c********e
发帖数: 42175 | 1 then how did you react last time?
say nothing and stay clam?
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h*****n
发帖数: 924 | 2 Suppose this is not a "keng", you are in a hard situation.
If you are really intolerant of this, and you want an academic career, consi
der switching to other programs.
In theory, you can officially complain to the univ, but what follows will be
a lengthy investigation. You can earn little unless you keep some hard evid
ence as a previous reply said.
Either you win or not, your career in the program will be affected to s
ome degree.
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e**n
发帖数: 181 | 3 Yes, I just pretended to ignore..but I am really scared... |
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S*********n
发帖数: 2015 | 4 这个mm看起来真的很不会保护自己，他摸完你大腿你居然还给他机会摸胸！！
赶快换导师吧！ |
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H*******e
发帖数: 726 | 12 Universities in North America have zero tolerance for sexual harassment. You need to speak to a lawyer immediately. Don't worry about the fees. They will take your case, because they smell $$$.
Compensation by the University to you can be huge. We are talking millions. |
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C*S
发帖数: 1658 | 14 严肃地提醒老邢：
在法考题版挖坑，应该注意一下发文的品位。嗯。 |
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e**n
发帖数: 181 | 15 感谢这里的长辈给我的建议，我现在知道该怎么处理了，谢谢！
对于那些怀疑我挖坑的人，我感到很悲哀。也许在网络论坛里“狼来了”被喊得太多次
，人们已经不再相信了。因此，我对那些真诚给我意见的人表达真诚的崇敬。
谢谢！ |
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y******l
发帖数: 900 | 16 坑都发到了发考题版。
大家还都这么热心。
真热心。 |
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t******t
发帖数: 772 | 17 同意。一定要对簿公堂，你不会有问题，注意保留证据。下一次就不能让证据跑了。不
要急着和老印闹，证据为先。
You need to speak to a lawyer immediately. Don't worry about the fees. They
will take your case, because they smell $$$.
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i****a
发帖数: 36252 | 19 did you enjoy it?
if you didn't enjoy it, why didn't you stop him? |
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e**n
发帖数: 181 | 20 感谢各位老师的建议，我今天义正词严地跟他说不可以touch 我，他似乎受到了警告，
没有再有什么physical contact. 我很高兴我从这个版上得到了勇气，虽然有个别留言
让我看了很伤心。再次感谢！ |
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h*****n
发帖数: 924 | 21 good
回帖就像米国的本科生，垃圾永远outnumber出很多倍。
看回帖就像教学生，有一个值得看（教），今天就没白来。 |
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l*****g
发帖数: 2087 | 22 假设你不是挖坑的
要么你10岁要么你老师nc
再说一句 不挖坑会死啊 |
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S*********n
发帖数: 2015 | 23 我相信lz不是挖坑。因为类似的事情确实发生过！ |
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r****z
发帖数: 393 | 25 如果是我，宁可不读了也要把它给告了。就算它以后不这样了，也别跟它做了。 |
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w******t
发帖数: 1422 | 27 这太corss line.
你要和学校HR谈， 和系主任谈。 如果系里有比较powerful and nice 的女secretary
， 和她谈之后在和系主任谈 so she will on your side to support you。 要求换导
师。 他绝不是第一次这样， 也不是最后一次。 也许系里已有人告过他。
美国不是中国。 保护女性.
一个女孩在异国读ph.d很辛苦， 不要在背上这种精神负担， 不要怕， 不要软弱 |
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h*****n
发帖数: 924 | 28 理论上是这样，但现实中绝没有那么简单
没有过硬的证据告不倒一个教授，倒是搞得满城风雨，这个学校就不容易呆了——谁能
说的清不是affair之后或者其他不愉快后的诬告
跟公司或者学校的员工不同，做学生和AP的，这种事情不是那么好办。如果真要跟谁谈
的话，还是跟这个教授自己谈比较合适。
美国是有很多保护弱势群体的制度，但具体怎么使用不是那么简单。
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e**n
发帖数: 181 | 29 This is a good comment. Thx! I have warned him this time, and I will watch
and see what is going to happen. I have no evidence or witness, and I do not
want to take adavantage of this either. So..I think the best thing to do at
this moment is to wait and see..If there is another time, I hope to get a
witness/evidence, but of course, I do not want to have another time for the
rest of my life! |
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o****y
发帖数: 790 | 30 Why am I still NOT convinced the whole thing is NOT a "Ken"?
Admire your tenacity and professionalism :)
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e**n
发帖数: 181 | 31 I just learned about the legal concerns from the valuable dicussion in this
board, as well as some knowledge grabed from google. I am going to be a
faculty one day, so it is natural for me to appear serious and bookish in
any matter. Thanks Outcry, I know you are a good person and you are also
passionate to help people in this forum. |
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u****a
发帖数: 568 | 32 I bet 10 baozi this is a keng |
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o****y
发帖数: 790 | 34 Thanks for the encouragement. I apologize in advance if it is NOT a Ken.
this |
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w******t
发帖数: 1422 | 35 you should bring this to the department's attention. Otherwise, the
professor would not stop. "没有过硬的证据告不倒一个教授，倒是搞得满城风雨，
这个学校就不容易呆了——谁能
thinking. Suggest you to discuss with your HR and female secretary to get
their advice.
The department would not fire the professor, but can put this complain in
his file. and in the future if other female students are in the same
situation, they may take action.
meanwhile, ask to change advisor. Under this kind of advisor, he will not
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s****r
发帖数: 326 | 36 如果是真的，恭喜你，发财了。
只要把这录下来送到法庭，学校乖乖的掏钱，那个老师马上灰溜溜的滚蛋。
天下哪有这么好的事让你遇到，估计这是个坑。 |
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o****y
发帖数: 790 | 37 Pls give him/her benefit of doubt! :) |
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f******k
发帖数: 434 | 38 好坑！
下次知道怎么不留痕迹的骚扰学生了。摸胸爽一把再说, 大不了被警告一下。 |
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e**n
发帖数: 181 | 39 Thx! This is very doable, I will act accordingly, i.e., definitely report to
HR. |
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h*****n
发帖数: 924 | 40 well, chinese thinking? i do not know your definition of chinese thinking, b
ut am very positive how much gossips go around in workplace and acadmia
everyday.
the dept never puts such un-confirmed memos into a prof's file -- this does
sound like the practice of chinese cultural revolution -- i hope this is you
r kidding rather than understanding of university redtape.
HR ppl typically suggest collecting evidence and refer the victims to sort o
f anti-harassemment office, then a lengthy investiga |
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g*****5
发帖数: 3285 | 41 这个是sexual harrasment.
SYLLABUS里我都会加入关于学生的课堂最基本behavior的要求。
要求学生act professional。
你可以talk to the student after class. 不确定report to hr合适不合适。不过如果
是一个同事的说这句话，就肯定是可以REPORT的。
天给学生发回Quiz的卷子， 我一个一个的念名字，他们上来拿。 有个学生叫 Ryan
can call him 'harddick'＂， 其他人哄的都大笑， 我也不知怎么这么不争气， ３０
多岁的人了， 居然当时就脸发起了烧， 估计通红， 整节课都不好意思看学生， 真是
难受死我了。 |
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C*******u
发帖数: 713 | 42 对错不说，谁看了这种纸条都会不高兴。纯粹是骚扰加挑衅，一点解决问题的态度都没
有。应该告诉他you welCome friendly suggestions. but consider that kind of
note as harrasment. |
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W*******l
发帖数: 222 | 43 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
GlacierMin (秦皇汉武) 于 (Sat Sep 17 22:24:44 2011, 美东) 提到:
我爸妈偶尔用落地晒衣架把衣服晾在阳台上。今天某个邻居丢了一个纸条。我看了以后
非常生气。字里行间充满了种族歧视。原文如下：
This is Not China...its the GOOD be USA(还双线画上了USA)!!
According to the Bylaws...you can not (画上了下划线)DRY/HANG clothes on your
balcony!
I am tired of seeing your laundry...takes away from the beauty of the
building. Please take care of today!
首句中就stereotype China and Chinese，让我非常不爽！靠，咱中国可是美国人的债
主！我仔细查阅了我的lease，里面只是说"may not"而不是"can not"。两个... 阅读全帖 |
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H******7
发帖数: 34403 | 44 支持啊。这个故事告诉我们，公权力是可怕的，不能任凭政府坐大
标 题: 与腐朽官僚斗法
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Nov 19 17:32:27 2013, 美东)
在我还没有记忆模糊之前，我怀着非常复杂和激动的心情，写下我今天的遭遇。今天，
从12:40pm - 3:35pm, 我，一个普通的纳税人，经历了人生中的一个很有意义的事件--
-跟腐朽的官僚们斗法！事件以后，我陷入深深的沉思。
这个城市在Boston周边，我的一个出租房的所在地。一楼的apartment 昨天开始装修，
清出来的垃圾堆在一间房间了，很多了，必须拉走了。
因为没有driveway,dumpster得放在街上。我多了个心眼，想不能直接把这个庞然大物
放在街上，吃了ticket/fine 就不好了。一大早开始看是不是需要 permit. 发现需要
permit. 把permit application 虔诚地打印下来，直接开到 City Hall 准备申请
permit.以为是一个很简单的程序。
先到一楼的 clerk office，问在哪里申请dumpster permit， 答曰在二楼55房间
... 阅读全帖 |
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i**y
发帖数: 1339 | 45 collection agency will bombard your phone everyday. They might even harrase
your family and NEIGHBOURS to make you feel embarrassed. And they will repor
t you to all 3 credit bureaus and screw you credit. It is not worth $900. An
d you actually indeed used the ER service. What made you feel that you shoul
d not pay the fee? |
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s**********4
发帖数: 2168 | 46 我又不是楼主，看贴不仔细。我的几千账单也没打算赖着，原打算过几个月有钱了一次
付清，现在知道可以分期付款了就打算分期付了。真是的，一副站在高处质问人的样子
。。。。
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n*********9
发帖数: 954 | 47 of course, complain this racial harrasement!!! |
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I*****e
发帖数: 7085 | 48 找律师， 告这个警察歧视， harrasment (恫吓) |
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