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h******r
发帖数: 148 | 1 征得本人同意由我代为在本版发出，请勿转载到其他版面，谢谢。
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Hi, Harbiner:
Are you the BM of psychoanalysis? I have some psychology problems that I
would like to consult you.
I think I have some symptoms of what is called Internet Addiction: I spent
nearly every minute in the school for chinese novel website. I read chinese
novels, new or old. It seems I can't control myself. Each time I tell myself
that I will do my research and don't view chinese novels again. | h******r
发帖数: 148 | 2 针对你在电子邮件里提的四个问题，我在给你的回信中已经一一回答。我自己没有COPY。
请你看我的第一封回信。
我现在把我前几天回复另一位网友的贴子COPY在下边。如果你不能参加讨论的话，我可能
也就只能提出这些比较GENERAL的东西。如果你能够参加讨论，我们可以讨论你提出的原
因。 我必须说，你不会有最糟糕的老板，最糟糕的情况。所以你不能BLAME外部环境，
为什么有的别的留学生面临更遭的情况也能应付自如？所以是意识里面思维逻辑有不能
适应现实环境的地方。需要检讨，调整。这大概也就是心理治疗，咨询的目的吧。
你可以出借本版的PUBLIC ID， 也可以把你的回复发给我，由我来帖。
祝好！
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首先感谢你愿意与我们交流。
IAD只是症状，是“标”，不是问题的根源。
你应该感谢互连网为你提供了一个非常好的HIDDING PLACE。
因为有了互联网，你没有取酗酒，没有去迷恋其它不健康的东西。
用其它任何一种习惯来取代互联网，尽管那种习惯可能看起来非常好，都是
治标不治本的方法。只是让你从一个HIDDING PLACE 转移到另外一
【在 h******r 的大作中提到】
: 征得本人同意由我代为在本版发出，请勿转载到其他版面，谢谢。
: ========================================================
: Hi, Harbiner:
: Are you the BM of psychoanalysis? I have some psychology problems that I
: would like to consult you.
: I think I have some symptoms of what is called Internet Addiction: I spent
: nearly every minute in the school for chinese novel website. I read chinese
: novels, new or old. It seems I can't control myself. Each time I tell myself
: that I will do my research and don't view chinese novels again.
| h******r
发帖数: 148 | 3 他要求我在本版贴他给我的回信如下:
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Hi,
I read all the posters related to my problem. About my questions, I am still
confused. It seems to me that what you suggested could all be concluded as:
find the reasons that lead to this situation. I think this is true sometimes.
Say, you may have a fear that you are not aware. When you find what you fear,
you may just be liberaed from it. However, sometimes it is different. Say, I
know that IA is caused by pressure. But that is not enough. Even if I
【在 h******r 的大作中提到】
: 针对你在电子邮件里提的四个问题，我在给你的回信中已经一一回答。我自己没有COPY。
: 请你看我的第一封回信。
: 我现在把我前几天回复另一位网友的贴子COPY在下边。如果你不能参加讨论的话，我可能
: 也就只能提出这些比较GENERAL的东西。如果你能够参加讨论，我们可以讨论你提出的原
: 因。 我必须说，你不会有最糟糕的老板，最糟糕的情况。所以你不能BLAME外部环境，
: 为什么有的别的留学生面临更遭的情况也能应付自如？所以是意识里面思维逻辑有不能
: 适应现实环境的地方。需要检讨，调整。这大概也就是心理治疗，咨询的目的吧。
: 你可以出借本版的PUBLIC ID， 也可以把你的回复发给我，由我来帖。
: 祝好！
: =========== 以前的帖子==============
| c*v
发帖数: 53 | 4 I think one better way is to transfer your attention,
such as going to the gym everyday, more social activities...
secondly you can use the hosts file on your computer to block
all the websites you often to go, such as www.sina.com.cn...
thirdly, it is better to use the principals that Anthony Robbins teaches
in the audio program named "personal Power II".
【在 h******r 的大作中提到】
: 他要求我在本版贴他给我的回信如下:
: ===============
: Hi,
: I read all the posters related to my problem. About my questions, I am still
: confused. It seems to me that what you suggested could all be concluded as:
: find the reasons that lead to this situation. I think this is true sometimes.
: Say, you may have a fear that you are not aware. When you find what you fear,
: you may just be liberaed from it. However, sometimes it is different. Say, I
: know that IA is caused by pressure. But that is not enough. Even if I
| w********y
发帖数: 359 | 5 这个朋友的问题似乎不是不知道原因，也不是不知道该如何做。所有的该看到的问题他都
看得很清楚，症结还是无法控制自己。外界的问题，诸如压力，孤独是导致IA的主要原因
。但不是要解决的症状。
一个，先不要太急，病急易乱投医。这个问题其实不是想象的那么严重，大概很多人都有
过这样的经历，把大量的时间浪费在网络上。网络在某种程度上是非常好的缓冲途径。问
题是，你不能太依靠网络，否则就会沉缅于其中。我认识很多人，在申请的出国的时候，
或是已经拿到offer的，除了吃饭睡觉，其余时间都在网络上。后来学业一开始，就自然
恢复了。不同的是，学业其间，还是要专注于学业，看清楚各阶段的形势。
其次，身边有人帮助很重要。多和爱人，或是朋友沟通，把上网的时间用来和别人沟通。
其实有些问题不和别人聊，自己是意识不到的。自己缺乏别人的关怀的同时，是不是自己
也缺乏对别人的关怀？多沟通就知道了。
最后，解铃还得系铃人，网络上究竟有什么让你这么着迷？而现实里究竟有什么是无法面
对的，需要逃避？好好想清楚。
still
sometimes.
fear,
I
针对你在电子邮件里提的四个问题，我在给你的回信中已经一一回答。
【在 h******r 的大作中提到】
: 他要求我在本版贴他给我的回信如下:
: ===============
: Hi,
: I read all the posters related to my problem. About my questions, I am still
: confused. It seems to me that what you suggested could all be concluded as:
: find the reasons that lead to this situation. I think this is true sometimes.
: Say, you may have a fear that you are not aware. When you find what you fear,
: you may just be liberaed from it. However, sometimes it is different. Say, I
: know that IA is caused by pressure. But that is not enough. Even if I
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