n*****a 发帖数: 2802 | 1 大概两三周前开始的,对弟弟说话总是吼。稍微有点不如意就
开始发脾气,做错了事情就怪到别人头上,总之,错都是人家
的,他总是对的。
批评教育了多次。昨天朋友到家来玩,他不跟弟弟share玩具,
朋友对他说要对弟弟nice,人家翘气直接走了。然后朋友帮
着收拾玩具,他之前用积木搭了点东西,朋友收盒子里去了,
娃就开始大哭,不依不饶,弄得朋友很尴尬,帮他搭也不是,
哄也不是,今早还给我发短信道歉。
跟我出门,回来发现弟弟在他不在家的时候,把他摆在客厅
地上的玩具动了,他就开始大吼大叫。爸爸跟他说,玩具是
share的,如果你不想弟弟动,就放到自己的closet里去,放
在客厅地上,弟弟看见就去玩了,他不知道你不让他动啊。
然后小人就赌气不吃中饭了。
今天中文因为打开抽屉没看见牙线,又开始发脾气,弄得我
一肚子火。不知道该怎么教养这个孩子。 | z*****a 发帖数: 3809 | 2 多大了?
【在 n*****a 的大作中提到】 : 大概两三周前开始的,对弟弟说话总是吼。稍微有点不如意就 : 开始发脾气,做错了事情就怪到别人头上,总之,错都是人家 : 的,他总是对的。 : 批评教育了多次。昨天朋友到家来玩,他不跟弟弟share玩具, : 朋友对他说要对弟弟nice,人家翘气直接走了。然后朋友帮 : 着收拾玩具,他之前用积木搭了点东西,朋友收盒子里去了, : 娃就开始大哭,不依不饶,弄得朋友很尴尬,帮他搭也不是, : 哄也不是,今早还给我发短信道歉。 : 跟我出门,回来发现弟弟在他不在家的时候,把他摆在客厅 : 地上的玩具动了,他就开始大吼大叫。爸爸跟他说,玩具是
| n****y 发帖数: 6260 | 3 规矩啦,玩具说好哪个是他的,哪个是弟弟的,哪个是公用的,照着这个分类来。要是
他的玩具弟弟玩儿,他不高兴,就把玩具还给他,哄哄;要是弟弟玩儿他没意见,就使
劲儿夸他。这样要夸要罚也有立场。
积木那个事儿是你朋友欠周到。你娃儿不高兴是可以理解的。
总之,我觉得你最好多站在娃儿的角度想想,其实娃儿这些闹,也没啥好不理解的,知
道他为啥闹,跟他商量好了定下规矩,大家遵守,都是小事儿。 | a****n 发帖数: 8553 | 4 吼还是好的了,我见过兄弟俩,年龄差得不多,经常大打出手,家长也用揍的教育.然后在
外面简直就是霸王,看见他们家我就带孩子离开. | n*****a 发帖数: 2802 | 5 六岁了,最近脾气很坏,一点不称心就大吵大叫,发脾气。
今天腿被蚊子咬了,他两下抓破了,就开始又喊又叫,跟他解释,
不要再抓那个地方,睡一晚上就好了,人家就是要大喊大叫,跟
天塌下来一样,从前不是这样的啊。
【在 z*****a 的大作中提到】 : 多大了?
| M****o 发帖数: 13571 | 6 好好和孩子坐下来平心静气地谈谈,关心他一下,看看是否有啥在困扰他。
昨天刚开始读以前买的书,里面很多话都很有益:
"For parents, this quality of 'emotional intelligence' - as many now call it
- means being aware of your children's feelings, and being able to
empathize, soothe, and guide them. For children, who learn most lessons
about emotion from their parents, it includes the ability to control
impulses, delay gratification, motivate themselves, read other people's
social cues, and cope with life's ups and downs."
"We have found that most parents fall into one of two broad categories:
those who give their children guidance about the world of emotion and those
who don't."
"'Emotion Coaches' ... They don't object to their children's displays of
anger, sadness, or fear. Nor do they ignore them. Instead, they accept
negative emotions as a face of life and they use emotional moments as
opportunities for teaching their kids important life lessons and building
closer relationships with them."
"Like many Emotion-Coaching parents in our studies, Jennifer's dad, Dan,
sees his daughter's sad or angry moments as the time she needs him most." | M********s 发帖数: 24729 | | n*****a 发帖数: 2802 | 8 做父母真是大学问,尤其是我们小时候都被简单粗暴对待的人,现在为人父母,
走一步学一步,客服自身缺点,然后影响孩子。
最近反思我自己,在孩子生活方面对孩子一直以来都要求太严格,从不妥协,
看来孩子可能还是copy了我的强势,以后要学着体会他的感受,适当妥协。
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【在 M****o 的大作中提到】 : 好好和孩子坐下来平心静气地谈谈,关心他一下,看看是否有啥在困扰他。 : 昨天刚开始读以前买的书,里面很多话都很有益: : "For parents, this quality of 'emotional intelligence' - as many now call it : - means being aware of your children's feelings, and being able to : empathize, soothe, and guide them. For children, who learn most lessons : about emotion from their parents, it includes the ability to control : impulses, delay gratification, motivate themselves, read other people's : social cues, and cope with life's ups and downs." : "We have found that most parents fall into one of two broad categories: : those who give their children guidance about the world of emotion and those
| a********e 发帖数: 69 | 9 写的真好。请问是什么书?
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【在 M****o 的大作中提到】 : 好好和孩子坐下来平心静气地谈谈,关心他一下,看看是否有啥在困扰他。 : 昨天刚开始读以前买的书,里面很多话都很有益: : "For parents, this quality of 'emotional intelligence' - as many now call it : - means being aware of your children's feelings, and being able to : empathize, soothe, and guide them. For children, who learn most lessons : about emotion from their parents, it includes the ability to control : impulses, delay gratification, motivate themselves, read other people's : social cues, and cope with life's ups and downs." : "We have found that most parents fall into one of two broad categories: : those who give their children guidance about the world of emotion and those
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