有些条目像在描述某些网霸。 |
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