d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 1 如果和你交往的女人给你发信说“Am I your cover up or back up" 并要求你给出
clear 回答。 你们会有什么想法，如何处理？ |
l******n
发帖数: 347 | 2 something like this?
"You are something that I need when I am fucking up or fucked up?"
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 如果和你交往的女人给你发信说“Am I your cover up or back up" 并要求你给出
: clear 回答。 你们会有什么想法，如何处理？
|
e*******3
发帖数: 3763 | 3 我英语好烂哦！我都不知道楼上两位什么意思，谁给翻译下？
第一句back up我知道，所以可以猜到前面的意思。我是你的全部，还是后备？
第二句啥意思？我需要你，然后呢？ |
g**********e
发帖数: 94 | 4 我猜是问： 我是你的门面还是备胎？
【在 e*******3 的大作中提到】
: 我英语好烂哦！我都不知道楼上两位什么意思，谁给翻译下？
: 第一句back up我知道，所以可以猜到前面的意思。我是你的全部，还是后备？
: 第二句啥意思？我需要你，然后呢？
|
c*********3
发帖数: 6862 | |
l*******u
发帖数: 523 | 6
第二句是：你其实是我正在操人和被生活操了之后所需要的。I am fucked up一般是指
生活一团糟。。。。英语说起来比较通顺，翻译成中文失去了那意思。。。
典故：sex and the city，忘了第几季第几集，里面smantha早晨打电话给kerry，说：
“I am so fucked."kerry以为她出事了，就问什么事。。然后smatha说，no, I meant
i was really fucked up all night long...于是乎，fucked up也可以指在做爱过程
中被操爽了。
【在 e*******3 的大作中提到】
: 我英语好烂哦！我都不知道楼上两位什么意思，谁给翻译下？
: 第一句back up我知道，所以可以猜到前面的意思。我是你的全部，还是后备？
: 第二句啥意思？我需要你，然后呢？
|
X*******8
发帖数: 3895 | 7 哈哈， 你真逗！ 然后还用吻？
【在 e*******3 的大作中提到】
: 我英语好烂哦！我都不知道楼上两位什么意思，谁给翻译下？
: 第一句back up我知道，所以可以猜到前面的意思。我是你的全部，还是后备？
: 第二句啥意思？我需要你，然后呢？
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 8 看样子能理解的真少啊。大家如何解释在这里cover up是对什么cover呢。 |
j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 9 body
your EQ is really low.
Only stupid ladies ask this question
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 看样子能理解的真少啊。大家如何解释在这里cover up是对什么cover呢。
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 10 不是我EQ低，是你太肤浅，看不到这话能覆盖的东西
【在 j********8 的大作中提到】
: body
: your EQ is really low.
: Only stupid ladies ask this question
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j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 11 那个麻醉医生说你什么都不是， 就是想找个chinese girl 玩玩 |
j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 12 Love is what you can feel
no need to ask
If you can not feel, that means no love at all.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 不是我EQ低，是你太肤浅，看不到这话能覆盖的东西
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 13 怎么扯上麻醉医，哪跟哪啊
【在 j********8 的大作中提到】
: 那个麻醉医生说你什么都不是， 就是想找个chinese girl 玩玩
|
j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 14 你在我面前就是透明的
do not cover up yourself before me!
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 怎么扯上麻醉医，哪跟哪啊
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 15 Generally,I agree with。 But in love world there is a gray area too.
【在 j********8 的大作中提到】
: Love is what you can feel
: no need to ask
: If you can not feel, that means no love at all.
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 16 hehe,你太自以为是了
【在 j********8 的大作中提到】
: 你在我面前就是透明的
: do not cover up yourself before me!
|
j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 17 I know what you think, but you do not know what I think.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: hehe,你太自以为是了
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 18 大多数男人都要回答这个提问吗，还是选择不去回答 |
j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 19 Of course ignore.
A really stupid question
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 大多数男人都要回答这个提问吗，还是选择不去回答
|
e*******3
发帖数: 3763 | 20 老实说，问这个问题好像有点强人所难的意思。自己心里有个底就行了，问来的又不
一定是真话。问这个问题还不如上哪里逛会。
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 大多数男人都要回答这个提问吗，还是选择不去回答
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 21 其实不然。我看不是问题本身低级，其实问到根处，要么是男人不理解，要么是男人无
法正面回答才故意ignore。如果男人ignore，那女人肯定认为不回答也是一个清晰的回
答：他的确不在乎她
【在 j********8 的大作中提到】
: Of course ignore.
: A really stupid question
|
j********8
发帖数: 1339 | 22 本来就不在乎， 还推断个P。在乎的女生就不会有这个问题
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 其实不然。我看不是问题本身低级，其实问到根处，要么是男人不理解，要么是男人无
: 法正面回答才故意ignore。如果男人ignore，那女人肯定认为不回答也是一个清晰的回
: 答：他的确不在乎她
|
s*****l
发帖数: 7106 | 23 really depends
mostly you just say no
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 如果和你交往的女人给你发信说“Am I your cover up or back up" 并要求你给出
: clear 回答。 你们会有什么想法，如何处理？
|
r*******r
发帖数: 4013 | |
s****n
发帖数: 104 | 25 Answer: If you want it to become ture
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 如果和你交往的女人给你发信说“Am I your cover up or back up" 并要求你给出
: clear 回答。 你们会有什么想法，如何处理？
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 26 如果你和非特殊宗教的白男约会3个月以上，没有上床，不用问，你是cover up。不过
是也不会回答你是。The entire
scheme is to cover up. So he won't tell you, even though he has used you.
standard回复是 I want to take it
slow. 不过在你质疑以后会不再“约会”你。
如果你们上床次数超过3次，你可能是back up，也可能是friend vs benefit under
the illusion of potential
relationship。 Either way，他会否认。如果你约会的男人单身，成功，超过35岁。
也许根本没有什么back up。只是他
不想你有任何理由控制他的生活。你们就是约约会，上上床，聊聊天，spend some
good time together。女人都是得寸
进尺的。要是一个女人在我家里放了她的沐浴化妆品，下次她会带衣服放在我柜子里，
过几个月就该指点我用什么桌布了。
如果我不miss掉几次约会机会，以后如果我自做主张周末去独自爬山，她会生气，好像
我做什么应该和她商量一样。女
人，她想要进，你就推，如果自己有足够的leverage，英俊成功的男人不会缺少女人，
不管你是否给她们控制你的权力，还
是会有几个女人围着转。
没有所谓back up。因为没有哪个女人个比另外哪个女人更重要。见面会好好对待你，
绝对绅士。但是女人，你不可能称为
我老婆。
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 如果和你交往的女人给你发信说“Am I your cover up or back up" 并要求你给出
: clear 回答。 你们会有什么想法，如何处理？
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 27 这位好像是个很有经验的明白人。
男人会不会因为这样的问话感到难堪和愤怒呢？直男和gay的反映估计不一样吧。
如果选择不做回应，会是啥心理
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: 如果你和非特殊宗教的白男约会3个月以上，没有上床，不用问，你是cover up。不过
: 是也不会回答你是。The entire
: scheme is to cover up. So he won't tell you, even though he has used you.
: standard回复是 I want to take it
: slow. 不过在你质疑以后会不再“约会”你。
: 如果你们上床次数超过3次，你可能是back up，也可能是friend vs benefit under
: the illusion of potential
: relationship。 Either way，他会否认。如果你约会的男人单身，成功，超过35岁。
: 也许根本没有什么back up。只是他
: 不想你有任何理由控制他的生活。你们就是约约会，上上床，聊聊天，spend some
|
t******u
发帖数: 3036 | 28 翻译: 你是gay 还是当我是你的小三?
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 如果和你交往的女人给你发信说“Am I your cover up or back up" 并要求你给出
: clear 回答。 你们会有什么想法，如何处理？
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 29 I'm straight. Anger? No. Embarrassed, probably. It is normally the end of
a story when a woman asks for
more control over my life - suggestion of marriage, moving-in, blaming me
for not taking her to a ski-trip,
blah blah blah. The point is, if she is really good (good in bed, sweet,
not a control-freak and not likely to
press for a definite answer in the near future), I might come up with some
sort of comforting measure, like
sweet words, flowers, or even oversea vacations. If she is just old and
average, I won't be bothered. I might
just ignore her and get myself some other girls.
As for gay, I don't know. I bet they would be offended if they are not open
gays? I mean, why would they
cover-up if they do not feel ashamed at all by their sexuality?
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 这位好像是个很有经验的明白人。
: 男人会不会因为这样的问话感到难堪和愤怒呢？直男和gay的反映估计不一样吧。
: 如果选择不做回应，会是啥心理
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 30 女人也不傻，看你对待她们的方式，意识到没有共同未来，肯定不和你玩了。
你当然还可以继续和别的女人，然后再重复同样的结局
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: 如果你和非特殊宗教的白男约会3个月以上，没有上床，不用问，你是cover up。不过
: 是也不会回答你是。The entire
: scheme is to cover up. So he won't tell you, even though he has used you.
: standard回复是 I want to take it
: slow. 不过在你质疑以后会不再“约会”你。
: 如果你们上床次数超过3次，你可能是back up，也可能是friend vs benefit under
: the illusion of potential
: relationship。 Either way，他会否认。如果你约会的男人单身，成功，超过35岁。
: 也许根本没有什么back up。只是他
: 不想你有任何理由控制他的生活。你们就是约约会，上上床，聊聊天，spend some
|
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 31 Interestingly, most women would not give me up within a few months. The
more money a man make, the
more tolerant his women are. That's exactly what I want- a few months' fun
with one gal and then start it all
fresh with another. Honestly, it would really freak me out if I cannot get
rid of a woman within a year as it
would start to look serious. In terms of relationships, men have far more
time to waste than women do.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 女人也不傻，看你对待她们的方式，意识到没有共同未来，肯定不和你玩了。
: 你当然还可以继续和别的女人，然后再重复同样的结局
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 32 对快速而坚决离去的女人，你是不是反而有点放不下呢？
既然和这些女人是玩玩的心态，你当家人和朋友面怎么对待这些女人呢
get
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: Interestingly, most women would not give me up within a few months. The
: more money a man make, the
: more tolerant his women are. That's exactly what I want- a few months' fun
: with one gal and then start it all
: fresh with another. Honestly, it would really freak me out if I cannot get
: rid of a woman within a year as it
: would start to look serious. In terms of relationships, men have far more
: time to waste than women do.
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 33 Nah. As I said, if the woman is really good, I might come up with some
measure to slow her down. If she is
just average, I don't really care. I'll act civil though, just in case we
ran into each other in professional settings.
I don't mind taking my girl to parties, as long as I'm not dating more than
2 girls at the same time. My family
is in China so I have that part covered.
If your man is gay, however, the entire point would be bringing you to
parties and family gatherings. If you
spend more time with him in social settings than in his bedroom, he is
likely to be a gay.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 对快速而坚决离去的女人，你是不是反而有点放不下呢？
: 既然和这些女人是玩玩的心态，你当家人和朋友面怎么对待这些女人呢
:
: get
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 34 & honestly, I rarely meet any 27+ women that can "快速而坚决离去."
Excellent women over that age can hardly
meet their matches, who are rich, handsome and have impeachable manners.
Most of them have a lot of
fantasies in our future even though I have to tell them I'm so busy this
weekend or that weekend, or I cannot
spend a holiday with them. While they are in hope, that would be for at
least a month or two, I would have
enough fun already. While they are in doubt, that would be for another few
months, we can still have fun and I
would have enough back-ups to pick from. Whether she decide to leave or not
, it would not hurt me.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 对快速而坚决离去的女人，你是不是反而有点放不下呢？
: 既然和这些女人是玩玩的心态，你当家人和朋友面怎么对待这些女人呢
:
: get
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 35 You are a true playboy。 How come you call yourself a familyman
few
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: & honestly, I rarely meet any 27+ women that can "快速而坚决离去."
: Excellent women over that age can hardly
: meet their matches, who are rich, handsome and have impeachable manners.
: Most of them have a lot of
: fantasies in our future even though I have to tell them I'm so busy this
: weekend or that weekend, or I cannot
: spend a holiday with them. While they are in hope, that would be for at
: least a month or two, I would have
: enough fun already. While they are in doubt, that would be for another few
: months, we can still have fun and I
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 36 我看年纪大的反而更容易快速识破你，离开你，因为她们有经验也不想浪费自己的时间
few
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: & honestly, I rarely meet any 27+ women that can "快速而坚决离去."
: Excellent women over that age can hardly
: meet their matches, who are rich, handsome and have impeachable manners.
: Most of them have a lot of
: fantasies in our future even though I have to tell them I'm so busy this
: weekend or that weekend, or I cannot
: spend a holiday with them. While they are in hope, that would be for at
: least a month or two, I would have
: enough fun already. While they are in doubt, that would be for another few
: months, we can still have fun and I
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 37 I am curious why women use the word "玩玩" and why would that be a bad thing
. I had a good time, my date
had a good time as well. I pick her up, buy her flowers, take her out to
fancy clubs and restaurants, tell funny
jokes, flatter her, listen to her, take her home and give her full foreplay
and blow jobs, do her well with my
huge d**k, hug and scoop her till she falls asleep, take her to brunches in
the morning and see her off, send
her messages and thank you note afterwards. I bet my dates enjoyed it.
Even though I really hate to answer women's phone calls, I do answer her
call once or twice a week, in
courtesy, to satisfy her "emotional needs."
What more do you want? The only thing I cannot give is the control over my
life, my privacy and my decisions.
Just relax and enjoy! |
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 38 My experience is the opposite. You would be surprised to see women that I
dated 2 ys ago still send me
messages once a few months to check my availability.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 我看年纪大的反而更容易快速识破你，离开你，因为她们有经验也不想浪费自己的时间
:
: few
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C****u
发帖数: 911 | 39 好自以为是的一个人
玩吧，总有你后悔的时候
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: My experience is the opposite. You would be surprised to see women that I
: dated 2 ys ago still send me
: messages once a few months to check my availability.
|
A*********R
发帖数: 11847 | 40 Suggest you watch the sitcom "Two and Half Men", you will know better guy's
games...it's hilarious too. |
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 41 用玩玩这词最符合你所描述的了。不过你会玩地更开心如果你在开始就对她们说明你不
想要有束缚的relationship，大家在一起for fun 和good time。也许很多人会离开，
但是你肯定能找到和你志同道合的一起玩high。
说到底你还不够诚实，有点骗人家。take advantage of them
thing
foreplay
in
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: I am curious why women use the word "玩玩" and why would that be a bad thing
: . I had a good time, my date
: had a good time as well. I pick her up, buy her flowers, take her out to
: fancy clubs and restaurants, tell funny
: jokes, flatter her, listen to her, take her home and give her full foreplay
: and blow jobs, do her well with my
: huge d**k, hug and scoop her till she falls asleep, take her to brunches in
: the morning and see her off, send
: her messages and thank you note afterwards. I bet my dates enjoyed it.
: Even though I really hate to answer women's phone calls, I do answer her
|
C****u
发帖数: 911 | 42 他会在论坛上这么得意洋洋的讲这么多，只有两种可能：
1、他说的这些只是YY出来的，为了逗大家玩，寻个开心
2、他说的是真话，但是他心中很不安，需要通过炫耀欺骗自己让自己以为自己很安于
现状才能安心
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 用玩玩这词最符合你所描述的了。不过你会玩地更开心如果你在开始就对她们说明你不
: 想要有束缚的relationship，大家在一起for fun 和good time。也许很多人会离开，
: 但是你肯定能找到和你志同道合的一起玩high。
: 说到底你还不够诚实，有点骗人家。take advantage of them
:
: thing
: foreplay
: in
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 43 I believe I am pretty honest. I do tell my dates that I am very picky, most
women I dated would only end up
being a memory. On the other hand, I'm on the look-out for a Mrs. Right. I
just never met her yet. This
statement is also true. I did have, 2 or 3 times, felt close to the point
of wanting to spend my life with a girl, it
just never worked out. Most women think they can end my adventures, but
they didn't.
Gal, you think you are cool and you are not for an average man. I have the
exact same feeling for myself. I
would occasionally stop for a good-enough. However, anyone that takes me
off the market got to be REAL
good and I just haven't met her yet.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 用玩玩这词最符合你所描述的了。不过你会玩地更开心如果你在开始就对她们说明你不
: 想要有束缚的relationship，大家在一起for fun 和good time。也许很多人会离开，
: 但是你肯定能找到和你志同道合的一起玩high。
: 说到底你还不够诚实，有点骗人家。take advantage of them
:
: thing
: foreplay
: in
|
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 44 Sweetie, I have 2 questions for you:
1. How old are you?
2. How many bf(s) you had?
3. Do you think you are a catch?
4. Are you married?
If you are over 25, you are or have been a catch, had more than 2 serious
relationships, and still single, what
you think is the problem? I'd say whatever problem you have, I have it.
You are picky. I'm picky too. You dated someone and realized that he is not
good enough, the same thing
happened to me. The difference is- I paid for the dinners and you didn't.
So you are in a hurry of getting married and I am not, does that make me
sinful? I'm pretty honest with gals
that though I have high expectations of a family, I'm extremely cautious about
relationships and most gals
agreed with me. They did not turn out to be a right candidate for my wife and I do not think
that's anyone's fault.
【在 C****u 的大作中提到】
: 他会在论坛上这么得意洋洋的讲这么多，只有两种可能：
: 1、他说的这些只是YY出来的，为了逗大家玩，寻个开心
: 2、他说的是真话，但是他心中很不安，需要通过炫耀欺骗自己让自己以为自己很安于
: 现状才能安心
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A*********R
发帖数: 11847 | 45 Sounds like another ”Charlie" from "Two and Half Men" indeed...
There will be a day you'll feel old and out, and want someone to hand over a
chicken soup when you are sick and old.
most
I
the
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: I believe I am pretty honest. I do tell my dates that I am very picky, most
: women I dated would only end up
: being a memory. On the other hand, I'm on the look-out for a Mrs. Right. I
: just never met her yet. This
: statement is also true. I did have, 2 or 3 times, felt close to the point
: of wanting to spend my life with a girl, it
: just never worked out. Most women think they can end my adventures, but
: they didn't.
: Gal, you think you are cool and you are not for an average man. I have the
: exact same feeling for myself. I
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 46 你把自己说得挺高尚，其实你的问题是，一旦对方认真了你就结束了relationship。你
不是用接受的心态考察对方成为你wife的可能性，从一开始你就抱着have fun的态度。
not
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: Sweetie, I have 2 questions for you:
: 1. How old are you?
: 2. How many bf(s) you had?
: 3. Do you think you are a catch?
: 4. Are you married?
: If you are over 25, you are or have been a catch, had more than 2 serious
: relationships, and still single, what
: you think is the problem? I'd say whatever problem you have, I have it.
: You are picky. I'm picky too. You dated someone and realized that he is not
: good enough, the same thing
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C****u
发帖数: 911 | 47 别管我多大，至少我说对了，你心里很不安~
not
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: Sweetie, I have 2 questions for you:
: 1. How old are you?
: 2. How many bf(s) you had?
: 3. Do you think you are a catch?
: 4. Are you married?
: If you are over 25, you are or have been a catch, had more than 2 serious
: relationships, and still single, what
: you think is the problem? I'd say whatever problem you have, I have it.
: You are picky. I'm picky too. You dated someone and realized that he is not
: good enough, the same thing
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 48 No, I am just looking out for you, so that next time you meet a "playboy,"
you know what to expect.
It just shocks me how many sophisticated women do not know the rules of the
game. If you want nothings
from someone, he cannot trick you into anything. Most of the misfortunes
happened for a cause - one's own
greediness.
A lot of women use double-standard - and you know that. Once I dated a girl
, who seemed to be different
and she somehow touched some soft spots of my heart. To test her out, I
lied about my position and salary,
and made myself look like a freshman in the business, and she gave me this
cocky attitude later on.
So some women want a deep pocket and they didn't get it. I say, OWED.
Am I still looking for the one that I can spend my life with, in good or
bad times, for rich or poor? Yes.
Have I found her? NO.
【在 C****u 的大作中提到】
: 别管我多大，至少我说对了，你心里很不安~
:
: not
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t********e
发帖数: 1238 | 49 this is about two popular sexual intercourse position.
cover up, means woman top, man bottom
back up, means fucking from behind.
you have to be prepared in all respects then you can WAIF |
G*****y
发帖数: 2768 | 50 always single thread, never multitask |
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 51 They are serious about what? They are serious before they even know me. So
all I can say, They are serious for
a good-looking deep pocket who can also act like a gentleman. But that's
not me, at the end of the day, I can
be more or less than that. If I say, I want to quit my job and be a
musician one day, would they be still with
me when my savings are depleted? Come'on. Their problems, are they are
serious about what I can give them,
instead of who I am. I see nothing one girl can give that some other girls
cannot give. One girl may be sexier,
younger, more rational and funnier. But that does not make her unique.
So, if some crazy woman is pushing me into a serious relationship while she
just showed me how much she
want from me, instead of how much she can give me, it's really the end of
the relationship. If you are a real
beauty in your days, you would know what I am talking about. You are just
more desperate than 10 years ago
and you forgot how much you need to see to call a man your Mr. Right. I am
not desperate yet, and I can wait.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 你把自己说得挺高尚，其实你的问题是，一旦对方认真了你就结束了relationship。你
: 不是用接受的心态考察对方成为你wife的可能性，从一开始你就抱着have fun的态度。
:
:
: not
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 52 你说“I see nothing one girl can give that some other girls cannot give”因
为你把女人当作sex tool。所以谁都一样。你觉得女人是图你啥，归根到底还是因为你
没碰到条件真正好的女人。
So
girls
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: They are serious about what? They are serious before they even know me. So
: all I can say, They are serious for
: a good-looking deep pocket who can also act like a gentleman. But that's
: not me, at the end of the day, I can
: be more or less than that. If I say, I want to quit my job and be a
: musician one day, would they be still with
: me when my savings are depleted? Come'on. Their problems, are they are
: serious about what I can give them,
: instead of who I am. I see nothing one girl can give that some other girls
: cannot give. One girl may be sexier,
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 53 If you are talking about how much a woman makes~ it only makes a small
difference. They can satisfy their
own financial needs, but still, they are into a successful man because they
need a successful man. My career
is something I wish I could give up one day and I probably will.
Sex tool? It's mutual. Both parties derive pleasure.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 你说“I see nothing one girl can give that some other girls cannot give”因
: 为你把女人当作sex tool。所以谁都一样。你觉得女人是图你啥，归根到底还是因为你
: 没碰到条件真正好的女人。
:
: So
: girls
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 54 As for “图我啥”, we might have different interpretations. I am not
concerned about buying women purses. In
fact, some women make no less than I do and they buy themselves purses. The
problem is what they are
looking for in me?
Say, if a woman I dated tell me that she loves me, after 3 months and 10
dates, I'd find it to be funny. So what
she loves about me? What she can learn in 3 months? My look, career and
manners?
I would not fall in love with a woman because she went to Stanford and makes
300k and says sassy things.
There is some warm and clean things in girls that I really miss, and I
cannot find in most of my dates. I believe
I am deeper than my dates would find me, but they are already crazy when
they learn about the "hard factors."
It is their craziness over "条件好" that pushes me away.
hing one girl can give that some other girls cannot give”因
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 你说“I see nothing one girl can give that some other girls cannot give”因
: 为你把女人当作sex tool。所以谁都一样。你觉得女人是图你啥，归根到底还是因为你
: 没碰到条件真正好的女人。
:
: So
: girls
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 55 你只给他们展示你表面的那些"hard factors."，那她们也自然只看到这些。你不展示
你的灵魂，你就得不到soulmate
The
makes
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: As for “图我啥”, we might have different interpretations. I am not
: concerned about buying women purses. In
: fact, some women make no less than I do and they buy themselves purses. The
: problem is what they are
: looking for in me?
: Say, if a woman I dated tell me that she loves me, after 3 months and 10
: dates, I'd find it to be funny. So what
: she loves about me? What she can learn in 3 months? My look, career and
: manners?
: I would not fall in love with a woman because she went to Stanford and makes
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 56 Sweetheart, you don't get me. They show desperation before we get deeper.
So you pretty much can predict
what they are after and why they are desperate. It's like a man telling you
that he loves you right after he
erects. You can see how shallow that love is.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 你只给他们展示你表面的那些"hard factors."，那她们也自然只看到这些。你不展示
: 你的灵魂，你就得不到soulmate
:
: The
: makes
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 57 看来你还是对自己的个人内在魅力不自信，总以为是外在的光环吸引了她。也许人家看
上的就是integrity。你不相信Love from fist sight，但它的确存在。有没有
chemistry，从见面那一刹那就知道了。时间和love不是成正比的。三个月足够时间爱
上一个人了，你怀疑是因为你和她的心灵不同步。
you
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: Sweetheart, you don't get me. They show desperation before we get deeper.
: So you pretty much can predict
: what they are after and why they are desperate. It's like a man telling you
: that he loves you right after he
: erects. You can see how shallow that love is.
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l********a
发帖数: 202 | 58 familyguykk
I see you might have got hurt in your past relationship, so you become so
cautious and vulnerable. Though you may have f**ked a lot more girls than
you were, but deep in your heart, you know you are hurt, and you want
someone who loves you only, but not for anything else. You would like to find an ideal girl. The point is, you will never meet one in your current life. Good ones are already taken, you have to seek younger faces. So, live with it. Sexual relationship is only part of the story, you still have emotional needs, like you want someone you can truly trust. You are doing this to those girls only because they are not trustworthy. My advice, if you continue to be like this, good girls don't want you. Even they meet your needs, you don't. |
l********a
发帖数: 202 | 59 Good answers, though disgusting.
【在 l******n 的大作中提到】
: something like this?
: "You are something that I need when I am fucking up or fucked up?"
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C****u
发帖数: 911 | 60 好吧，我可能只是还年轻，没碰到过你这种"playboy"
但愿我永远都别有机会遇到
祝你早日成为真正的familyguy
the
girl
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: No, I am just looking out for you, so that next time you meet a "playboy,"
: you know what to expect.
: It just shocks me how many sophisticated women do not know the rules of the
: game. If you want nothings
: from someone, he cannot trick you into anything. Most of the misfortunes
: happened for a cause - one's own
: greediness.
: A lot of women use double-standard - and you know that. Once I dated a girl
: , who seemed to be different
: and she somehow touched some soft spots of my heart. To test her out, I
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l********a
发帖数: 202 | 61 To lz:
You are indeed very picky, it's good to be cautious, but you are not in the
right direction. You should focus more on whether the man likes you or not,
how much he can sacrifice for you. Not what manners he has, how much money
he makes, you know, these all change with time. Believe me, if he doesn't
love you, even he is rich and with good manner, you will end up miserable.
Good luck! |
f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 62 First sight chemistry 确实存在。不过有些东西，明眼人都能看出来。不可否认很多
姑娘就是处心积虑地想找个甚麽甚麽
条件的嫁了。那种故作清高又急於联系的态度真是叫人难受。
算了小姑娘。不和你讨论这些了。本来为回答你的问题来的。就你说的那个男的，你对
他的好感也就因为他带你去好的地方
吃饭，谈吐风趣，风度得体，你已经纠结了。你还说我没有见过条件好的女人，你为这
麽一个standard gentleman纠结，
才让人觉得是不是你很少遇到更有风度又肯几次三番约会你的男人。在你纠结的时候，
对方即使不是gay，有意和你发展，
也能够感觉到来自你的压力，不管你是不是控制联系他。人怎麽想，不管怎麽压制，都
是能表现出来的。放轻松一点儿。就
当多个朋友就好了。我开始问你“if you were a real beauty in your days，you
will understand” 意思是，如果你从小有
很多人追，你就会理解，有时候你疏远拒绝一个人，可能不是因为他条件不好，而是他
太desperate，你没有准备好，他道
要你确定是不是当他女朋友了。你只能拒绝他。如果你不确定呢，只能疏远他。你们现
在的状态，主动权在他手里，他约你
出来容易，你约他出来难。你越desperate，越难。
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 看来你还是对自己的个人内在魅力不自信，总以为是外在的光环吸引了她。也许人家看
: 上的就是integrity。你不相信Love from fist sight，但它的确存在。有没有
: chemistry，从见面那一刹那就知道了。时间和love不是成正比的。三个月足够时间爱
: 上一个人了，你怀疑是因为你和她的心灵不同步。
:
:
: you
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C****u
发帖数: 911 | 63 你知道吗，有时候你因为一个人太desperate所以拒绝了他，很久以后发现其实真的没人
比他对你更好，你那时候会有多难过
但是也许你发自内心地相信没有遇到过真正对你好的人
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: First sight chemistry 确实存在。不过有些东西，明眼人都能看出来。不可否认很多
: 姑娘就是处心积虑地想找个甚麽甚麽
: 条件的嫁了。那种故作清高又急於联系的态度真是叫人难受。
: 算了小姑娘。不和你讨论这些了。本来为回答你的问题来的。就你说的那个男的，你对
: 他的好感也就因为他带你去好的地方
: 吃饭，谈吐风趣，风度得体，你已经纠结了。你还说我没有见过条件好的女人，你为这
: 麽一个standard gentleman纠结，
: 才让人觉得是不是你很少遇到更有风度又肯几次三番约会你的男人。在你纠结的时候，
: 对方即使不是gay，有意和你发展，
: 也能够感觉到来自你的压力，不管你是不是控制联系他。人怎麽想，不管怎麽压制，都
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l********a
发帖数: 202 | 64 你们这些男人真是太坏了，利用剩女急于嫁人的心态，简直是飞哥第二。lz你看看，你嫁给这种人肯定不幸福。要我说，男人最重要的不是make多少钱和是不是gentleman，handsome，最重要的是从心底喜欢你，对你好，尊重你，另外，会cook的大大加分。最简单的办法就是，当你和他在一起的时候，你是不是越来越漂亮。要我说华尔街的男人一点也不好，忙，没时间，硅工不错，生活不忙有情趣。
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: First sight chemistry 确实存在。不过有些东西，明眼人都能看出来。不可否认很多
: 姑娘就是处心积虑地想找个甚麽甚麽
: 条件的嫁了。那种故作清高又急於联系的态度真是叫人难受。
: 算了小姑娘。不和你讨论这些了。本来为回答你的问题来的。就你说的那个男的，你对
: 他的好感也就因为他带你去好的地方
: 吃饭，谈吐风趣，风度得体，你已经纠结了。你还说我没有见过条件好的女人，你为这
: 麽一个standard gentleman纠结，
: 才让人觉得是不是你很少遇到更有风度又肯几次三番约会你的男人。在你纠结的时候，
: 对方即使不是gay，有意和你发展，
: 也能够感觉到来自你的压力，不管你是不是控制联系他。人怎麽想，不管怎麽压制，都
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 65 “到好地方吃饭，谈吐风趣，风度得体”这不是我纠结的理由，这样的人的确很多。不
可否认他的职业对我有吸引力，不仅仅是因为收入高，而且还是well educated 而我
appreciate通过hard working获得成就的人。相信大多数女人和男人交往时都不免有纠
结的地方。我也不例外。与其说纠结不如说我不想浪费时间。判断自己是不是该早些
move on
认很多
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: First sight chemistry 确实存在。不过有些东西，明眼人都能看出来。不可否认很多
: 姑娘就是处心积虑地想找个甚麽甚麽
: 条件的嫁了。那种故作清高又急於联系的态度真是叫人难受。
: 算了小姑娘。不和你讨论这些了。本来为回答你的问题来的。就你说的那个男的，你对
: 他的好感也就因为他带你去好的地方
: 吃饭，谈吐风趣，风度得体，你已经纠结了。你还说我没有见过条件好的女人，你为这
: 麽一个standard gentleman纠结，
: 才让人觉得是不是你很少遇到更有风度又肯几次三番约会你的男人。在你纠结的时候，
: 对方即使不是gay，有意和你发展，
: 也能够感觉到来自你的压力，不管你是不是控制联系他。人怎麽想，不管怎麽压制，都
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 66 如果你非常忙，就move on吧。如果他约你的时候，你不在乎和他吃一两顿饭，就继续
约会。反正不exclusive，不影响
你约会别人。我觉得你们彼此的了结根本不够做任何决定。特别是你想要的是不是向男
女朋友，向婚姻发展这样的决
定，我非常反感一般女人约会－建立关系 －结婚 的进程表。
不是我不想结婚，是对方要做我女朋友，要指点我生活的时候我根本就不了结这个人。
可以理解大家都时间有限，特别
是对女人，但是约会3个月，然後exclusive，互相宣称男女朋友，这个时候彼此还在装
。你根本不知道对方有甚麽让你
最头疼的问题。一般有教养的漂亮女人不少，但是具体她是不是control freak，是不
是歇斯底里，是不是野心大到牺牲
生活中其他的选择（特别像我这种打算早退休的的人，对野心太大的女人不感兴趣），
对男朋友／老公是不是有不切实
际的期望，这些都要等到整个人loosen up了以後才能知道。最大的问题是在还不了结
一个女人的时候她就逼你做决
定。等你真的把她扶上正位以後她就开始越来越理所应得，然後开始试图全面控制你的
生活。
有些女人还是非常优秀非常promising的，但是急切建立关系和控制的态度非常吓人。
其实在彼此能够不装，非常坦然
地了结对方以前，多和几个人吃吃饭，聊聊天，挺好的。朋友也行，open
relationship也行。可能这麽有一搭，没一搭
地联系。过2丶3年也许就成了。和40－50年的婚姻比起来，2丶3年有多长呢？何况不止
在一棵树上吊死。所谓日久见
人心，很多人的问题真的要1丶2年才能发现。serious relationship，打架分手多在2
年上。
我自己如果想在65岁以前所有孩子大学毕业时间也不多了，如果要结婚生孩子，我可能
从虽然约会不成，但是不
pushy，依然和我保持一般朋友关系里面比较考谱的单身姑娘里找一个，起码人品有保
障，彼此也能够和平相处。这个
年龄不会轰轰烈烈地爱，所以不会头一晕去结婚。不是我要找小的，但是大龄姑娘们伪
装比小姑娘多，又太急切。就像
买东西，如果包装很多，在你面前晃机下就问买不买买不买，不买我卖下家了。我肯定
不敢买。如果肯做我两年朋友，
确定性格合拍，哪怕期间她约会过别人（因为我自己不exclusive，所以不会耽误她）
，都可以结婚。
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: “到好地方吃饭，谈吐风趣，风度得体”这不是我纠结的理由，这样的人的确很多。不
: 可否认他的职业对我有吸引力，不仅仅是因为收入高，而且还是well educated 而我
: appreciate通过hard working获得成就的人。相信大多数女人和男人交往时都不免有纠
: 结的地方。我也不例外。与其说纠结不如说我不想浪费时间。判断自己是不是该早些
: move on
:
: 认很多
|
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 67 请问一下，你怎么对待你约会的女人的生日呢？在你不确定你和她发展long term的时
候。
两人都多看看，不急于exclusive挺好，但是在某个时候必须做出和谁exclusive的决定
，如果她本来倾向于你，而你还不确定的话，你很可能失去一个优秀的人。不是越往后
你越能遇到更好的，有的机会失去了，就永远失去了。
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: 如果你非常忙，就move on吧。如果他约你的时候，你不在乎和他吃一两顿饭，就继续
: 约会。反正不exclusive，不影响
: 你约会别人。我觉得你们彼此的了结根本不够做任何决定。特别是你想要的是不是向男
: 女朋友，向婚姻发展这样的决
: 定，我非常反感一般女人约会－建立关系 －结婚 的进程表。
: 不是我不想结婚，是对方要做我女朋友，要指点我生活的时候我根本就不了结这个人。
: 可以理解大家都时间有限，特别
: 是对女人，但是约会3个月，然後exclusive，互相宣称男女朋友，这个时候彼此还在装
: 。你根本不知道对方有甚麽让你
: 最头疼的问题。一般有教养的漂亮女人不少，但是具体她是不是control freak，是不
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d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 68 你说做你女朋友的人开始要指点你的生活，其实在她看来也许是通过哪种方式表示关心
和亲近。
我其实是很反对指点别人或被别人指点生活的。即便是男女朋友了，也该有自己的空间
。但是观念上的互相影响肯定会不自觉产生的
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: 如果你非常忙，就move on吧。如果他约你的时候，你不在乎和他吃一两顿饭，就继续
: 约会。反正不exclusive，不影响
: 你约会别人。我觉得你们彼此的了结根本不够做任何决定。特别是你想要的是不是向男
: 女朋友，向婚姻发展这样的决
: 定，我非常反感一般女人约会－建立关系 －结婚 的进程表。
: 不是我不想结婚，是对方要做我女朋友，要指点我生活的时候我根本就不了结这个人。
: 可以理解大家都时间有限，特别
: 是对女人，但是约会3个月，然後exclusive，互相宣称男女朋友，这个时候彼此还在装
: 。你根本不知道对方有甚麽让你
: 最头疼的问题。一般有教养的漂亮女人不少，但是具体她是不是control freak，是不
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 69 Give her a gift and write her an email, but not likely to spend the date
with her unless I really need to get laid
that day.
There is always a risk of losing the potentially right person. Sweet and
beautiful women don't stay on the
market for long, unless they are too ambitious for relationships earlier in
their prime years. For women that stay
single till late 20s and men stay single till late 30s, the chance is, there
are some personal defects that actually
affects his or her ability to compromise with his/her partner (I admit I
have low tolerance level, so while
attacking shengnv, I revealed my own problems). The only problem is how
much you loss and gain by either
mistakenly marrying someone wrong and mistakenly missed someone potentially
right. If you think about the
likelihood that someone would actually make a man happier than he is in an
open relationship, and the cost of
false positive and false negative, it is not difficult to draw the
conclusion that for a 30s man with properties, it
is easier to let go a girl that he still has doubt than to marry a girl that
he still has doubt.
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 请问一下，你怎么对待你约会的女人的生日呢？在你不确定你和她发展long term的时
: 候。
: 两人都多看看，不急于exclusive挺好，但是在某个时候必须做出和谁exclusive的决定
: ，如果她本来倾向于你，而你还不确定的话，你很可能失去一个优秀的人。不是越往后
: 你越能遇到更好的，有的机会失去了，就永远失去了。
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f*********k
发帖数: 42 | 70 而且你说得本来倾向我，但是最後选择对她更热情的男人这种状况我不会担心。如果有
让我担心被别人抢跑的女人，我肯定
会有所表示。如果没有甚麽表示说明我不怕她和别人跑了，哪怕有点遗憾。性情非常好
的聪明漂亮单身女人比较少，但是聪
明漂亮单身女人像蘑菇一样永远冒新的。不过话又说回来了，没有点交情，怎麽能知道
对方性情非常好。这个悖论是没解
的。男女都一样，没有感到年龄压力的时候不会轻易妥协的。我还能再逛荡几年，所以
放弃更容易。
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 请问一下，你怎么对待你约会的女人的生日呢？在你不确定你和她发展long term的时
: 候。
: 两人都多看看，不急于exclusive挺好，但是在某个时候必须做出和谁exclusive的决定
: ，如果她本来倾向于你，而你还不确定的话，你很可能失去一个优秀的人。不是越往后
: 你越能遇到更好的，有的机会失去了，就永远失去了。
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r****2
发帖数: 470 | 71 你是同性恋麻醉医生的cover up
【在 d*********e 的大作中提到】
: 看样子能理解的真少啊。大家如何解释在这里cover up是对什么cover呢。
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I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 72 没觉得他有什么坏的..他的态度很诚实, 没有去误导别人. 去爱一个人是需要很长的时
间去了解, 我从来不相信love at first sight - it makes no sense at all.
Chemistry exists - you do meet people you instantly like or dislike - true.
But to determine whether you love someone or not, especially to decide if
you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, requires you to
know him/her very well. 大部分的喜欢催别人的女人, 都是为了结婚而结婚. 这样的
是很悲哀的.
没有爱上一个人的时候, 如果两方都愿意, 两方都了解对方的目的/态度, 只在一起
have fun没什么错. 错的是那些明明知道人家没有继续发展的目的, 却希望有天这会改
变, 只因为自己想嫁人了. 我要是男的, 我会非常讨厌这样的女人.
你嫁给这种人肯定不幸福。要我说，男人最重要的不是make多少钱和是不是gentleman
，handsome，最重要的是从心底喜欢你，对你好，尊重你，另外，会cook的大大加分。
最简单的办法就是，当你和他在一起的时候，你是不是越来越漂亮。要我说华尔街的男
人一点也不好，忙，没时间，硅工不错，生活不忙有情趣。
【在 l********a 的大作中提到】
: 你们这些男人真是太坏了，利用剩女急于嫁人的心态，简直是飞哥第二。lz你看看，你嫁给这种人肯定不幸福。要我说，男人最重要的不是make多少钱和是不是gentleman，handsome，最重要的是从心底喜欢你，对你好，尊重你，另外，会cook的大大加分。最简单的办法就是，当你和他在一起的时候，你是不是越来越漂亮。要我说华尔街的男人一点也不好，忙，没时间，硅工不错，生活不忙有情趣。
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r****2
发帖数: 470 | 73 how do you give a woman blow jobs?
take her home and give her full foreplay
in
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: 而且你说得本来倾向我，但是最後选择对她更热情的男人这种状况我不会担心。如果有
: 让我担心被别人抢跑的女人，我肯定
: 会有所表示。如果没有甚麽表示说明我不怕她和别人跑了，哪怕有点遗憾。性情非常好
: 的聪明漂亮单身女人比较少，但是聪
: 明漂亮单身女人像蘑菇一样永远冒新的。不过话又说回来了，没有点交情，怎麽能知道
: 对方性情非常好。这个悖论是没解
: 的。男女都一样，没有感到年龄压力的时候不会轻易妥协的。我还能再逛荡几年，所以
: 放弃更容易。
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M***r
发帖数: 117 | 74 有趣。上马甲
你搞不明白为什么一些女的date过以后还要msg you to check on you |
s****x
发帖数: 683 | |
d*********e
发帖数: 1918 | 76 读过苏格拉底的那个拾麦穗的故事吗？漂亮单身女人像蘑菇一样永远冒新，可是你自己
却一天天老去。聪明人知道选麦穗不该等走到麦地尽头时随便拿一个
【在 f*********k 的大作中提到】
: 而且你说得本来倾向我，但是最後选择对她更热情的男人这种状况我不会担心。如果有
: 让我担心被别人抢跑的女人，我肯定
: 会有所表示。如果没有甚麽表示说明我不怕她和别人跑了，哪怕有点遗憾。性情非常好
: 的聪明漂亮单身女人比较少，但是聪
: 明漂亮单身女人像蘑菇一样永远冒新的。不过话又说回来了，没有点交情，怎麽能知道
: 对方性情非常好。这个悖论是没解
: 的。男女都一样，没有感到年龄压力的时候不会轻易妥协的。我还能再逛荡几年，所以
: 放弃更容易。
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m*****u
发帖数: 19562 | 77 cover up is something for decoration purpose.
In another word, in some scenario, you need a woman company but you do not
have a GF/Wife. So you take someone for company only.
【在 e*******3 的大作中提到】
: 我英语好烂哦！我都不知道楼上两位什么意思，谁给翻译下？
: 第一句back up我知道，所以可以猜到前面的意思。我是你的全部，还是后备？
: 第二句啥意思？我需要你，然后呢？
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