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发帖数: 5637 | 1 答案是自制力。。而且自制力要从小培养。
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How To Help Your Child's Brain Grow Up Strong
http://www.npr.org/2011/09/14/140340903/how-to-help-your-childs
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Teaching Self-Control
Aamodt and Wang also emphasize the importance of teaching your children self
-control from an early age.
"This is really critical because there are so many things parents want to do
when they read parenting books," he says. "They take steps to teach their
children math or reading ... but a big thing we can do for our children is
to do the best to foster the development of self-control and willpower. Self
-control and the ability to restrain impulses is associated with success at
every age, whether it means being able to read at age 4, or being able to
restrain impulses at a later age, or even what your peers think of you in
high school. At all of these ages, willpower and self-control is a stronger
predictor of academic success than IQ."
When children are young, they can learn self-control by focusing on any fun
activity — whether that means studying martial arts or playing with dolls
and planning a make-believe tea party.
"It gives the child practice at planning and organizing a series of topics
to achieve a desired goal," says Aamodt. "When you're planning a tea party,
you can't be acting like a fighter pilot. You have to be acting like a lady
having a tea party. So pretending is one of the earliest types of exposure
most kids get to planning and organizing their actions. And the more you
practice that, the better you're going to be at it."
Making sure your child has fun while learning self-control is vitally
important. Aamodt and Wang recommend, for instance, telling your child to
pretend he or she is protecting a castle instead of just saying, "Stand
still."
"Taking advantage of a child's natural sense of fun is a terrific way to
instill these things," says Wang. "This is not the kind of thing that works
well if it's forced. It can be something as easy as pretending to guard the
castle or playing a take-turns game where you say, 'I'm going to draw an ear
on this piece of paper, and when you see an ear, then it's your time to
listen. And if you see a mouth on this other piece of paper, then it's your
time to talk.' So all of these things can be done in very simple ways — in
ways that are often fun — and the more fun it is, the more likely the child
is to pay attention for a longer period of time. These things are fun, they
don't cost money, and anybody can do it." |
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