B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 1 There is a course called Anger Control. Maybe LZ or LZ's hubby should take
one online. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 2 LZ raised a good question: How to maintain a productive, intimate, and
loving relationship with your spouse after a child birth?
Previously you and your partner are enjoying your world of two. Now it
becomes Three, hence, the new problems. New baby demands constant attention
and care, which deprives you of the time for sleep, work, your hubby, and even
yourself. After a long and stressful day, even talking with your loved one
seems to be a torture! A baby is cute, but sometimes the baby could |
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 3 even so, the mental image of a wife beating up her husband is kind of too
funny to invoke much sympathy for the said hubby for me. |
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j**f
发帖数: 7403 | 4 多数都是女人掐人，或者根本不动手，但是动嘴。日复一日，年复一年的精神
折磨。 说男人没出息，说“你看谁谁谁，。。。”，说“后悔当初。。。”，
说男人“懒，馋，吃啥啥没够，干啥啥不行”。。。。。
被女人天天唠叨的男人不少。 其实挺可怜的。：）
even so, the mental image of a wife beating up her husband is kind of too
funny to invoke much sympathy for the said hubby for me. |
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l****7
发帖数: 651 | 5 Same here. I got back from china early this month, has been blue since then.
My parents and relatives are all in china,I really hope some day I will
return to china with my hubby and my baby. |
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p**s
发帖数: 130 | 6 so cute. I have to ask my hubby to see this post! |
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a****l
发帖数: 6431 | 7 Coke可以成瘾 too
in fact, my hubby is. |
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p********a
发帖数: 48 | 8 This is so funny! And I believe it will work. I will show it to my hubby
and try it on my two-year old son tonight...! |
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J**C
发帖数: 31 | 9 have been there. get some help from your hubby.
good luck |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 10 Go home together with your hubby. Not only for the child's sake, but also
for yours! Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. A
functional family should live under one roof and have dinner together on the
same table. |
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c********e
发帖数: 2610 | 11 yes. i agree.
that is the reason why we will take her back very soon.
at that time my healthy situation was not good. my sleep was bad because of
strong depression. my parents and parents-in law's visa was denied in 2008
and 2009.
fortunately, my parents got visa this year and we scheduled the time to take
her back. my hubby and i planned to take her back this year whatever my parents can get the visa or not.
now everything goes smoothly. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 12 A naughty boy? No problem. Enrol him in a sports team or club. He would learn how
to follow rules and be a good team player during games. Otherwise he would miss
all the fun of playing on courts.
If he is too young to enrol in any sports team or club, you and your hubby could
play with him in games. The key is to emphasize the importance of obeying rules
while having fun.
Can he read? Probably not. Then work on it. Because reading would inject
more sense and the notion of responsibility in |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 13 It is very abstract to a young mind. Hence, patience is need for the parent
who try to groom a brilliant kid. I would go on the physical punishment
route too far. It might have dreadful repercussions, not only for you and
your hubby but for the mental state of your child. You might lose the right
to raise your kid if someone reports the beating. When the child is ready,
they will understand the logic and meaning behind math. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 14 You son would become a great MAN under your wings and those of hubby!
I guarantee it. |
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a****l
发帖数: 6431 | 15 pat pat
your hubby has all the good intentions. if you truely feel 公婆 here will
not be helpful, then don't. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 16 Genetic. Both you and your hubby are the slim type, which is a blessing. |
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n**m
发帖数: 463 | 17 yes. I did.
My old son was 15 months while I had my second baby. My son went to daycare
during the day. My hubby took half day off for the first two weeks. He
prepared lunch and dinner in the morning and went to work in the afternoon.
I nursed my baby and took nap with him during the day. I also took care of
my baby for nights. I was brestfeeding him though. After 2 weeks, I cook
dinner myself while putting my baby in swing for a hour. It turned out very
peaceful (better than a lot of people in |
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x**z
发帖数: 2437 | 18 IEEE quote $10/M for my hubby, much cheaper, is this $400K after tax?
How is the rating of IEEE?
Hope it will not go belly up before me. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 20 Ask your hubby to use TT - condom. |
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s****i
发帖数: 2993 | 21 my previous co-worker, god knows how long she has been separate from her
husband. she has a now 12 and a four-year old with her. the 4-year old was
born when hubby's still away. |
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o******y
发帖数: 743 | 22 Try to find something you and your son both like and do it regularly
together. The key point is that you need to spend time with your son, but
not necessarily do certain things (that you don't enjoy). By any means, a
dad needs to spend quality time with his son, especially when the boy grows
older and older. I can see clearly the difference when my son is with me,
and with my hubby. |
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z***a
发帖数: 138 | 23 I do think this daycare staff was not doing her duty professionally. The
incident is bad, but I hope you can find bright thing from it. When you send
your kid to school, to the community and to the society, you want your kid
to learn not only the good things, but also learn to cope with bad things
about this society. One of the bad thing that exists universally is that
there is always mean people around you. Teach your kid both to be nice and
stand tough and strong against mean people.
As to you... 阅读全帖 |
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o**********e
发帖数: 18403 | 24 how about health problems? can you guarantee her life and healthy baby and
supportive hubby and happiness ever after? maybe you can help out if they
run into trouble, adopt her kids if something happens to her?
So
both
will
your |
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g*********9
发帖数: 3528 | 25 Since LZ has not submit 485, your hubby has to match with H1, no matter
whether you have job or not. |
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g*********9
发帖数: 3528 | 26 it is YOU who want to stay there.
1. Let you hubby send her to daycare instead of you.
2. Just drop off the kid, say bye-bye, and leave. |
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B****1
发帖数: 222 | 27 Guji, Thanks so much!
1) Days ago, I noticed that the dark color inside his teeth was kind of "
lighter"(look from front, tongue side is still dark, but I didn't look
tongue side before). I wasn't sure about it. Last night, I asked my hubby to
check and he agreed with me.
Do you think it's a sign of getting better?
2) Also, I feel you think "conservative" in this case is bad, true or false?
That day, I think he noticed my uncertainty about what to do when he gave
me two options. And then about ... 阅读全帖 |
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a****l
发帖数: 6431 | 28 Low fever, no need to panic or blame your hubby.
comfort~ |
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w*****4
发帖数: 3902 | 29 yes, the second one looks better, but my hubby prefers the cheaper one... |
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q****6
发帖数: 837 | 30 my boy is 5.5 yrs old and exact same situation. I was going to post the
subject here and seems you already did for me. In the past I will ask this
question to other moms around me, now I stopped asking as I'm assuming all
the rest of kids in his class are not in that situation any more. Looks like
we have to wait. Ask you hubby when he started be on his own for night
peepee. Maybe it's gene, as for mine it seems is that way. |
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q****6
发帖数: 837 | 31 my boy is 5.5 yrs old and exact same situation. I was going to post the
subject here and seems you already did for me. In the past I will ask this
question to other moms around me, now I stopped asking as I'm assuming all
the rest of kids in his class are not in that situation any more. Looks like
we have to wait. Ask you hubby when he started be on his own for night
peepee. Maybe it's gene, as for mine it seems is that way. |
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w***a
发帖数: 792 | 32 i would say yes. first of all, your hubby will appreciate greatly your work
after these ten days. further more, it's not a long time and one of the kids
is at daycare at daytime. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 33 No need. Just be yourself. Your love to your child (and your hubby) is what
counts.
But if you have a job, you need to adhere to the dress code of your company/
institute.
如今天天蹲实验室回家就围娃转，更不收拾自己了。不过貌似系里其它女同胞衣着也差
不多水平，所以在学校也没觉得怎么。现如今娃上幼儿园了，一看人家白的黑的妈妈们
，多少是化个妆打扮下，衣服也是有些style的。。。自己觉得见绌了，同时也觉得有
压力了－－－不能给娃丢脸呀，虽然娃只有一岁半。另外，人大概都是有些势力的，幼
儿园老师也不例外吧，虽然目前还 没觉得老师对自己有不好的＂另眼相看＂。化妆就
算了，实在是整不来那个。琢磨着该花点时间去淘点�: 路恕�------
上班带娃已经忙的团团转，貌似淘衣服也是费时费力的体力活。穷人，有娃后荷包更瘪
了，贵的原价的不舍的买，只能淘了。
新衣服的频率是多少？大家觉得干净整洁就行了还是... 阅读全帖 |
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q****6
发帖数: 837 | 34 Very confused... You and your hubby got pushed by your parents so became
academically successfuly? -- I'm not asking this. I was asking your elder
kid studying 2 grades ahead. Did your family push him or not push him? If
you did, how did you do? Did you find any negative impact in other areas?
Hope my question is more clear this time... |
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x*****i
发帖数: 4035 | 35 very comforting :)
I'm still waiting for my hubby to grow up after 11 years... |
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L********r
发帖数: 758 | 36 That's some heavy dose of placebo :).
IMHO, the character does not drift far from its origin, unless there is some
life changing experience or stimuli. From what LZ described, her hubby is
somewhat selfish but with a sugar coating. Now the sugar taste is just worn
off by the bitterness of hard work. To be honest, I don't see much of a
solution here. Probably just ride it out, maybe after the hardness passes,
the sweet taste will come back, given that LZ is forgiving. |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 37 If only the hubby realizes how stupid he is!
Maybe he will grow up eventually. That is really my hope.
some
worn |
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y*****g
发帖数: 164 | 38 ai~~ If everyone compromises a little, there might be a solution. Your
hubby sees "自己偷偷哭了好几天了，掉了好几磅" and doesn't do anything?
潇洒 |
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r******i
发帖数: 2662 | 39 in my understanding, it will be you who stay in China with them, right? then
what is the problem? your parents don't feel comfortable being with their
own daughter???
you hubby may be a little overprotective, but your parents are way too
sensitive...
seriously, I trust myself as a parent, but if i become a grandparent someday
, I would rather not hold such a big resposibility of taking care of my
grandchildren all by myself.
好的类型，天下最不怕的事情就是辛苦。 |
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x*******g
发帖数: 1363 | 40 (can't type in Chinese at work) -- in fact, I totally agree with you. As i
mentioend, I even proposed my mom took 2 kids to visit Beijin :-)
I don't think you should sacrifice your mom's visiting either. Just have a
calm talk with your husband, to find the best way make both side happy, not
only giving up your mom's side. In fact I feel this opportunity you have
visit in 3 weeks is very rare to get so should not miss it.
Also let your hubby know, if he is not comfortable with this arrangement,
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x*******g
发帖数: 1363 | 41 My husband originally also insisted to put 30% to his parents, I was so mad
,since totally only 300K ;-( and that time we had one child. After a few
years, my hubby finally realized that his priority one responsiblity and the
true cost for raising a kid, we purchased another two afterwards, no
argument any more on how to split the benefit :-) |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 42 Patpat.
One possible solution is to earn more money so that when the time comes, you
can hire another able-body, able-hand mom from this board to help taking
care of your grandchildren.
Money, come to me, baby.
Honey, go to your nanny!
Hubby, do not touch that beauty! |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 43 There is a lady who wants to count how many hubbies still love their wives after 5 years of marriage.
大叔们快去投票！
【 以下文字转载自 SanDiego 讨论区 】
发信人: momlovedad (niuniu), 信区: SanDiego
标 题: Marriage
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Mar 21 19:35:33 2012, 美东)
Is it possible, after so many years' marriage? 夫妻都结婚5,6年了, 那个老公
还对妻子挺好的.我
说的好不是那种按时回家, 聊聊每天干些什么.而是那种看着妻子的时候,眼里还充满了
爱慕,心里还有疼爱,还觉得老婆是最漂亮的女人.
不知道现实生活中多少夫妻能做到? |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 44 They should have interviewed you and you hubby before making a guess on your
two-year-old son! |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 45 On a side note, I was wondering why the hubby did not let his wife chasing
her dream EARLIER . . . |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 46 Either you or your hubby has hitherto undiscovered artistic talent! |
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h*******a
发帖数: 48 | 47 it seems this is not just one incident about 虱子....Your daughter said "女
儿说，我怕你们训我...."
Has there been other situation that he keep blaming your daugher?
You might want to talk further with your hubby on his attitude |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 48 Solutions might be:
1) Quanrantine his "painting" activities to his own room or a special corner
in the garage. Then periodically paint the walls of that room or the corner.
2) Gum wrapper is not an issue. Just ask your son to pick it up afterwards.
3) Whatever your hubby found on the roof, such as a small rock, would not cause
serious damage to the house, even if the rock was thrown by your son or his
friends. If they broke a window, I would be worried. Bring the kid to a
lake, and let him th... 阅读全帖 |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 49 Two data points and you made a general conclusion. Not very representative
bah . . .
All I can say it is case by case. As long as your hubby respect you, who
cares about other's attitude towards their partners? |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 50 It is normal.
Even for James, using hands to "calculate" additions and substraction within 100 lasted
quite a while before doing the same in mind without any extra media.
Take it easy. It will happen . . . for him just like for you and your
hubby. |
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