s***7
发帖数: 506 | 1 两个工作机会，A在她那个城市，B离她5小时车程。
A职位离得近的，容易上手，但是方向没前途。和自己未来职业计划越离越远。
B职位，各方面都不错，就是长距，怕感情经不起考验。
感情没到谈婚论嫁那步，自己有点小自私，想找那个距离远的工作。
我感觉自己很爱她，那样不可免几年的长距，又有点犹豫。
请各位给点建议。
谢谢。 |
c*****t
发帖数: 115 | 2 这么点P事都想不清楚，女人跟你不是活受罪吗？
【在 s***7 的大作中提到】
: 两个工作机会，A在她那个城市，B离她5小时车程。
: A职位离得近的，容易上手，但是方向没前途。和自己未来职业计划越离越远。
: B职位，各方面都不错，就是长距，怕感情经不起考验。
: 感情没到谈婚论嫁那步，自己有点小自私，想找那个距离远的工作。
: 我感觉自己很爱她，那样不可免几年的长距，又有点犹豫。
: 请各位给点建议。
: 谢谢。
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f*********e
发帖数: 3037 | 3 Take B, and bring her to B location make her a housewife =P
Win win situation for u. |
w*b
发帖数: 3001 | |
I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 5 B. And if your relationship can't withstand long distance then find someone
else.
【在 s***7 的大作中提到】
: 两个工作机会，A在她那个城市，B离她5小时车程。
: A职位离得近的，容易上手，但是方向没前途。和自己未来职业计划越离越远。
: B职位，各方面都不错，就是长距，怕感情经不起考验。
: 感情没到谈婚论嫁那步，自己有点小自私，想找那个距离远的工作。
: 我感觉自己很爱她，那样不可免几年的长距，又有点犹豫。
: 请各位给点建议。
: 谢谢。
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y********u
发帖数: 394 | |
P****D
发帖数: 11146 | 7 agree!
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】
: Take B, and bring her to B location make her a housewife =P
: Win win situation for u.
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S****9
发帖数: 8108 | 8 未必，过一年LZ或许也会来开这么一个贴：
http://www.mitbbs.com/article_t/Heart/31254289.html
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】
: Take B, and bring her to B location make her a housewife =P
: Win win situation for u.
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L********r
发帖数: 758 | 9 Fundamentally, your post already shows you should pick B. Because, if you
are sincere and serious about this relationship, you should consult with her
. Also the discussion should not be only focused on the pros/cons of your
side.
Since your post only focuses on your side (your career, your promotion, your
emotion), and asks opinions from irrelevant person based on your interests
only, I really don't see what's the point of keeping this non-committed
relationship.
【在 s***7 的大作中提到】
: 两个工作机会，A在她那个城市，B离她5小时车程。
: A职位离得近的，容易上手，但是方向没前途。和自己未来职业计划越离越远。
: B职位，各方面都不错，就是长距，怕感情经不起考验。
: 感情没到谈婚论嫁那步，自己有点小自私，想找那个距离远的工作。
: 我感觉自己很爱她，那样不可免几年的长距，又有点犹豫。
: 请各位给点建议。
: 谢谢。
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s*******d
发帖数: 1079 | 10 当然选B，然后和她商量让她到你那里去。男人如果事业立不起来，女人也很难留住。看这版上多少故事啊。 |
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I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 11 His dilemma is because even though it's non committed right now it may
become committed later if he wouldn't need to do long distance. It is indeed
a very difficult and awkward situation to be in - you can't expect one to
easily give up a great job opportunity when his relationship is still at the
point where it's not clear it'll likely become long term. I think his
question is perfectly legitimate.
her
your
interests
【在 L********r 的大作中提到】
: Fundamentally, your post already shows you should pick B. Because, if you
: are sincere and serious about this relationship, you should consult with her
: . Also the discussion should not be only focused on the pros/cons of your
: side.
: Since your post only focuses on your side (your career, your promotion, your
: emotion), and asks opinions from irrelevant person based on your interests
: only, I really don't see what's the point of keeping this non-committed
: relationship.
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f*********e
发帖数: 3037 | 12 一天才工作9个小时就累成这样了啊。。。。
去年我工作12个小时回家照样做饭吃。。。。
这个男的太挫了！
【在 S****9 的大作中提到】
: 未必，过一年LZ或许也会来开这么一个贴：
: http://www.mitbbs.com/article_t/Heart/31254289.html
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P****D
发帖数: 11146 | 13 你是做什么的？会计？
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】
: 一天才工作9个小时就累成这样了啊。。。。
: 去年我工作12个小时回家照样做饭吃。。。。
: 这个男的太挫了！
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f*********e
发帖数: 3037 | 14 咨询。有啥干啥，valuation也作structure也做compliance也做。
【在 P****D 的大作中提到】
: 你是做什么的？会计？
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s***7
发帖数: 506 | 15 i will consider this one, thanks
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】
: Take B, and bring her to B location make her a housewife =P
: Win win situation for u.
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s***7
发帖数: 506 | 16 no brainer, she will insist that i go for choice B.
but what is the true feeling? she won't tell, and i will never know.
her
your
interests
【在 L********r 的大作中提到】
: Fundamentally, your post already shows you should pick B. Because, if you
: are sincere and serious about this relationship, you should consult with her
: . Also the discussion should not be only focused on the pros/cons of your
: side.
: Since your post only focuses on your side (your career, your promotion, your
: emotion), and asks opinions from irrelevant person based on your interests
: only, I really don't see what's the point of keeping this non-committed
: relationship.
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s***7
发帖数: 506 | 17 exactly, you understand my situation better,
maybe you'd been in that situation before,
thanks buddy!
indeed
the
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】
: His dilemma is because even though it's non committed right now it may
: become committed later if he wouldn't need to do long distance. It is indeed
: a very difficult and awkward situation to be in - you can't expect one to
: easily give up a great job opportunity when his relationship is still at the
: point where it's not clear it'll likely become long term. I think his
: question is perfectly legitimate.
:
: her
: your
: interests
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c*****t
发帖数: 115 | 18 Your reply makes sense.
There are a million ways to solve the issue,
pick A and keep looking for jobs nearby her location
pick B and persuade GF to look for jobs nearby his location
Both go to a third city
Even if GF stays in A and LZ goes to B, things might still work out later
...
Selfish people think they compromise for other people, ...
Even if anyone provides a solution, that is just his solution and not LZ's.
Everything changes constantly, no one can guarantee the future, the bottom
line i
【在 L********r 的大作中提到】
: Fundamentally, your post already shows you should pick B. Because, if you
: are sincere and serious about this relationship, you should consult with her
: . Also the discussion should not be only focused on the pros/cons of your
: side.
: Since your post only focuses on your side (your career, your promotion, your
: emotion), and asks opinions from irrelevant person based on your interests
: only, I really don't see what's the point of keeping this non-committed
: relationship.
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L********r
发帖数: 758 | 19 So, you haven't discussed it with her yet. Why don't you expend the time
that you used to seek the opinions of the irrelevant to communicate with her
to find out her true feelings?
If her true opinion is valued so far down the priority list even for you to
spend time to seek out, I don't see any potential of this relation going to
phase II.
【在 s***7 的大作中提到】
: no brainer, she will insist that i go for choice B.
: but what is the true feeling? she won't tell, and i will never know.
:
: her
: your
: interests
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L********r
发帖数: 758 | 20 My comment is regarding the effort that LZ made is not toward making it a
long term, otherwise he would have discussed it with the girl before he
tried to make any uninformed decision based on the opinions of the
irrelevant.
Even as you said, the decision lies on the possibility of making this
relationship long term, shouldn't LZ spend more time discussing it with the
girl to evaluate the probability. There is so much dis/mis-communication
going on, why spend the valuable time on getting the irr
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】
: His dilemma is because even though it's non committed right now it may
: become committed later if he wouldn't need to do long distance. It is indeed
: a very difficult and awkward situation to be in - you can't expect one to
: easily give up a great job opportunity when his relationship is still at the
: point where it's not clear it'll likely become long term. I think his
: question is perfectly legitimate.
:
: her
: your
: interests
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I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 21 I agree that LZ should definitely discuss this with his GF (and probably he
hasn't but is planning to) but I don't agree that he's wasting his time here
. Otherwise why does this board even exist? Pretty much all the questions
asked here are related to relationships and since it should only be between
the 2 people who are involved why are we chatting here at all?
People wanted to get suggestions from others and sometimes getting ideas
from strangers who are not biased could actually help. LZ per
【在 L********r 的大作中提到】
: My comment is regarding the effort that LZ made is not toward making it a
: long term, otherwise he would have discussed it with the girl before he
: tried to make any uninformed decision based on the opinions of the
: irrelevant.
: Even as you said, the decision lies on the possibility of making this
: relationship long term, shouldn't LZ spend more time discussing it with the
: girl to evaluate the probability. There is so much dis/mis-communication
: going on, why spend the valuable time on getting the irr
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I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 22 Yep...I would imagine she'd tell you to go for B too even if she didn't want
you to. Any reasonable person would give that answer.
【在 s***7 的大作中提到】
: no brainer, she will insist that i go for choice B.
: but what is the true feeling? she won't tell, and i will never know.
:
: her
: your
: interests
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d**z
发帖数: 267 | 23 已婚的A，其他的B
【在 s***7 的大作中提到】
: 两个工作机会，A在她那个城市，B离她5小时车程。
: A职位离得近的，容易上手，但是方向没前途。和自己未来职业计划越离越远。
: B职位，各方面都不错，就是长距，怕感情经不起考验。
: 感情没到谈婚论嫁那步，自己有点小自私，想找那个距离远的工作。
: 我感觉自己很爱她，那样不可免几年的长距，又有点犹豫。
: 请各位给点建议。
: 谢谢。
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