u*****a
发帖数: 6276 | 1 I found the following comment in the above-identified link helpful:
SW12345 • 5 months ago
Hi NM – I am truly sorry for the disappointment and doubt your son must
feel and the pain no doubt you endure as a parent wishing only happiness for
her child. I hope the below helps:
I was a college tour guide at Yale. I received many questions like yours.
What does my child have to do to secure admission? What types of
achievements does Yale value most? How could they not select my child – he/
sh... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 480 | 2 看这篇文章：
http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2014/09/01/friends-israel
有点长，一句话总结：胡萝卜加大棒，各议员的竞选经费10～15%来自犹太人，不听话
，下次对手会拿到这钱，差额就是20到30%！
This was a daunting challenge. Jews made up less than three per cent of the
American population, concentrated in nine states, and they voted
overwhelmingly Democratic. How could AIPAC, with such a small base, become a
political force in both parties and in every state?
Dine launched a grass-roots campaign, sending young staff members around the
country to search for ... 阅读全帖 |
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g*****A
发帖数: 14950 | 3 西雅圖信望愛靈糧堂Bread of Life Christian Church協辦
在愛中一起成長 Growing in Love講座
講師簡介 郭淵棐，劉永齡夫婦George & Linda Kuo皆於費城聖經大學獲基督徒輔導碩
士。經常應邀各地作講座，幫助個人及夫妻在有關婚姻家庭及人際關係問題上的教導。
郭老師從事化學新藥研究二十八年後，專心從事婚姻家庭輔導。劉老師以前的專業是英
語和教育。
他們夫婦藉著在美國居住四十餘年的經驗及流利的中英文和雙文化背景， 來幫助和教
導個人，社區， 或教會團体。藉著關愛事工的心，幫助那些身心靈受創傷的人得到醫
治及釋放。
他們曾在美國，中國，臺灣，馬來西亞等地作婚姻，家庭和關懷的講座。近年來常在美
國各地，大陸及台灣帶領夫妻成長營。他們教導課程包括：認識自己 (自我價值，自我
形像)，探討原生家庭，性教育(從嬰孩到老年)，夫妻親密，溝通與解決衝突的學習與
操練，婚外情的預防及處理，性病的了解與預防，憂傷與饒恕，關懷訓練等等。近年來
，他們下了許多工夫接受有關夫妻性親密的專業訓練，目前經常應邀到世界各地教導，
及傳播婚姻中健康平衡的愛與性觀念。... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 13571 | 4 The Rules of Relationships
By Hara Estroff Marano
eDiets Contributor
[ Note: a bit long but worth reading :) ]
Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved. Yet people have much
trouble doing so.
It’s clear from the many letters I get that lots of folks have no idea what
a healthy relationship even looks like. Because I care about these things,
and care about the environments children grow in, I’m using this space as
an attempt to remedy the problem -- again.
From many sources and many |
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c*******o
发帖数: 5387 | 5 【 以下文字转载自 Reader 讨论区 】
发信人: wonderlich (左岸，遁去), 信区: Reader
标 题: 莫言 讲故事的人
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Dec 7 12:27:27 2012, 美东)
Nobel Lecture
7 December, 2012
Storytellers
Distinguished members of the Swedish Academy, Ladies and Gentlemen:
Through the mediums of television and the Internet, I imagine that everyone
here has at least a nodding acquaintance with far-off Northeast Gaomi
Township. You may have seen my ninety-year-old father, as well as my
brothers, my sister, my wife and my daughter, even my... 阅读全帖 |
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b*******o
发帖数: 832 | 6
我擦你这一说真是西斯空寂啊......
本来我是想一张抓拍而已不能说明问题, 结果去google了一下, 居然没有一张他们俩
show intimacy的... Tom Brady亲Gisele Bundchen有眼镜看别处的, 但是下一张立马
就是两人申请深情款款对视.
而且之前似乎也是你的理论吧, 一个软糖包装工要找胡子的话, 一定得是super tasty
exotic hot的那种(某巴西名模是不是也身中四枪了 一般QB的老婆都是白肤金发高中甜
心或者妻儿离德型号, 从邵步到谭内山, 从唐若墨到(even)马迪艾, 甚至连二度性侵犯
人罗二强都是这口.... 呀不能再说了我还跟人打了赌说he definitely does not
packs fudge来着... |
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E******n
发帖数: 6647 | 7 我看发的怀孕指南上是鼓励孕期sex来保持intimacy的
不过不要violent sex就可以了 |
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p*********l
发帖数: 26270 | 8 床头吵架床尾和，这中间的过程不是简单的从床头挪到床尾吧？
首先，工具跟人不一样，为什么英文叫intimacy呢？因为它的确能让两个人更intimate
，是重要的bonding方式，也是别的不能替代的。＂感情好＂，那感情也是慢慢积累起
来的，亲密的感觉也是一次一次亲密接触里慢慢产生的。DIY永远是the last resort，
人的本性是渴望被爱被需要的。因为被爱而更爱对方，因为被需要而更需要对方，因为满足对方而感到更大的满足，这是一个重要的帮助加深感情的正反馈过程。
其次，因为使用工具是纯机械的，没有intimate的感觉，没有被爱的感觉，人出于本能
容易被其他异性吸引，是婚姻的隐患。
第三，一方自己用工具，对方不见得能接受，自己不行所以能用工具帮助对方的就更少。
最后，无能的那一方因为自己的无能，通常会有很大的心理阴影，容易变得自卑敏感，
故意回避对方；另一方因为不满足也容易焦躁挑剔，两个人的关系就不容易协调，往往后来连基本的拉手亲吻拥抱都剩不下了，走在路上都隔得远远的。
忘了在哪里看到的了：性和谐的couple不见得能幸福，但是不和谐的couple几乎都感到
不幸福。
我那个性... 阅读全帖 |
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p*********l
发帖数: 26270 | 9 source:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flirting
"Flirting or coquetry is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving
verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to
another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other
person. "
Types of flirting:
- Banter
- Blowing a kiss
- Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during
conversation
- Coyness, affectedly shy or modest, marked by cute, coquettish, or artful
playfulness (e.g. pick... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 26270 | 10 source:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flirting
"Flirting or coquetry is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving
verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to
another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other
person. "
Types of flirting:
- Banter
- Blowing a kiss
- Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during
conversation
- Coyness, affectedly shy or modest, marked by cute, coquettish, or artful
playfulness (e.g. pick... 阅读全帖 |
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c****e
发帖数: 695 | 11 http://liusu2009.blog.jiaoyou8.com
分类：随笔小记 创建于：2012-01-25 被查看：22次 评论
这个世界真是什么样的人都有，以前不离婚的时候不知道，现在这些人都跳出来了。在
湾区还有大把匿名男士在婚姻里，享受着老婆烧的热腾腾的饭菜，儿女绕膝，还要穿个
马甲到处撒网。真是无耻加无聊。看看下面的email.
On Wed, Jan 25, 2012 at 11:05 AM, wrote:
Hi,
I don't have kids, but I am still in a relationship, it is not going
well. I'd like to be honest up front and not to mislead you. We seem to have
common background and interests, I think we can have lots of fun together,
but I am not ready for something that l... 阅读全帖 |
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n**d
发帖数: 164 | 12 Good read!
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870343950457611608
By KEVIN HELLIKER
As the wife of an endurance athlete, Caren Waxman wakes up alone every
morning, including holidays.
"Mother's Day really upset me," says the Rockleigh, N.J., mother of three,
age 47, whose husband leaves before dawn each morning for hours of exercise.
In May, he will wish her a happy Mother's Day from Utah, where he will
compete in a triathlon.
More
"It's selfish," concedes her husband, Jordan Waxman, 46... 阅读全帖 |
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g**********g
发帖数: 18118 | 13 Believe it or not.
Survey: Couples Who Run Together Have More Sex
Celebrate National Running Day with more than just a jog in the park.
If you’re celebrating National Running Day with a jog this evening, don’t
leave home without your significant other. Running as a couple can step up
your sex life, according to a Brooks Running survey of 1,000 adults ages 18
and older who run at least once per week.
The report revealed that 66 percent of runners believe they have more sex
when they run with thei... 阅读全帖 |
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A*********r
发帖数: 8271 | 14 A soulmate or soul mate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and
natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or
compatibility. |
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发帖数: 8271 | 15 MONTHLY OVERVIEW:
Open your arms and trust-fall into the great unknown. March is a powder keg
of incredible opportunity just waiting for you to set it off. Six planets
will visit Pisces, your tenth house of success and long-term goals. On March
4th, there will be five heavenly bodies here, including your ruler Mercury.
Ambitious Mars and changemaker Uranus also join the party, along with the
bold Sun and a new moon. You could make a swift departure from one line of
work, or be offered a new oppo... 阅读全帖 |
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j**n
发帖数: 13789 | 16 Very organized and orderly, the Virgo man is afraid that his intimacy will
be violated and his discretion and bashfulness make him terrify at the
thought he might be expected to manifest his love through gestures he does
not feel he can make. Besides that, he is the practical and economical kind
and love could mean waste of time and energy. All these things make the
Virgo sign provide the largest number of bachelors.
However, as often happens, the Virgo man looks in his partner for the things
he... 阅读全帖 |
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j*******s
发帖数: 498 | 21 好几个满月，就从来没有平复过。
zz
Full Moon in Scorpio Horoscopes
We're caught in a tug-of-war during May's Full Moon
Although Full Moons are normally turning points, we won't be changing our
minds too quickly because the unwavering Scorpio Full Moon on May 3, 2015,
stands firm, opposite the persistent Taurus Sun. We are caught in the middle
of a tug-of-war between Taurus' need for simplicity and Scorpio's
fascination with complexity.
We may be required to recheck our facts if we have jumped to an incorrect
co... 阅读全帖 |
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k*****e
发帖数: 1 | 22 You go, my girl. Awesome work! Sweet wonderful moments captured on this
joyful union by you! As always, all the natural and unpretentious
expressions totally shows all the intimacy and happiness from within. I
should look forward to having my happy moments to be captured by you! |
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j*a
发帖数: 14423 | 23 any tradeoff of intimacy? |
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wh
发帖数: 141625 | 24 问问门德尔松算浪漫还是古典呀？还是中间过渡的？我其实吃不准我感觉最通俗的是不
是仲夏夜之梦的片段，里面还用了他的string symphony no. 5 in b-flat major，用
了其中的andante和presto两段；还用了song without words op. 109 for piano and
cello. 说不定我觉得通俗的是后面这几个作品。记不清是哪个了。他十七岁就能创作
经典作品，莫扎特年纪更小；画画、写作都没有那么小而有成熟作品的，音乐创作不那
么需要经验积累、更讲天赋天才吗？他们去世都好早啊，就像英国那几个浪漫主义诗人
，一个比一个死得年轻。浪漫主义就是命不长。
还有我发现，音乐评论真难看懂啊。我把音乐系学生写的介绍抄在这里，看得我似懂非
懂，术语很多。文学评论好像没那么难看懂。艺术（音乐、画画、舞蹈等）评论可能都
比文学评论更专业、更难懂：
……He originally composed the Overture as a piano duet before orchestrating
it in 1827. After a brief sequ... 阅读全帖 |
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d********e
发帖数: 419 | 25 i had never seen same-sex couple dance live or on video until one day i
stumped into some youtube clips of the chicago gay olmplics. it was so cool.
i especially like when they switch roles; i was blown away when i first
noticed one couple doing it but then realized it's a common practice:)
in principle i support gay rights and even marriage if that's what they want
. but i have to confess that i get goose bumps when i see too much intimacy
displayed. our brains are so wired by the norm. |
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M*****e
发帖数: 1827 | 26 can you post the link of chicago gay olympics?
want to watch that for quite a while
cool.
want
intimacy |
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x**i
发帖数: 113 | 27 same-sex v-waltz is very common in college social dancing party
cool.
want
intimacy |
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a****r
发帖数: 421 | 28 Dancing is of intimacy. Since this guy is not a professional dancer, there
is no reason to spend more time exclusively with a girl instead of his bf. |
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N****n
发帖数: 6571 | 29 按你这个说法，太幸福和太不幸的，都写不出好作品了。------那只有我们这些在座
诸君，不太幸福也难说不幸的人，才有可能写出好作品。-----这个有点搞笑了。
比如Woolf，早年经历性侵犯，此后一生难脱这个影响-------就是intimacy的被剥
夺。丧失这个，令人失去了最底线的(safe-net level)的安全感，不断精神崩溃，
但是，还是写出了很多好作品。 |
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wh
发帖数: 141625 | 30 另外再问问：门德尔松算古典到浪漫的过渡人吗？我其实吃不准我感觉最通俗的是不
是仲夏夜之梦的片段，里面还用了他的string symphony no. 5 in b-flat major，用
了其中的andante和presto两段；还用了song without words op. 109 for piano and
cello. 说不定我觉得通俗的是后面这几个作品。记不清是哪个了。他十七岁就能创作
经典作品，莫扎特年纪更小；画画、写作都没有那么小而有成熟作品的，音乐创作不那
么需要经验积累、更讲天赋天才吗？他们去世都好早啊，就像英国那几个浪漫主义诗人
，一个比一个死得年轻。浪漫主义就是命不长。
还有我发现，音乐评论真难看懂啊。我把音乐系学生写的介绍抄在这里，看得我似懂非
懂，术语很多。文学评论好像没那么难看懂。艺术（音乐、画画、舞蹈等）评论可能都
比文学评论更专业、更难懂：
……He originally composed the Overture as a piano duet before orchestrating
it in 1827. After a brief seque... 阅读全帖 |
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b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 31 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lev%C3%A9e_%28ceremony%29
Lever ("rising"), adopted in English as levée—initially the simple act of
getting up in the morning—has traditionally been a daily moment of intimacy
and accessibility to a monarch or leader. In Einhard's Life of Charlemagne
the author recounts the Emperor's practice, when he was dressing and putting
on his shoes, to invite his friends to come in, and in case of a dispute
brought to his attention, "he would order the disputants to be brought... 阅读全帖 |
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l*r
发帖数: 79569 | 32 你大清起床先得去给皇太后请安
of
intimacy
Charlemagne
putting |
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a*********7
发帖数: 30080 | 33 好累啊。。。有这功夫多赖会床比什么不强？
of
intimacy
Charlemagne
putting |
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b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 34 一个道理吧。法国人其实很像中国人的……
你大清起床先得去给皇太后请安
of
intimacy
Charlemagne
putting |
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b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 35 仪式么，都这样……
formal dinner吃得那个累，小心翼翼的，Protocol太多了，能推就要推……
好累啊。。。有这功夫多赖会床比什么不强？
of
intimacy
Charlemagne
putting |
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N***2
发帖数: 53 | 36 Amy Tan曾经在Joy Luck Club一书里曾经提到她母亲和她的一段对话，她母亲对她
说：“I never expect, just hope.”。每一对母女都有一种特殊的关系，无论是一种
根的延续，还是一种性格的撞击，都只有她们自己才能体会。这种关系会在时间和空间
的变化中越拉扯越紧密。当然，每段关系都有一段特殊的背景，当当事人分享自己的故
事的时候，旁观者当然也只有把自己放到当事人的背景下去理解才会有更深的体会。
就喜福会里提到的四对华裔母女，她们的关系也在美国的环境下改变着。那些母亲
有着不同的过去，她们中有人逃婚，有人被强奸，有人在逃难中遗失了自己的孩子，有
人看着自己母亲自杀，不论她们曾经的命运在她们的性格中留下了怎样的痕迹，她们被
改变后的性格也都在自己的女儿身上得到了延续。在新的环境下，女儿们带着自己的个
性依然经历着那些看似与父辈们不同却同样折磨人的生活，女儿们能否在母女关系的成
长中找到真实的自己从而去获得真正的幸福呢。故事里的母亲最终都赋予女儿更强的生
命力去面对未来。
真正的爱是有伤害的，爱得越深伤害也可能越深，哪怕是母女之间，因为... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 5873 | 38 references。。
发信人: wh (wh), 信区: WebRadio
标 题: Re: 来学习波哥的讲话
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Oct 7 14:07:37 2009, 美东)
他说的原文是这篇，很长：
发信人: iamwhatieat (我吃故我在), 信区: Reader
标 题: Fascinating Fascism
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Oct 1 02:19:18 2009, 美东)
Fascinating Fascism
by Susan Sontag
New York Review of Books
February 6, 1975
republished in:
Under the Sign of Saturn
(New York, 1980), pp. 73-105.
First Exhibit. Here is a book of 126 splendid color photographs by Leni
Riefenstahl, certainly the most ravishing book of phot... 阅读全帖 |
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N****n
发帖数: 6571 | 39 来自主题: LeisureTime版 - 想说说董桥 I am saying that in such events serving the purpose of socialization, Mr.
Englishmen would be deprived of something subtler and more important that
makes for intimacy and the quick give and take of familiar intercourse, in
particular, the idiosyncrasies of their characters. They may become awkward
and self-conscious, acting with an affection of goodness and simplicity. As
Woolf thereby asked, how far you can trust yourself not to impute, to
distort, to read into them an impression which is fals... 阅读全帖 |
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k****a
发帖数: 7077 | 40 摘录两段评论：
“This film is easily the best film of the franchise so far。。。 Obviously
。。。 in the power of words, and words alone, Before Midnight manages to
become the poster child for screen writing and brilliant storytelling for
years to come. The film doesn't take any cheap shots with every scene
constructed from real emotion and feeling incredibly authentic and genuine.
There are long takes for the viewer to be present whether it's in an airport
conversation between Jesse and Hank or at a lunch wi... 阅读全帖 |
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b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 41 那些只是fan吧。A groupie is a person who seeks emotional and sexual intimacy
with a musician or other celebrity or public figure.
groupie要fxxk band memeber才行啊……
Groupie们来了。。。香港真得完全被大陆占领了啊。
“按照我演唱会的老规矩，我弹，你们来唱”
“我们是正规演出好吗”
http://youtu.be/hhZA15n6YjU |
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l******m
发帖数: 31446 | 42 You never know...
intimacy |
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b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 43 you never know的东西太多了哈，一大群人里面啥人都有，但是在这里也只能叫做fan
，不能叫做groupie……
You never know...
intimacy |
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N****n
发帖数: 6571 | 44 阿？ 我怎么听说宝玉还是喜欢和黛玉有physical intimacy的。比如说："若共你多情
小姐同鸳帐，怎舍得叠被铺床。' ----------形式哪有这么重要？ 重要的是看那一
份心吧。 |
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N****n
发帖数: 6571 | 45 阿？ 我怎么听说宝玉还是喜欢和黛玉有physical intimacy的。比如说："若共你多情
小姐同鸳帐，怎舍得叠被铺床。' ----------形式哪有这么重要？ 重要的是看那一
份心吧。 |
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M*****e
发帖数: 11621 | 46 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
volontaire (volontaire) 于 (Sun Dec 22 11:47:31 2013, 美东) 提到:
说它经典是因为，曹雪芹在红楼梦里说，情产生的过程，“既悦其色，复恋其情”。这
是比较自然的，人本来就是动物，人最先感知的也是一个人生物特征，生物特征的相互
吸引，带来了情感和肉体的交流，然后是各种社会经济现实，决定了最终的关系走向，
李瓶儿和西门庆是情，欲，钱，交织的关系，这种关系也是最真实的男女关系
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charmed (仙境别红尘) 于 (Sun Dec 22 11:55:55 2013, 美东) 提到:
情，欲，钱，交织的关系，的确是最真实的男女关系，不过我就读不进金瓶梅，它太不
风花雪月了，不适合YY。。。
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volontaire (volontaire) 于 (Sun Dec 22 11:59:0... 阅读全帖 |
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a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 47 终于进话题了，。。呵呵。。
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According to Rubin, romantic love is made up of three elements:
1. Attachment: The need to be cared for and be with the other person.
Physical contact and approval are also important components of attachment.
2. Caring: Valuing the other persons happiness and needs as much as your own.
3. Intimacy: Sharing private thoughts, feelings, and desires with the other
person.
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浪漫的爱有这三个元素：
1.相互：需要被照顾，并照顾对方。互相之间有亲密身体接触和认同对方。
2.关心：把对方的幸福价值观当自己的幸福观一样重。
3.亲密：和对方分享个人想法，感受和愿望。
当某些夫妻的婚姻出现情况，从这些... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 48 如果这是浪漫的爱，也就是男女之爱的三个元素，那么手足之爱，朋友之爱呢？
我觉得有些元素是共通的，比如caring. 有些可能被淡化以致没有那么强烈，比如
attachment and intimacy.
楼主问爱情和广义的爱有什么异同点，个人以为最大的区别在attachment，还有是否具
有专一性和排他性。对兄弟姐妹或者挚友，会交流思想分享喜怒哀乐，也会在意对方是
否幸福，但不会很在乎是不是physically跟对方在一起。
所以爱情固然美好，但也因为它的排他性而激发人内心的猜疑和嫉妒，使其同时具有一
定的毁灭性。
own.
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a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 49 终于进话题了，。。呵呵。。
“
According to Rubin, romantic love is made up of three elements:
1. Attachment: The need to be cared for and be with the other person.
Physical contact and approval are also important components of attachment.
2. Caring: Valuing the other persons happiness and needs as much as your own.
3. Intimacy: Sharing private thoughts, feelings, and desires with the other
person.
”
浪漫的爱有这三个元素：
1.相互：需要被照顾，并照顾对方。互相之间有亲密身体接触和认同对方。
2.关心：把对方的幸福价值观当自己的幸福观一样重。
3.亲密：和对方分享个人想法，感受和愿望。
当某些夫妻的婚姻出现情况，从这些... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 50 如果这是浪漫的爱，也就是男女之爱的三个元素，那么手足之爱，朋友之爱呢？
我觉得有些元素是共通的，比如caring. 有些可能被淡化以致没有那么强烈，比如
attachment and intimacy.
楼主问爱情和广义的爱有什么异同点，个人以为最大的区别在attachment，还有是否具
有专一性和排他性。对兄弟姐妹或者挚友，会交流思想分享喜怒哀乐，也会在意对方是
否幸福，但不会很在乎是不是physically跟对方在一起。
所以爱情固然美好，但也因为它的排他性而激发人内心的猜疑和嫉妒，使其同时具有一
定的毁灭性。
own.
other |
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