h*******n
发帖数: 3 | 1 Housework help needed, Acton, 2-3 hours 3-6PM Monday-Friday |
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a*****3
发帖数: 84 | 2 Husbands who do housework may have less sex, study says
Kim Painter, Special for USA TODAY4:34p.m. EST January 31, 2013
Traditional chores are linked with more sex for married couples.
Men who do some household chores may not get rewarded with more sex,
according to a new study. (Photo: Pixland)
Story Highlights
Couples who stick to traditional chores have more sex
Study was conducted in 1992-1994, so some things may have changed
Other studies show wives more satisfied in more equal marriages
Hu... 阅读全帖 |
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l*********e
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ivyWW (DreamWillComeTrue) 于 (Sat Feb 2 21:18:21 2013, 美东) 提到:
双职工家庭，小孩才2-3岁。我是女方。
家里老人只有一方愿意出来帮忙（从坐月子开始，一直都是我父母出来帮忙）。他的父
母“据说”年老了不能出来，但是却在国内帮忙快40岁的大女儿做了一切家务。
我父母在的时候，我老公一点点家务都不需要做，除了周末开车带老人去买菜，因为我
要在家看着孩子。
我俩目前收入差不多，当然我只是个没前途的小职员，他是有前途的postdoc。
我父母呆半年就要回国半年。本来我觉得他应该分担一点家务。
但是上周末摊牌说，男人不应该做婆婆妈妈的琐碎的家务，但是可以做抬水换灯泡，修
电脑等我不能干的活。
请钟点工，送小孩回国半年，或者离婚这些都有讨论过了，请大家不需要再讨论了。
我就是想请教一下在美国中国人的家庭的家务模式都是大概怎么分配的。
当然我父母上一辈都是双职工，但是女方做了绝大多数的家务的，所以我父母和他父母
都觉得我也应该这样做，现在我老公也觉得我... 阅读全帖 |
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monkeylady (MonkeyQueen) 于 (Wed Aug 17 21:55:26 2011, 美东) 提到:
家庭劳动如何计算，如何和社会劳动一起计算劳动价值，并用货币表现出来，这个是一
个很难的问题，但如果这个问题不解决，女性的劳动价值就很难表现出来。男人就认为
他从社会上挣来的钱就是她的，女性为了自立，也只好打入职场，少在家里费心，最后
的结果不是一件很好的事情。
我不鼓励女人一直在家里，但鼓励女人family first。 其实整个社会都应该有个
family first的观念，一切为了家，家庭是社会的单位和细胞。
婚姻法之所以引起这么大的轰动，其实就是女人的家庭劳动不计算在社会劳动之中，结
果就是社会和家庭的隔离，最后的结果，其实男人整体上也是受害者。
一个文明社会的发展，是体现在对弱者的倾斜上。一个民族的血脉如何绵延，也是女性
决定的，女人是一个民族血脉的territory， 这个道理很容易理解。
所以对妇女儿童权益的保障，是一个民族的血脉延续的问题，并非一个个房子和财产的... 阅读全帖 |
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b*****h
发帖数: 821 | 5 http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couple
he-housework-are-more-likely-to-divorce-study-finds.html
In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report fou
nd the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50
per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.
揥hat we抳e seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home d
oesn抰 necessarily contribute to contentment,said Thomas Hansen, co-author
of th... 阅读全帖 |
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s******h
发帖数: 330 | 6 The law has been that way in US from the very beginning. The old law in
China is way too much in favor to females.
Unless LZ thinks housework and having baby are something female has to do,
why female should be compensated for that? Should the law say female will
have no property right unless the female take care of all the housework and
has at least one baby? If the female has rights to refuse to do housework,
have sex, and have baby, should man have the right to refuse to share his
pre-marriag... 阅读全帖 |
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p****9
发帖数: 232 | 7 Sorry I can't type Chinese in this computer.
My parents-in-law won't accept if I do part-time, or stop working. I think
one major reason they don't want us to divorce is because I have relatively
high income. My job is very demanding. Frankly, I can barely do any
housework with my current job. I spent all my time after work to be with my
son to assure enough bonding, and it is still not enough. Taking care my son
at night is always my part, and I enjoy it.
I am pretty much counting every 5-10 mi... 阅读全帖 |
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p****9
发帖数: 232 | 8 Sorry I can't type Chinese in this computer.
My parents-in-law won't accept if I do part-time, or stop working. I think
one major reason they don't want us to divorce is because I have relatively
high income. My job is very demanding. Frankly, I can barely do any
housework with my current job. I spent all my time after work to be with my
son to assure enough bonding, and it is still not enough. Taking care my son
at night is always my part, and I enjoy it.
I am pretty much counting every 5-10 mi... 阅读全帖 |
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S**P
发帖数: 1290 | 9 BTW, I know that he does not like to do housework from the beginning. I
accept that because I feel happy when I prepare food or wash clothes for the
person I love. And I feel that men should focus on their career. I don't
mind doing more housework to support him.
But I feel he needs to understand what I do and appreciate it, not take it
for granted. And when I don't want to do it for some reason, he can not
just be unhappy about that. For example, when I just got pregnant, one
day someh... 阅读全帖 |
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x******a
发帖数: 97 | 10 I am thinking if I had a daughter in thefuture, should I tell her that the
world is always dominated bymen? Controlled by man, decided by man? on which
so that she would not be being sotough and against? But more tender to go
along with man or even play up to man?
I am influenced by my mother who was alwaysbeing tough in my household and
making all the decisions inside and outside,while I was not seeing her
marriage happy and she was unhappy all the time. Iwas definitely affected by
the way she ... 阅读全帖 |
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s******h
发帖数: 330 | 11 So, if the wife cannot have a baby, she should be kicked out and pay the
husband?
Should men and women be equal? Or women are born to do housework and have
baby? If that is women's responsibility to do housework and have baby, do
men have the right to force women to fulfill their duty, and ask for
compensation if women refuse to do their job? If that is not women's
repsonsibility, why you think women should be paid for that? |
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g*k
发帖数: 1797 | 12 This is called merit based enrollment and hiring. This is what we should
fight for, but not the quota based enrollment or hiring.
Similarly, we should encourage men to cook and to do housework, should we
ask for quota based responsibility then? Maybe men should take 50% of all
housework at home to show the equality? |
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s**m
发帖数: 4340 | 13 My LG is very good at cooking, so he takes care of the dinner. He also
washes cookware and bowls after the dinner.
However, I bake breakfast and do almost all the other housework.
I think you need to talk with your LG, and ask him to share housework with
you, other than blame him here. |
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s**m
发帖数: 4340 | 14 My LG is very good at cooking, so he takes care of the dinner. He also
washes cookware and bowls after the dinner.
However, I bake breakfast and do almost all the other housework.
I think you need to talk with your LG, and ask him to share housework with
you, other than blame him here. |
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s**m
发帖数: 4340 | 15 My LG is very good at cooking, so he takes care of the dinner. He also
washes cookware and bowls after the dinner.
However, I bake breakfast and do almost all the other housework.
I think you need to talk with your LG, and ask him to share housework with
you, other than blame him here. |
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s**m
发帖数: 4340 | 16 My LG is very good at cooking, so he takes care of the dinner. He also
washes cookware and bowls after the dinner.
However, I bake breakfast and do almost all the other housework.
I think you need to talk with your LG, and ask him to share housework with
you, other than blame hi mhere. |
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G***G
发帖数: 16778 | 17 after finishing reading all your and your wife's posts, I think
your couple is actually not bad couple.
1)You two are not invovled in infidelity. You didn't leave your wife
for another woman. Your wife stayed home and did housework for you everyday.
why have you two fought?
2) do you think of the question of why and who made the lives of your family
so miserable? not your partner.
the reason that your lives are bitter is somewhat because of the society.
The society didn't give you and your famil... 阅读全帖 |
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e****s
发帖数: 112 | 18 pat pat LZMM!
I agree with the previous posts that the most important thing for you now is
to solve the long distance problem. we may all have this experience before
, e-mails and phone calls never work as well as face-to-face talk. You
definitely need work on your relationship with your husband and put more
effort(much more than you put on your gardening) on this marriage.
From what i read, the problem your husband and you have may not seem serious
.you two are just unhappy. Now your mom-in-l... 阅读全帖 |
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t*********l
发帖数: 778 | 19 my parents don't cook . Don't do any other housework. We have nanny to cover
all housework.
My parents bring my kid to nearby playground once or twice a day. |
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发帖数: 1278 | 20 Some Tips about housework:
1) Divide One work into two and Share the work with your husband
For example, my husband hates to fold laundry. No problem, I will fold
laundry, but I will ask him to put the clothes away.
2) Praise, praise and more praise
For example, when I see my husband put dishes away, I say something like, "
you are the expert" or " you are so good at it"
3) Keep telling him what you have done
Report to your husband about the work you have done. It is extra work, but
pays in the ... 阅读全帖 |
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C*N
发帖数: 1792 | 21 It is too long to take an hour to clean since you have only two people. It
is too inefficient.
Your wife just want to know that you can, and willing to help. Also, it
takes time to become good at housework. You should learn to do housework
more efficiently since in the future you will have kids, she will go to work
, and you will have more responsibility in house work.
If you cannot do it more efficiently, you will be in trouble. Now it is time
to practice.
Cleaning is also kind of rest for your... 阅读全帖 |
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l******o
发帖数: 1864 | 22 My husband and I live in different cities. Before I got pregnant I always
visited him and cleaned his place. Now he comes to stay with me for two days
every month. When he comes I ask him to do some housework.I still cook for
him and do housework together with him. He just need to do the heavy part.
He is willing to but take a rest every 10 minutes. So he can't finish the
work. I blame him for his laziness. He apologizes and agrees to do more
next time he comes.His attitude is so good that I ca |
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a***8
发帖数: 4735 | 23 I know a couple of grandparents, they really 富养 their pretty daughter.
They are from a major China city, and their daughter lived like a princess,
they trained her to act very upper class, play music in early age, and told
her girl should not do any housework, since they think it is poor people's
work.
It turns out her life is what they planned for. Her husband is very rich, in a finance field, treated her like princess, before he proposed to her, the old couple told him
their daughter is not ... 阅读全帖 |
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a***8
发帖数: 4735 | 24 I just can't stand that she would not do any housework due to act like come
from a very high class family, but actually her parents are from middle
class, the whole family (parents and other chinese relatives) try very hard
to impress the son in law and his family that their daughter is from upper
class family. This lady even complaints her three years old daughter
clearing up table, she said it is not a upper class people should do...
But in reality those weathly people's kids really do housew... 阅读全帖 |
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a***8
发帖数: 4735 | 25 It is so weired that my nanny can drive me crazy. I 've read so many posts
about mom in law story, but me and my mom in law can get along so good.
There let me share my story of my nanny.
I have hired a nanny for about two years from now. She is a nice lady
taking good care of my baby and my baby loves her a lot, and she never touch
or moved anything valuable in our house. These are the reasons why we are
still hire her. However, my husband and my parents in law insist that my
daughter should ... 阅读全帖 |
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w*******2
发帖数: 110 | 26 I hardly did any housework before I got married.now I feel so overwhelmed
for the things I have to do with baby. I always feel things might be better
if I got a proper training on housework when I was little...:) |
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b**o
发帖数: 5769 | 27 Sorry for no Chinese input here.
For me, I have to pay extra attention to avoid overeat and skipping work out
during weekends.
Because: 1, Too busy with kids and housework to drink enough water. So I
feel hungry but I really need more water.
2, Eat kids leftovers. I'm much better on this, I always told them
to trash by themselves if they couldn't finish their food. I won't feel bad
if I don't see it.
3, Eat out. The foods in restaurant are usually higher in calories
than homema... 阅读全帖 |
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 28 she does housework, including cooking and washing, her husband complains
because he thinks she's not spontaneous enough about it. don't ignore the
fact that her mother is with them, i'll bet her mother does most of the
housework among them three people
了。 |
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c*********k
发帖数: 836 | 29 no exercises so far. too tired. did a lot housework after work... does
housework count? sigh... |
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c*********k
发帖数: 836 | 30 no exercises so far. too tired. did a lot housework after work... does
housework count? sigh... |
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c**y
发帖数: 405 | 31 我所关注的，其实是家庭主妇长期的被污名化——其中很大一部分不屑是来自于女性群
体本身。
以下情况该是屡见不鲜的：
A：我伺候完老的又得伺候小的，累得筋骨酸疼！
B（暗想）：你不过就是一个吃闲饭的。
又，在小孩之间的对话：
A（挺胸凸肚）：我妈是大状！
B（洋洋自得）：我妈妈是法官！
C（声音几不可闻）：我妈妈。。。是家庭主妇。。。
何其悲哉！
其实在上个世纪八十年代，法国女性主义者Delphy就提出来关于domestic labor的理论：
housework is work,并尖锐地指出其free, unpaid的不公平性质。
首先，将劳动分割为有收入的工作及没有收入的工作一事，乃是根据男／女的性别配置
。housework成为没有收入的工作，恰恰意味着这事一种被不当榨取的unpaid劳动。
——而从这种unpaid劳动中篡取利益的，正是父权体制中的男性。
而比这种赤裸裸的掠夺更可恶的，该是掩耳盗铃式的精神灌输：皆有推崇爱与母性这种
象征价值，以榨取女性劳动价值的意识形态机制。
在这种机制中所强调的爱，即是希望女性以夫之目的作为自己的目的，发动自身所有能
量的意识形态。
而所谓的母性... 阅读全帖 |
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b********n
发帖数: 38600 | 32 A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands.
When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at
the entrance:
You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of
the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item
from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you
CANNOT go back down except to exit the building.
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
The 1st floor... 阅读全帖 |
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t********r
发帖数: 4908 | 33 I wonder how many man can have a "career" from what you described.
From what I see, most men are working class, that work for others for their
whole life. Some of them are making a good amount of money or at a good leve
l of position. But that doesn't mean they don't need to care about family or
housework
From what I learned, many men are successful on both sides. The ones who don
't care about housework, normally are not successful in the career either.
I'm not talking about the men that owning... 阅读全帖 |
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w***n
发帖数: 4358 | 34 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
wowowowo (可持续发展) 于 (Sun Oct 3 10:53:30 2010, 美东) 提到:
看了黄磊和陆毅两家的节目，发现两家的共同特点就是，男的顾家，女的心里安分，都
清楚自已想要什么，而且两家都是男的主做饭做家务。
象范冰冰和李冰冰，也是属于知道自已想要什么的典范，只是她们想要的和孙莉鲍蕾想
要的不一样。看来知道自已想要什么基本上是幸福生活的首要条件啊。另外一个条件就
是，男的不但要会赚钱，还要会做家务。我觉得爱做家务的男的本身就是热爱生活勤快
的人，所以过得好也是应该的。
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whbin (御风~探花) 于 (Sun Oct 3 12:22:13 2010, 美东) 提到:
那只是作秀
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baoyuhong (yubao) 于 (Sun Oct 3 13:12:14 2010, 美东) 提到:
给你... 阅读全帖 |
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L***6
发帖数: 8307 | 35 How fucking many chinese women nowadays still do housework after they get
married?? they dont even do it before they marry. most chinese families
nowadays just hire those cheap maids from the poor countryside to wipe their
ass and cook for them. My 2 uncles just let my grandparents raise and take
care of their own children!! they didnt even use their own kitchen that much
after they get married. they were constantly ripping off their own parents!
! thats what the fucking shameless spoiled after ... 阅读全帖 |
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j******a
发帖数: 1582 | 36 "A lot of Asians are not marrying later. They are not marrying at all. Almost a third of Japanese women in their early 30s are unmarried; probably half of those will always be. Over one-fifth of Taiwanese women in their late 30s are single; most will never marry. In some places, rates of non-marriage are especially striking: in Bangkok, 20% of 40-44-year old women are not married; in Tokyo, 21%; among university graduates of that age in Singapore, 27%."
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"The joy of staying... 阅读全帖 |
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j******a
发帖数: 1582 | 37 "Japanese women, who typically work 40 hours a week in the office, then do,
on average, another 30 hours of housework. Their husbands, on average, do
three hours."
http://www.economist.com/node/21526350
这就是你说的“互相尊重爱护合作”？ |
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j******a
发帖数: 1582 | 38 文章里面还有这个呢
Japanese women, who typically work 40 hours a week in the office, then do,
on average, another 30 hours of housework. Their husbands, on average, do
three hours. And Asian women who give up work to look after children find it
hard to return when the offspring are grown. Not surprisingly, Asian women
have an unusually pessimistic view of marriage. According to a survey
carried out this year, many fewer Japanese women felt positive about their
marriage than did Japanese men, or American ... 阅读全帖 |
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m********o
发帖数: 2088 | 39 BEIJING—The U.K. has asked the Chinese government to launch an
investigation into the death of a British businessman who claimed to have
close links to the family of Bo Xilai, the Communist Party leader whose
downfall has thrown Chinese politics into turmoil.
Players in China's Leadership Purge
View Slideshow
Associated Press
In this Oct. 21, 2008, photo, then-Chongqing city police chief Wang Lijun
held a press conference. Wang triggered the political drama by seeking
refuge from Mr. Bo in a U.S... 阅读全帖 |
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d*********2
发帖数: 48111 | 40 有较强物质欲的还好点。
没有的， 2万到10万的时候真没感觉出有多大区别。
2万的时候一样去欧洲旅行， 一样贷款买房子。
10万以后房子大了点， 除了需要干的housework更多了， 没其他感受。
你要是对名牌包包， 名牌衣服有欣赏力的还好点。 鳖在美国， 连个2奶的机会都没有
， 有钱也没处花。 |
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s*x
发帖数: 8041 | 41 恩，主要是下班后还天大亮，可以作housework。Daylight saving就是让你有更多
daylight可以干活，跟什么省电之类没关系。 |
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B******n
发帖数: 1920 | 42 【 以下文字转载自 USANews 讨论区 】
发信人: ferrygao (发糕), 信区: USANews
标 题: 为啥美国这么多残疾人士
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sun Apr 8 19:18:48 2018, 美东)
Nearly 1 in 5 People Have a Disability in the U.S., Census Bureau Reports
Report Released to Coincide with 22nd Anniversary of the ADA
About 56.7 million people — 19 percent of the population — had a
disability in 2010, according to a broad definition of disability, with more
than half of them reporting the disability was severe, according to a
comprehensive report on this popu... 阅读全帖 |
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c****n
发帖数: 21367 | 43 what's your weekend plan? :)
do some housework then hangout with a few buddies? |
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f******o
发帖数: 2469 | 44 Nearly 1 in 5 People Have a Disability in the U.S., Census Bureau Reports
Report Released to Coincide with 22nd Anniversary of the ADA
About 56.7 million people — 19 percent of the population — had a
disability in 2010, according to a broad definition of disability, with more
than half of them reporting the disability was severe, according to a
comprehensive report on this population released today by the U.S. Census
Bureau.
The report, Americans with Disabilities: 2010, presents estimates of
di... 阅读全帖 |
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o**********e
发帖数: 18403 | 46 真心觉得日本制造业厉害，但是PR更厉害。
不过制造业随创新，老年化， 光剩下PR就看他
吹几年吧。
(Mr Abe) added that Japan would also import foreign workers to help with "
housework, care for the elderly, and the like".
http://www.theguardian.com/business/2014/jan/22/japan-china-mil
LOL, 日本连飞机配件测试都做不好（波音787日本制造电池频频起火），
还自以为他们很高贵呢, 下贱活给外国佣人做就可以啦。 |
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s**********n
发帖数: 16 | 47 My nanny is looking for a new job.
She took care of my son for one year since my son was 2 month old. Before
that, she took care of a little girl
for 2 years.
I don't need nanny anymore since my parents are here. So she is looking for
a new job---either taking care
of baby/kid or doing housework--in New york, New Jersey, or Connecticut
areas. She is flexible--either living
in or commute to work. And she can work 5 days or 6 days depending on your
need.
She is in her fifties, very healthy, knows |
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d********e
发帖数: 239 | 48 南加州San Diego市家庭寻找一个住家保姆照顾一个近十个月的乖乖健康女孩及兼做一
些家务等。希望
她健康和说流利的普通话。薪资可商议。有兴趣者可联系我９４９３７５０１８９．谢
谢。
Looking for a live-in nanny to take care of an almost 10 month old baby
girl and do some housework. We live in the UTC area. Must have good health
and speak fluent Mandarin. The salary is negotiable. If you are
interested, please feel free to contact me at 9493750189. Thanks. |
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