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f****e
发帖数: 5 | 1 My son is 2-year and 3-month old. He stayed with my parents in China from 1
year old for a whole year. My parents said he's very happy and quite
friendly to strangers. He even voluntarily said some words to strangers met
on the street.
But after we got him back to the US 3 months ago, he's so shy that when
there is a friend or neighbor dropping by, he wants to hide behind us and
looks down on the floor. Recently He's not as happy as before. He becomes
more and more fussy especially when there ar | L******N
发帖数: 1858 | 2 感觉上你们的宝宝跟你们不熟，跟环境不熟造成不安全感。
我想，你们如果能抽点时间在家陪陪他，多带他玩玩，多说说话，多(非常非常多的)抱
他亲他，非常注意他的情绪波动，经常问问他在想什么；会有很大帮助
我对帮助孩子建立安全感的概念是，一定要和孩子建立亲密的关系，让他觉得不论有什
么事发生你都站在他身边，不论他出了什么的事情你依然爱他；这样他才有勇气面对外
面的挑战。小孩子面对外面的挑战，会一次一次退缩回来找安全港湾，等他试探得差不
多了，他才能独自面对挑战；但是有新的挑战时他又会退缩一下。不同的孩子不一样，
有的时间长点，退缩的次数多一点，有的短一些，次数少一些。孩子退缩回来的时候不
要push他出去，这样只能让他更没有安全感。我会hug 他，kiss他，告诉他我理解他害
怕，然后跟他解释那是怎么回事，然后鼓励他再试一下；如果他还是不愿意，我就随他
；但是在后来的活动中，比如通过讲故事什么的，进一步向他解释。下一次又要有类似
的事情发生之前，我会事先提醒他，跟他排练排练、、、
希望说明白了：)
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【在 f****e 的大作中提到】
: My son is 2-year and 3-month old. He stayed with my parents in China from 1
: year old for a whole year. My parents said he's very happy and quite
: friendly to strangers. He even voluntarily said some words to strangers met
: on the street.
: But after we got him back to the US 3 months ago, he's so shy that when
: there is a friend or neighbor dropping by, he wants to hide behind us and
: looks down on the floor. Recently He's not as happy as before. He becomes
: more and more fussy especially when there ar
| f****e
发帖数: 5 | 3 Thank you very much! I couldn't sleep last night thinking about it and I've
also thought of your points.
My husband and I live in two different states and he's currently taking care
of the kid. So it's all my fault. A single dad who works full time does not
have the time and patience to give him the feeling of secure. My husband is
generally very nice and patient. He hugs and kisses the kid very often. But
he can also turn very rude when he's tired and not in the mood. I am very
guilty about it.
【在 L******N 的大作中提到】
: 感觉上你们的宝宝跟你们不熟，跟环境不熟造成不安全感。
: 我想，你们如果能抽点时间在家陪陪他，多带他玩玩，多说说话，多(非常非常多的)抱
: 他亲他，非常注意他的情绪波动，经常问问他在想什么；会有很大帮助
: 我对帮助孩子建立安全感的概念是，一定要和孩子建立亲密的关系，让他觉得不论有什
: 么事发生你都站在他身边，不论他出了什么的事情你依然爱他；这样他才有勇气面对外
: 面的挑战。小孩子面对外面的挑战，会一次一次退缩回来找安全港湾，等他试探得差不
: 多了，他才能独自面对挑战；但是有新的挑战时他又会退缩一下。不同的孩子不一样，
: 有的时间长点，退缩的次数多一点，有的短一些，次数少一些。孩子退缩回来的时候不
: 要push他出去，这样只能让他更没有安全感。我会hug 他，kiss他，告诉他我理解他害
: 怕，然后跟他解释那是怎么回事，然后鼓励他再试一下；如果他还是不愿意，我就随他
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