a***n
发帖数: 2632 | 1 我们可以开个话题讲讲同性恋的出柜。
可以是听来的故事，自己的经历。
也可以从理性和感性的，不同角度去讲这个问题。也可以和平权或生存等出发点入手。
一时没想好。希望能抛砖引玉。 | z**********2
发帖数: 6143 | 2 哈哈~自出柜以来，从未消停过，现在父母也是一周一吵，都是些要相亲要介绍对象的
事，马甲叫我别硬碰硬，可是这些个时候，也没有办法软下来。 | m******1
发帖数: 19713 | 3 2哥等过了35就好了，你父母就对你彻底放弃了，再熬个十来年吧。。
【在 z**********2 的大作中提到】
: 哈哈~自出柜以来，从未消停过，现在父母也是一周一吵，都是些要相亲要介绍对象的
: 事，马甲叫我别硬碰硬，可是这些个时候，也没有办法软下来。
| m******1
发帖数: 19713 | 4 我和我GF都特别幸运，家长都很wise，可以说没有遇到任何波折，唯一的小插曲就是我
GF的妈曾经说过要给她寄点中药来，不过说过一次就不再提了。我们双方的家长都和我
们一起住过不短的时间，都非常和睦。 | a***n
发帖数: 2632 | 5 我也是有选择的出柜的。
我在公司，我的老板知道，老板的老板也知道。公司的HR 知道。还有几个美国人也知
道。他们都没有当回事儿。
公司有十几个老中。有两个平时比较近的，也知道。他们也没有当成回事儿。
至于家里人，我讲了，他没讲。但我也没有讲很透，点了一下。说实话，有点难讲清。
我自己知道是很难明明白白地讲下去了。 | a***n
发帖数: 2632 | | m******1
发帖数: 19713 | 7 我除了和家人出柜意外，对朋友都出柜了，在公司则只和个别关系不错的同事出柜了，
我GF则是从上到下全面出柜。。
【在 a***n 的大作中提到】
: 我也是有选择的出柜的。
: 我在公司，我的老板知道，老板的老板也知道。公司的HR 知道。还有几个美国人也知
: 道。他们都没有当回事儿。
: 公司有十几个老中。有两个平时比较近的，也知道。他们也没有当成回事儿。
: 至于家里人，我讲了，他没讲。但我也没有讲很透，点了一下。说实话，有点难讲清。
: 我自己知道是很难明明白白地讲下去了。
| p**s
发帖数: 1891 | 8 我转贴一下我的未出柜故事吧:
扯到come out, 上次去东岸参加婚礼, 婚礼前一晚男友所有家庭成员在外面晚餐. We
were talking about our trip to China together soon, his aunt asked across
the table: "Are you gonna bring xxx to your family?" I felt blank for a
second, and she was quickly taken over by other conversations. Instead, I
repeated her question to his brother and girlfriend sitting beside me. I
explained the whole 'complicated' situation.
After dinner, I was thinking why I was more comfortable telling the story to
his brother and girlfriend, instead of his aunt. His aunt was an university
professor and an activist, his aunt's girlfriend is from Israel and an
activist. I guess I was a bit more intimidated by them to tell the "me-still
-in-closet-to-my-parents" story.
After we came back to SF, we had dinner with his aunt and a French lesbian
couple one night. We picked up the conversation again. This time I told them
my coming-out dilemma: It's not that I lack the courage to come out to my
parents, but I felt like I am shifting the burden to them because they are
living in China, surrounded by friends and family, they have to deal with
the fact that I am gay and inquiries from friends and family on a daily
basis.
His aunt said, surprising to me: then don't come out to them, tell them you
enjoy single life. I told her that was my thought five years ago, but now I
want to come out to them, I want them to know the real me, I want to show
them that I am having a wonderful life to be who I am, even if that sounds
like I am selfish in some way.
The Israeli girlfriend pulled me aside after dinner. She also told me not to
feel compelled to come out to my parents. Then she told me her coming out
story: you know, my younger sister and I are both lesbians. When I told my
father, it was a disaster, and his first response was: I always thought your
sister is lesbian, because she's acting more butch than you are. "You know
what I was thinking", she told me, "wait a minute, this is my moment, my
sister can wait for her turn to come out, why is it everything is about her?
" (so hilarious!). But to this day, they are still not comfortable with us
being lesbians, I can feel their pain whenever I see them.
I guess the story is the same for every gay and lesbian in the world when it
comes to this.
【在 a***n 的大作中提到】
: 我们可以开个话题讲讲同性恋的出柜。
: 可以是听来的故事，自己的经历。
: 也可以从理性和感性的，不同角度去讲这个问题。也可以和平权或生存等出发点入手。
: 一时没想好。希望能抛砖引玉。
| m******1
发帖数: 19713 | 9 其实，不管我们出柜不出柜，只要我们大龄未婚，国内的父母都会面临着很大的社会压
力。如果出柜了，起码让他们能为我们的生活稍微放心。反正我妈妈是这样，她75了，
身体也不太好，以前我的个人问题一直是她的心病，谁不愿意在有生之年能亲眼见到自
己的女儿找到终身幸福呢？我出柜以后，我妈妈这个心病就没有了，尤其是她见了我GF
以后，觉得更加喜欢和放心。我比较遗憾的就是我爸爸在世的时候不知道我是gay，他
不知道我这20年来其实一直就不缺爱情，他如果知道的话，会为我高兴的，他和我妈妈
一样开明。
to
university
【在 p**s 的大作中提到】
: 我转贴一下我的未出柜故事吧:
: 扯到come out, 上次去东岸参加婚礼, 婚礼前一晚男友所有家庭成员在外面晚餐. We
: were talking about our trip to China together soon, his aunt asked across
: the table: "Are you gonna bring xxx to your family?" I felt blank for a
: second, and she was quickly taken over by other conversations. Instead, I
: repeated her question to his brother and girlfriend sitting beside me. I
: explained the whole 'complicated' situation.
: After dinner, I was thinking why I was more comfortable telling the story to
: his brother and girlfriend, instead of his aunt. His aunt was an university
: professor and an activist, his aunt's girlfriend is from Israel and an
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