f****o
发帖数: 24 | 1 Me and my LD, one in east coast, the other is in west coast. I'm a AP, he is
in a big company. We have two kids. My job is in a big city. My LD has been
looking for a job here, but no luck yet.
Now there is a faculty job opening (that I could apply for) located at 90
miles away from where my LD is. The problem is that this job is in a very
small town. LD will almost never be able to find a job in this town.
I'm struggling whether I should apply for it. I get the job, we will still
not be daily |
g***e
发帖数: 508 | 2 stay where you are, and your ld keeps looking...
is
been
where
【在 f****o 的大作中提到】
: Me and my LD, one in east coast, the other is in west coast. I'm a AP, he is
: in a big company. We have two kids. My job is in a big city. My LD has been
: looking for a job here, but no luck yet.
: Now there is a faculty job opening (that I could apply for) located at 90
: miles away from where my LD is. The problem is that this job is in a very
: small town. LD will almost never be able to find a job in this town.
: I'm struggling whether I should apply for it. I get the job, we will still
: not be daily
|
f****o
发帖数: 24 | 3 But it's really tough to be separated with two kids. That's why I'm thinking
maybe it's better to be able to see them weekly. I know many couples on the
board works apart. I remember that somebody said if within 500 miles, it's
OK. I would like to know how do they feel by seeing each other weekly. Is
that similar to a normal life? Will the kids be comfortable?
【在 g***e 的大作中提到】
: stay where you are, and your ld keeps looking...
:
: is
: been
: where
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L***s
发帖数: 9258 | 4 孩子肯定不觉得comfortable。no doubt about it... 经过7个月之后我觉得it won't
work...
thinking
the
s
【在 f****o 的大作中提到】
: But it's really tough to be separated with two kids. That's why I'm thinking
: maybe it's better to be able to see them weekly. I know many couples on the
: board works apart. I remember that somebody said if within 500 miles, it's
: OK. I would like to know how do they feel by seeing each other weekly. Is
: that similar to a normal life? Will the kids be comfortable?
|
g***e
发帖数: 508 | 5 ultimate solution, either you or your ld stay home.
thinking
the
s
【在 f****o 的大作中提到】
: But it's really tough to be separated with two kids. That's why I'm thinking
: maybe it's better to be able to see them weekly. I know many couples on the
: board works apart. I remember that somebody said if within 500 miles, it's
: OK. I would like to know how do they feel by seeing each other weekly. Is
: that similar to a normal life? Will the kids be comfortable?
|
a**e
发帖数: 5794 | 6 如果你学过地理的话就会知道，东西海岸之间的距离远大于90英里。
is
been
where
【在 f****o 的大作中提到】
: Me and my LD, one in east coast, the other is in west coast. I'm a AP, he is
: in a big company. We have two kids. My job is in a big city. My LD has been
: looking for a job here, but no luck yet.
: Now there is a faculty job opening (that I could apply for) located at 90
: miles away from where my LD is. The problem is that this job is in a very
: small town. LD will almost never be able to find a job in this town.
: I'm struggling whether I should apply for it. I get the job, we will still
: not be daily
|
j**l
发帖数: 337 | 7 不一定, 万一LZ在巴拿马呢.
【在 a**e 的大作中提到】
: 如果你学过地理的话就会知道，东西海岸之间的距离远大于90英里。
:
: is
: been
: where
|
f****o
发帖数: 24 | 8 Well, it's true. But we want to try one more year because LD might be able
to find something good for him after the job market gets better.
Glad to know that 90-mile won't do any good than west/east coast. Then I don
't even need to try.
Actually, our back-up solution is 1) I give up my tenure-track career and
work part-time at LD's location (mid-sized city); 2) LD takes some lower-
level job at my location.
I understand we shouldn't separate for family point of view. But everyone
has the right
【在 g***e 的大作中提到】
: ultimate solution, either you or your ld stay home.
:
: thinking
: the
: s
|
s****l
发帖数: 156 | 9 But it is kind of sad to see that you are maxing your career at the cost
of living apart (with two kids). This is so similar to a post from
yesterday. It must be hard. I wish you guys can reunite soon.
able
don
and
lower-
everyone
【在 f****o 的大作中提到】
: Well, it's true. But we want to try one more year because LD might be able
: to find something good for him after the job market gets better.
: Glad to know that 90-mile won't do any good than west/east coast. Then I don
: 't even need to try.
: Actually, our back-up solution is 1) I give up my tenure-track career and
: work part-time at LD's location (mid-sized city); 2) LD takes some lower-
: level job at my location.
: I understand we shouldn't separate for family point of view. But everyone
: has the right
|
g***e
发帖数: 508 | 10 Considering the job security, it's wise for your ld to move over to your
place.
don
【在 f****o 的大作中提到】
: Well, it's true. But we want to try one more year because LD might be able
: to find something good for him after the job market gets better.
: Glad to know that 90-mile won't do any good than west/east coast. Then I don
: 't even need to try.
: Actually, our back-up solution is 1) I give up my tenure-track career and
: work part-time at LD's location (mid-sized city); 2) LD takes some lower-
: level job at my location.
: I understand we shouldn't separate for family point of view. But everyone
: has the right
|
f****o
发帖数: 24 | 11 Every friend of us is saying this. But I would feel more comfortable to
sacrifice my career because LD is "he" not "she".
It's sad to be apart with kids, but most friends said that what we are doing
is to make the kids' future more secured.
【在 g***e 的大作中提到】
: Considering the job security, it's wise for your ld to move over to your
: place.
:
: don
|
h********y
发帖数: 44 | 12 stay where you are. Tenure-track AP typically only has one chance to move
around, considering your tenure clock, reference, etc. If you move to the
small town, it will be harder for you to jump out of there. |
