d***0
发帖数: 3 | 1 I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
, I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something, |
a*******i
发帖数: 11664 | 2 bless and cmft.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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n***y
发帖数: 15001 | 3 prepare for the next one... |
m*a
发帖数: 4927 | 4 i'm sorry for your loss. your post made me cry. but everything has been done
, so don't blame yourself too much. the baby will be safe and happy in
heaven. best wishes!
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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s********r
发帖数: 172 | 5 Bless mm! You will have a healthy and cute baby sooner! |
N**D
发帖数: 2885 | 6 please be strong and you'll have another chance...bless you... |
g***a
发帖数: 576 | |
b***r
发帖数: 4186 | 8 I am so sorry for your loss. Wish your baby peace in the heaven.
went
our baby
know
somehow
check his
believe
sonogramer didn
after
heart
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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h*****s
发帖数: 10 | 9 cmrt, I lost my first one in the 7th week. after 5 months, I got pregnaned
again. now my son is 9 months, he is so lovely and healthy!
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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w******s
发帖数: 504 | 10 mm，很替你难过，保重身体，从头再来吧。
感觉孩子就是上天给我们的一个考验。我们要坚强。 |
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h***9
发帖数: 662 | 11 cannot hold my tears. big bless. you will have a lovely baby.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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i*******y
发帖数: 17 | 12 非常难过，都要哭了。毕竟是一条命，诊断很莫能两可，你们问医生，他们也没有说孩
子一定有事啊，太武断了！
“Acetylcholinesterase is not present in the amniotic fluid, indicating a
very low likelihood of open neural tube defects.”
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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y*********0
发帖数: 240 | 13 big bless. you will have a lovely baby. |
s*****d
发帖数: 2667 | 14 I can't help crying.
GOD will bless you if you believe him, trust him. You will have another
healthy baby.
BTW, was you first trimester screening OK? |
m**********e
发帖数: 177 | |
f****t
发帖数: 1770 | |
k**a
发帖数: 1124 | 17 It's a choice you've already made. Then move on bah.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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B******8
发帖数: 137 | 18 Big bless. you will be a very strong person afterward and can stand anything
. You will just have to accept what happened, don't blame yourself too much.
That's maybe what you have to do.It's life, continue it! |
l**g
发帖数: 2859 | 19 Oh, what the heck is going on here...poor baby... |
g**u
发帖数: 412 | 20 太伤心了
bless
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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d*******s
发帖数: 2689 | 21 bless, you will have a healthy baby soon. |
d******4
发帖数: 99 | 22 bless you and the baby. You will have a healthy baby... |
l******a
发帖数: 328 | 23 your post made me cried. I know how your feel .
It is not easy for a woman especially after she feels the baby kick.
Sometimes life is unfair. Sometime our life sucks. I don't know what to
say to comfort you. I am still in tears now.
Just let it be. Take your time. Put yourself together. It is hard in the
beginning but you have the rest of your life from now on. You can plan
another one. And next time, you will be the best mom in the world, won't you
? With love and sincerity,every woman deserv
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
|
r**********s
发帖数: 1021 | 24 Be strong, your next baby will come to you soon as he can. |
y****o
发帖数: 178 | 25 So sorry to hear the bad news. Please take good care of yourself. |
a*******s
发帖数: 436 | 26 I am sorry for you loss and hope you the best for next baby
There is one thing I'd like to point out -often tests cannot guarantee you
anything. What they can provide is the likelihood or the probability. If you
want a yes/no answer, I am sorry that nobody will be able to do that. |
c*******n
发帖数: 1769 | 27 may him rest in heaven
bless lz~~~~~~ |
j*****a
发帖数: 205 | 28 big bless for the next healthy baby |
u****l
发帖数: 1189 | 29 big big bless！！
边看帖子眼泪边吧嗒吧嗒往下掉。
希望楼主不要太难过了，好好养好身体，下一个健康的宝宝很快就会来的。 |
v*****1
发帖数: 3980 | |
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p*********d
发帖数: 2373 | |
f***a
发帖数: 93 | 32 bless, 别太难过了,下个宝宝会健康的.
祝我们都好孕
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
|
d*********0
发帖数: 5 | 33 you will have a healthy baby next time. |
i*p
发帖数: 474 | 34 宝宝会再来的，你一定会是个好妈妈，祝福你们，保重身体． |
O******y
发帖数: 162 | 35 mm, I feel really sorry and sad about your loss.
Be strong and cheer up! Believe that your lovely and healthy baby will come
soon, bless... |
x****7
发帖数: 220 | 36 very touching.
you did the right decision. one of my friends gave birth to her baby with
some defact. She had to quit job to become full time mom. They live in tough
life.
You will have a healthy baby soon! Bless you! |
l****z
发帖数: 1754 | |
c*********o
发帖数: 211 | 38 When I read this, I was in tears. I am so sorry for your loss and please
rest assured that God will give you guys another chance to have a healthy
baby! |
j****y
发帖数: 1329 | |
c*******u
发帖数: 12899 | 40 Bless～
宝宝会再来的。
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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m*******1
发帖数: 2194 | 41 如果不是兔唇, 检查结果没大问题.和生病吃药关系也不大, 就是运气不好.
无论如何这是个人选择. 决定已经做了, 祝你坚强走过去. |
s*e
发帖数: 495 | |
h********y
发帖数: 598 | |
g*****y
发帖数: 1864 | 44 it breaks my heart,big big bless! |
R*********o
发帖数: 74 | |
x**z
发帖数: 2437 | 46 这个医生太不负责，也不解释一下，这样的结果比不检查还要差，
好好休息，My the boy live peacefully in heaven....
【在 R*********o 的大作中提到】
: Bless
|
m*******e
发帖数: 1886 | 47 He is blessed in heaven now. Be strong and be positive for next baby! |
b****q
发帖数: 265 | 48 bless. You will have a healthy baby eventually |
A****F
发帖数: 699 | 49 这个是最后的稻草。lz已经很难过了。
【在 i*******y 的大作中提到】
: 非常难过，都要哭了。毕竟是一条命，诊断很莫能两可，你们问医生，他们也没有说孩
: 子一定有事啊，太武断了！
: “Acetylcholinesterase is not present in the amniotic fluid, indicating a
: very low likelihood of open neural tube defects.”
:
: baby
: know
: somehow
: his
: believe
|
s***r
发帖数: 602 | |
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 51 天啊，别伤心了，唉23周了，要是我就生下来，筹钱做兔唇手术，其它的risk再说。不
过现在说什么也没用了，MM好好做小月子吧 |
s******g
发帖数: 1709 | 52 Big Blessing!
May he rest in peace! |
n******e
发帖数: 430 | 53 comfort... next time will be fin |
c*********2
发帖数: 1148 | 54 Bless MM, god will give you another chance to be a mom!~ |
l********y
发帖数: 593 | 55 big bless，不要太自责了，不一定是你吃了药的问题，就是运气不好而已 |
w****y
发帖数: 145 | |
p****c
发帖数: 233 | 57 bless. you did the right thing. You will have a happy healthy baby soon.
Good Luck. |
s*******2
发帖数: 652 | 58 cmft，宝宝会再回来的。
went
our baby
know
somehow
check his
believe
sonogramer didn
after
heart
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
|
t**********8
发帖数: 551 | 59 big bless！
mm要坚强，养好身体迎接下一个宝宝
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
|
n*g
发帖数: 342 | 60 Bless
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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d***e
发帖数: 4864 | |
t*******e
发帖数: 912 | 62 看了这篇忍不住哭了。我不是多愁善感的人，可是LZ的经历令人唏嘘。三年前我有过一
次人流的经历，那是9周时的决定。之后彻底BLUE，生活也发生了翻天覆地的变化，那
种GUILTY感觉持续很久。不过现在终于又怀孕了，很幸福。
我的经验是，决定了的事是无法挽回的，拼着力气向前走，不要想从前的事。把自己的
心脏练得跟一支军队一样强大，相信自己的坚强。做回快乐的自己，宝宝会再来的。
祝福！ |
m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 63 Bless!
Take good care of yourself and eventually you will have a healthy baby. |
e*******o
发帖数: 1287 | 64 Bless bless, very touching , wish you all the best on another healthy pretty
baby! |
l**********g
发帖数: 638 | 65 Bless you and the future will be bright. |
i*******u
发帖数: 101 | 66 都23周了，天哪，若是在你做手术之前我一定狠狠的拍，现在已经没有用了，你现在就
要学会坚强和LIVE WITH IT。
我生了两个，在怀孕的时候，对那些不可置否的测试从来都是拒绝的，蒙古症的测试只
有50%的准确率，这种似有似无的诊断才是害人的，谁能保证一切诊断都完美的孩子生
出来也不会有问题？ |
k****i
发帖数: 38 | 67 没有语言能够减轻你的痛苦。 也许时间可以帮助。
这个时候， 能哭出来也是一种解脱。
有时， 我们比想象中坚强。 |
A**O
发帖数: 387 | |
h****o
发帖数: 3 | 69 看了你的帖子真的让我震惊不已！做医生10多年了还是第一次听说有父母会因为唇腭裂
就把孩子打掉的！真的不敢相信这是真的！生下这个孩子可能会增加你们的一些负担，
但是在现有的医疗条件下，你的小孩还是有极大的可能能够正常的成长，正常的学习和
工作。即便小孩真的是神经管裂，出生后仍然可以有很多的方法去修补和处理。尽管你
的帖子写的很煽情，你们可能也是真的很内疚和自责，但我还是要说像你们这样轻而易
举的就把一个生命给扼杀了真的是很无知和不负责任！不过还是希望你们能从这个可悲
的错误中走出来，不要过于自责和悲伤，更不要留下心理阴影。好好的去爱你们的下一
个孩子吧。
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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C*******d
发帖数: 15836 | |
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P**********s
发帖数: 393 | 71 祝福!养好身体,早日有个健康宝宝...
心情很重要,也要做个小月子什么的...
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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p********e
发帖数: 669 | 72 bless
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
|
w***a
发帖数: 4361 | 73 Bless and be strong!
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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t*********n
发帖数: 46 | 74
还不是怕生出来后添麻烦。这和国内农村6个月还要强迫流产的残忍不相上下。抱歉，
我很直接，而且我也是母亲。
【在 h****o 的大作中提到】
: 看了你的帖子真的让我震惊不已！做医生10多年了还是第一次听说有父母会因为唇腭裂
: 就把孩子打掉的！真的不敢相信这是真的！生下这个孩子可能会增加你们的一些负担，
: 但是在现有的医疗条件下，你的小孩还是有极大的可能能够正常的成长，正常的学习和
: 工作。即便小孩真的是神经管裂，出生后仍然可以有很多的方法去修补和处理。尽管你
: 的帖子写的很煽情，你们可能也是真的很内疚和自责，但我还是要说像你们这样轻而易
: 举的就把一个生命给扼杀了真的是很无知和不负责任！不过还是希望你们能从这个可悲
: 的错误中走出来，不要过于自责和悲伤，更不要留下心理阴影。好好的去爱你们的下一
: 个孩子吧。
:
: baby
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B*****i
发帖数: 831 | 75 这不是坑吧？中国小孩儿没有cleft lip？不算王菲他们家还有千千万呢...
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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p*d
发帖数: 1128 | |
z*********a
发帖数: 64 | 77 I cried for your baby. I am also a mom with 19 months son.
You had better to consult with lawyer about the medicine and the dammed
doctor. |
p*d
发帖数: 1128 | |
c**********0
发帖数: 836 | 79 如果你在做决定之前来问，我会给你不同意见，因为我听过不少false positive的
tests,不过
既然做了决定，就move on吧,不要想太多。祝你下个孩子健健康康。
went
our baby
know
somehow
check his
believe
sonogramer didn
after
heart
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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t*****j
发帖数: 1105 | 80 同感....
我是不是也比较冷血啊，还有很多mm在这边觉得很touching...
【在 h****o 的大作中提到】
: 看了你的帖子真的让我震惊不已！做医生10多年了还是第一次听说有父母会因为唇腭裂
: 就把孩子打掉的！真的不敢相信这是真的！生下这个孩子可能会增加你们的一些负担，
: 但是在现有的医疗条件下，你的小孩还是有极大的可能能够正常的成长，正常的学习和
: 工作。即便小孩真的是神经管裂，出生后仍然可以有很多的方法去修补和处理。尽管你
: 的帖子写的很煽情，你们可能也是真的很内疚和自责，但我还是要说像你们这样轻而易
: 举的就把一个生命给扼杀了真的是很无知和不负责任！不过还是希望你们能从这个可悲
: 的错误中走出来，不要过于自责和悲伤，更不要留下心理阴影。好好的去爱你们的下一
: 个孩子吧。
:
: baby
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r*********l
发帖数: 1279 | |
p****c
发帖数: 1392 | 82 太难过了，希望lz和你的老公都坚强面对生活，相互鼓励对方，乐观积极，多休息，有
时情绪非常影响荷尔蒙的分泌，会造成身体器质性变化 |
t******g
发帖数: 186 | 83 bless!you'll have a perfect baby! |
l********k
发帖数: 248 | |
E*********s
发帖数: 93 | 85 Don't blame yourself too much. It was a hard decision. You will have another
chance.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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s*****l
发帖数: 783 | |
h*e
发帖数: 10233 | |
r********h
发帖数: 5638 | 88 I don't know what to say, just bless!! |
b*********t
发帖数: 1805 | 89 A healthy baby will come to you. God bless you~~~ |
L*****1
发帖数: 258 | |
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S*****a
发帖数: 229 | 91 bless,养好自己的身体，下一个宝宝会健康平安的到来的
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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d**********r
发帖数: 294 | |
c*****u
发帖数: 562 | 93 big bless
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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a****l
发帖数: 6431 | 94 Tears pouring out from me, all I can say is bless!
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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g****t
发帖数: 945 | 95 等你有个兔唇外加可能神经管裂的孩子，你再来大义凛然的批评别人吧。
还做医生10多年，头一次听说............... 兔唇打掉孩子的，不是一个两个，很普
遍，尤其是在国内。
【在 h****o 的大作中提到】
: 看了你的帖子真的让我震惊不已！做医生10多年了还是第一次听说有父母会因为唇腭裂
: 就把孩子打掉的！真的不敢相信这是真的！生下这个孩子可能会增加你们的一些负担，
: 但是在现有的医疗条件下，你的小孩还是有极大的可能能够正常的成长，正常的学习和
: 工作。即便小孩真的是神经管裂，出生后仍然可以有很多的方法去修补和处理。尽管你
: 的帖子写的很煽情，你们可能也是真的很内疚和自责，但我还是要说像你们这样轻而易
: 举的就把一个生命给扼杀了真的是很无知和不负责任！不过还是希望你们能从这个可悲
: 的错误中走出来，不要过于自责和悲伤，更不要留下心理阴影。好好的去爱你们的下一
: 个孩子吧。
:
: baby
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A****F
发帖数: 699 | 96 其实那个报告是写神经管裂的可能很低。
【在 g****t 的大作中提到】
: 等你有个兔唇外加可能神经管裂的孩子，你再来大义凛然的批评别人吧。
: 还做医生10多年，头一次听说............... 兔唇打掉孩子的，不是一个两个，很普
: 遍，尤其是在国内。
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g****t
发帖数: 945 | 97 那个报告的话很矛盾。
医生说得倒是很好，确实他也不能保证这孩子有没有神经管问题。
不过，单单兔唇一项就够倒霉，够烦人了，尤其是严重的腭裂.......
【在 A****F 的大作中提到】
: 其实那个报告是写神经管裂的可能很低。
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c******n
发帖数: 516 | 98 你要坚强，上帝会为你开起另一扇门的，你会有一个健康的的孩子的！ |
e***e
发帖数: 236 | 99 普遍不代表就是正确的，就像国内堕胎成风一样，没有缺陷的孩子不也一样被杀掉。
楼主做之前怎么不来这里发帖子问问大家意见？
【在 g****t 的大作中提到】
: 等你有个兔唇外加可能神经管裂的孩子，你再来大义凛然的批评别人吧。
: 还做医生10多年，头一次听说............... 兔唇打掉孩子的，不是一个两个，很普
: 遍，尤其是在国内。
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g****t
发帖数: 945 | 100 问别人意见又如何？你们谁养那个孩子么？你们谁自己的孩子是那个样子么？
替别人出主意，做决定容易的很，反正不用付出任何代价和责任。
【在 e***e 的大作中提到】
: 普遍不代表就是正确的，就像国内堕胎成风一样，没有缺陷的孩子不也一样被杀掉。
: 楼主做之前怎么不来这里发帖子问问大家意见？
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m**a
发帖数: 1840 | 101 So sad to hear it.
Bless. |
m*******1
发帖数: 2194 | 102 我不批评她, 这是个人选择. 但是我也不赞同她找的神经管裂风险借口, 还迁怒于怀孕
时候生病看的医生.因为可能误导别人. |
m*******1
发帖数: 2194 | 103 这个孩子也没有鄂裂.
因为前几次的教训有点怀疑这是个马甲挖的坑. |
x**********Q
发帖数: 39 | 104 正确不正确是人家自己的决定，跟我们路人甲乙丙丁有啥关系。人家自己家里的事干嘛
非要来这里问，就算你跟楼主说孩子留下来，要真有问题了，你能负责任？
【在 e***e 的大作中提到】
: 普遍不代表就是正确的，就像国内堕胎成风一样，没有缺陷的孩子不也一样被杀掉。
: 楼主做之前怎么不来这里发帖子问问大家意见？
|
m*******1
发帖数: 2194 | 105 她自己做了这种有争议的事情就自己安慰自己好了. 跑来这里寻求支持不是挖坑吗? |
l***y
发帖数: 113 | 106 我本来想 keep quiet.
国内对堕胎的确不怎么当一回事儿，现在国外呆久了，想法已经变了很多。
Anyway, we are not in LZ's shoes....
【在 e***e 的大作中提到】
: 普遍不代表就是正确的，就像国内堕胎成风一样，没有缺陷的孩子不也一样被杀掉。
: 楼主做之前怎么不来这里发帖子问问大家意见？
|
t********1
发帖数: 78 | |
N****O
发帖数: 4202 | 108 I hate myself, because I got really sick when I got pregnant and I didn't
know. I visited a damn stupid doctor who prescribe some medicine to me and I
took them. |
z***b
发帖数: 4667 | 109 bless
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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m********9
发帖数: 2282 | |
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p*********1
发帖数: 198 | 111 big bless. I can't help myself for crying. Be strong, move on. I hope you
will have healthy and smart boy sooner.
【在 d*******s 的大作中提到】
: bless, you will have a healthy baby soon.
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e********t
发帖数: 1865 | 112 我觉得国内因为一胎政策所以对孩子的“完美”性有病态的苛求，导致了很多不负责任
的流产。
事实上兔唇已经不是什么了不得的问题了，只是大部分人生活中很少见到，以为不得了
。我有个朋友的姐姐怀孕得时候就知道孩子是兔唇，立刻找好医生，出生不久就手术，
之后可能还要再做几次手术。我看过这孩子三岁照片，几乎看不出什么。不过以后换牙
后矫正比别得孩子复杂。我这个朋友不是中国人，说起来很坦然。
我本来不想写这个，免得给楼主添堵，但是还是想给大家提供一些信息，现代科学进步
迅速，很多疾病可以接近治愈。生命来之不易，做决定要慎重。 |
w***s
发帖数: 475 | 113 bless and cmft. move on, mm. life will be bright ag.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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d**w
发帖数: 14889 | 114 Well, you didn't lose him. You chose to give him up. But the choice is
yours which we should all respect. You will be a great mother one day.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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e******6
发帖数: 134 | 115 pat pat....
I feel sorry for your loss...can't help crying while reading your article..
Be strong and you'll have a healthy and lovely baby soon... |
c**********0
发帖数: 836 | 116 当然不行。这是病人的义务，医生没有义务检查的。每次医生给我开药都问我有没有可
能怀孕，得到
肯定回答才开药。我有一次做x-ray前说不确定，医生都不肯让我做x-ray,直到我说我
相信我没怀孕
然后填了个表才让我做。 这件事LZ不应该怪医生，只是刚好碰上了。
didn't
and I
【在 N****O 的大作中提到】
: I hate myself, because I got really sick when I got pregnant and I didn't
: know. I visited a damn stupid doctor who prescribe some medicine to me and I
: took them.
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m****a
发帖数: 287 | 117 看到这个帖子，不得不上来说几句。lz之所以发这个帖子，不是想博得大家的同情和理
解的，不是说她的做法必须要得到大家的承认，只是想把她的经历写出来。我非常的理
解，因为我有一个唐氏女儿也是这样走的。年轻的时候不懂事，怀孕的时候不注意，或
许有些时候，你注意了还是会有一大堆的问题，兴许就是运气不好的原因。初为人父母
，当然希望自己的孩子是全世界最完美的孩子。lz做了决定也是考虑了各方面的因素，
而且肯定考虑了自己的承受能力，不管是心理上的还是家庭方面的。我的情况当时在文
学城发了一篇帖子，主要是想告诉需要帮助的姐妹，有类似情况，可以参考我的步骤，
结果挨了一堆板砖，有的人竟然就差说XX。我当时好伤心，再没有去过文学城的宝宝版
。读者的祝福自然很感动，但是那些不入耳的话更伤心，也许旁人看起来大概没有那么
严重，其实当事人已经非常自责了。我希望既不是医生，也不是当事人的读者，发帖子
的时候量力发言，希望你们的发言不要给别人带来负担，能给承受丧子之痛的lz带来些
许安慰才是大家应该做的事情。bless！好好休养一段时间再试试，可爱的宝宝会来的
。 |
x**********Q
发帖数: 39 | 118 我觉得人在经历了一些波折痛苦之后更容易理解别人的难处，可能也更宽容些。通常而
言，事事顺利的人不太能够理解这些。
lz发这样的帖子未必是想博得大家的同情和理解，可能是觉得有这么一件事堵在胸口难
受，写出来也算是一种感情上的宣泄吧。
【在 m****a 的大作中提到】
: 看到这个帖子，不得不上来说几句。lz之所以发这个帖子，不是想博得大家的同情和理
: 解的，不是说她的做法必须要得到大家的承认，只是想把她的经历写出来。我非常的理
: 解，因为我有一个唐氏女儿也是这样走的。年轻的时候不懂事，怀孕的时候不注意，或
: 许有些时候，你注意了还是会有一大堆的问题，兴许就是运气不好的原因。初为人父母
: ，当然希望自己的孩子是全世界最完美的孩子。lz做了决定也是考虑了各方面的因素，
: 而且肯定考虑了自己的承受能力，不管是心理上的还是家庭方面的。我的情况当时在文
: 学城发了一篇帖子，主要是想告诉需要帮助的姐妹，有类似情况，可以参考我的步骤，
: 结果挨了一堆板砖，有的人竟然就差说XX。我当时好伤心，再没有去过文学城的宝宝版
: 。读者的祝福自然很感动，但是那些不入耳的话更伤心，也许旁人看起来大概没有那么
: 严重，其实当事人已经非常自责了。我希望既不是医生，也不是当事人的读者，发帖子
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m*******1
发帖数: 2194 | 119 "年轻的时候不懂事，怀孕的时候不注意，或
许有些时候，你注意了还是会有一大堆的问题，兴许就是运气不好的原因。"
主要是运气和遗传， 注意不注意的影响非常小.
写出来就是给人评的, 有不爱听的也没办法． 如果有误导的, 指出来才是真正帮助
人. |
m****a
发帖数: 287 | |
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g****t
发帖数: 945 | 121 well said!
【在 m****a 的大作中提到】
: 写出来就是给人评的, 有不爱听的也没办法．
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N****O
发帖数: 4202 | 122 你怎么知道这个医生问了lz有没有怀孕？
【在 c**********0 的大作中提到】
: 当然不行。这是病人的义务，医生没有义务检查的。每次医生给我开药都问我有没有可
: 能怀孕，得到
: 肯定回答才开药。我有一次做x-ray前说不确定，医生都不肯让我做x-ray,直到我说我
: 相信我没怀孕
: 然后填了个表才让我做。 这件事LZ不应该怪医生，只是刚好碰上了。
:
: didn't
: and I
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s*******e
发帖数: 24 | 123 Ok, We see that the amniotic fluid AFP is ELEVATED. However, is it above 2.
0MoM ?
I also believe that no doctor strongly suggest you take the D&E. They did
not make it clear becasue they just do not want to take the responsibility. |
c****8
发帖数: 807 | 124
done
I cried too, I can't image this is a real story.
Bless Lz have next health baby very soon. Please forgetting this and be
happy that is very important to your pregnancy.
【在 m*a 的大作中提到】
: i'm sorry for your loss. your post made me cry. but everything has been done
: , so don't blame yourself too much. the baby will be safe and happy in
: heaven. best wishes!
:
: baby
: know
: somehow
: his
: believe
: didn
|
s***y
发帖数: 3042 | 125 同意你的说法，23周了，都可以踢妈妈肚子了。好惨的小孩子啊，但是生出来，也许也是受罪。不过我觉得楼主也很惨，这个决定她一定很痛苦。这事情遇到谁都是个悲剧。
【在 h****o 的大作中提到】
: 看了你的帖子真的让我震惊不已！做医生10多年了还是第一次听说有父母会因为唇腭裂
: 就把孩子打掉的！真的不敢相信这是真的！生下这个孩子可能会增加你们的一些负担，
: 但是在现有的医疗条件下，你的小孩还是有极大的可能能够正常的成长，正常的学习和
: 工作。即便小孩真的是神经管裂，出生后仍然可以有很多的方法去修补和处理。尽管你
: 的帖子写的很煽情，你们可能也是真的很内疚和自责，但我还是要说像你们这样轻而易
: 举的就把一个生命给扼杀了真的是很无知和不负责任！不过还是希望你们能从这个可悲
: 的错误中走出来，不要过于自责和悲伤，更不要留下心理阴影。好好的去爱你们的下一
: 个孩子吧。
:
: baby
|
d*****f
发帖数: 4 | 126 同情你们，更替这个孩子伤心。
羊水检查结果出来之前你们就因为孩子的唇裂想要放弃他。这个自我矛盾的检查和医生
的不置可否，给了你们想要看到的证据，让你们少点负罪感而已。孩子即使踢你终于还
是没有争取到继续生存的权利。不完美就注定被放弃。
Anyway，多说无益，希望你们从伤痛中早日走出来，能有健康的孩子。 |
o*******p
发帖数: 722 | 127 yeah, your son is lovely but you decided to kill him anyway.
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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o*******p
发帖数: 722 | 128 he is not perfect, but are you perfect?
One doesn't deserve to die just because of imperfection. do you agree?
【在 o*******p 的大作中提到】
: yeah, your son is lovely but you decided to kill him anyway.
:
: baby
: know
: somehow
: his
: believe
: didn
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B******w
发帖数: 1040 | |
c********9
发帖数: 319 | 130 tear... you did the right thing. |
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n*******e
发帖数: 2213 | 131 may your son rest in peace.
it is a language thing. risk << likelihood
baby
know
somehow
his
believe
didn
【在 d***0 的大作中提到】
: I lost my dear son over the weekend. The nightmare all starts when we went
: to our 21 week ultrasound. Both my husband and I are excited to see our baby
: and find out his gender. I'm looking at the screen anxiously and the
: sonogramer told us: it's a boy! I feel so happy at that time because I know
: that my hubby would prefer a boy to be our first one. But somewhere, somehow
: , I have a feeling of uneasiness. Then the sonogramer continues to check his
: face, and body. All in a sudden, I see something,
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c**********0
发帖数: 836 | 132 LZ说她不知道那时候怀孕了，所以不能怪医生。医生不会也没有义务在开药前给病人做
怀孕检查的。而且既然LZ不知道那时候怀孕了，应该没有miss period,这种情况也不一定查得出怀
孕。如果已经miss period,那么LZ在吃药前应该考虑怀孕可能的。一般兔唇发生在LMP后7-9周，
不仅仅药物，很多情况（比如心情或分裂出现细微问题）都有可能导致兔唇。不管怎样，既然LZ已经
选择了不要这个小孩，也不想对这件事评价太多，祝福他下一个小孩健健康康。
【在 N****O 的大作中提到】
: 你怎么知道这个医生问了lz有没有怀孕？
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A******e
发帖数: 3373 | 133 楼主自己做了决定，我们都是看客，同情也好，愤恨也好，P用都没有。也许是坑，也
许是事实。
不过我对这种事情的看法，跟很多人（可能包括我老婆）不太一样。只要是我的小孩，
我不会因为他/她有什么先天的defect就get rid of it。在我看来，那就是父母try to
avoid life inconvenience。如果你知道你的小孩完全健康，但是将来会成为屠夫、
刽子手、卖国贼。。。你会流掉么？Life is not determined
可怜的只有那个baby。RIP |
i*****k
发帖数: 2576 | 134 呵呵。医生见得病人多了，对他们来说，病人就和咱们工作中的PROJECT差不多。想着
治愈率修补率。。。，太多理性，缺少感性上的考虑。
养孩子不是给孩子个生命就完了。认为只要把孩子生命留下比什么都强的人才是不负责
任的。
当然了，这责任本来就是孩子爸妈的，说话的人只需动嘴才不用去负什么责任呢。
【在 g****t 的大作中提到】
: 等你有个兔唇外加可能神经管裂的孩子，你再来大义凛然的批评别人吧。
: 还做医生10多年，头一次听说............... 兔唇打掉孩子的，不是一个两个，很普
: 遍，尤其是在国内。
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i*****k
发帖数: 2576 | 135 支持！
许安慰才是大家应该做的事情。bless！好好休养一段时间再试试，可爱的宝宝会来的
【在 m****a 的大作中提到】
: 看到这个帖子，不得不上来说几句。lz之所以发这个帖子，不是想博得大家的同情和理
: 解的，不是说她的做法必须要得到大家的承认，只是想把她的经历写出来。我非常的理
: 解，因为我有一个唐氏女儿也是这样走的。年轻的时候不懂事，怀孕的时候不注意，或
: 许有些时候，你注意了还是会有一大堆的问题，兴许就是运气不好的原因。初为人父母
: ，当然希望自己的孩子是全世界最完美的孩子。lz做了决定也是考虑了各方面的因素，
: 而且肯定考虑了自己的承受能力，不管是心理上的还是家庭方面的。我的情况当时在文
: 学城发了一篇帖子，主要是想告诉需要帮助的姐妹，有类似情况，可以参考我的步骤，
: 结果挨了一堆板砖，有的人竟然就差说XX。我当时好伤心，再没有去过文学城的宝宝版
: 。读者的祝福自然很感动，但是那些不入耳的话更伤心，也许旁人看起来大概没有那么
: 严重，其实当事人已经非常自责了。我希望既不是医生，也不是当事人的读者，发帖子
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i*****k
发帖数: 2576 | 136 其实我觉得认为胎儿拥有BABY的全部权利的人，应该象某教派一样，不避孕，否则实在
是有点自相矛盾。老天或者上帝给你那么多卵子和精子（主要说卵子了），你结婚了有
机会让它们发展成生命，却把它们处理掉，夺取了他们长成生命的权利，不算是“草歼
生命”吗？
to
【在 A******e 的大作中提到】
: 楼主自己做了决定，我们都是看客，同情也好，愤恨也好，P用都没有。也许是坑，也
: 许是事实。
: 不过我对这种事情的看法，跟很多人（可能包括我老婆）不太一样。只要是我的小孩，
: 我不会因为他/她有什么先天的defect就get rid of it。在我看来，那就是父母try to
: avoid life inconvenience。如果你知道你的小孩完全健康，但是将来会成为屠夫、
: 刽子手、卖国贼。。。你会流掉么？Life is not determined
: 可怜的只有那个baby。RIP
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C********e
发帖数: 329 | |
l******a
发帖数: 247 | 138 忍不住问，这个ID是不是从前的gottingen? 见人就劝abortion那个？宝宝版的
terrorist
【在 g****t 的大作中提到】
: 问别人意见又如何？你们谁养那个孩子么？你们谁自己的孩子是那个样子么？
: 替别人出主意，做决定容易的很，反正不用付出任何代价和责任。
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g********n
发帖数: 251 | 139 Be strong and your son is in heaven now. Take a good rest and When you are
ready be prepared for the next baby.Keep the ultrasound picutre of this baby
boy...Don't cry too much it will hurt your eyes. Get some bed rest... |
