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http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/09/opinion/sunday/woody-allen-sp
Woody Allen Speaks Out
By WOODY ALLENFEB. 7, 2014
Mia Farrow, Woody Allen, and their children Dylan and Ronan, January 1988.
Time & Life Pictures/Getty Images
Last Sunday, Nicholas Kristof wrote a column about Dylan Farrow, the adopted
daughter of Woody Allen and Mia Farrow. Mr. Allen has written the following
response to the column and Dylan’s account.
TWENTY-ONE years ago, when I first heard Mia Farrow had accused me of child
molestation, I found the idea so ludicrous I didn’t give it a second
thought. We were involved in a terribly acrimonious breakup, with great
enmity between us and a custody battle slowly gathering energy. The self-
serving transparency of her malevolence seemed so obvious I didn’t even
hire a lawyer to defend myself. It was my show business attorney who told me
she was bringing the accusation to the police and I would need a criminal
lawyer.
I naïvely thought the accusation would be dismissed out of hand because
of course, I hadn’t molested Dylan and any rational person would see the
ploy for what it was. Common sense would prevail. After all, I was a 56-year
-old man who had never before (or after) been accused of child molestation.
I had been going out with Mia for 12 years and never in that time did she
ever suggest to me anything resembling misconduct. Now, suddenly, when I had
driven up to her house in Connecticut one afternoon to visit the kids for a
few hours, when I would be on my raging adversary’s home turf, with half a
dozen people present, when I was in the blissful early stages of a happy
new relationship with the woman I’d go on to marry — that I would pick
this moment in time to embark on a career as a child molester should seem to
the most skeptical mind highly unlikely. The sheer illogic of such a crazy
scenario seemed to me dispositive.
Notwithstanding, Mia insisted that I had abused Dylan and took her
immediately to a doctor to be examined. Dylan told the doctor she had not
been molested. Mia then took Dylan out for ice cream, and when she came back
with her the child had changed her story. The police began their
investigation; a possible indictment hung in the balance. I very willingly
took a lie-detector test and of course passed because I had nothing to hide.
I asked Mia to take one and she wouldn’t. Last week a woman named Stacey
Nelkin, whom I had dated many years ago, came forward to the press to tell
them that when Mia and I first had our custody battle 21 years ago, Mia had
wanted her to testify that she had been underage when I was dating her,
despite the fact this was untrue. Stacey refused. I include this anecdote so
we all know what kind of character we are dealing with here. One can
imagine in learning this why she wouldn’t take a lie-detector test.
Meanwhile the Connecticut police turned for help to a special investigative
unit they relied on in such cases, the Child Sexual Abuse Clinic of the Yale
-New Haven Hospital. This group of impartial, experienced men and women whom
the district attorney looked to for guidance as to whether to prosecute,
spent months doing a meticulous investigation, interviewing everyone
concerned, and checking every piece of evidence. Finally they wrote their
conclusion which I quote here: “It is our expert opinion that Dylan was not
sexually abused by Mr. Allen. Further, we believe that Dylan’s statements
on videotape and her statements to us during our evaluation do not refer to
actual events that occurred to her on August 4th, 1992... In developing our
opinion we considered three hypotheses to explain Dylan’s statements. First
, that Dylan’s statements were true and that Mr. Allen had sexually abused
her; second, that Dylan’s statements were not true but were made up by an
emotionally vulnerable child who was caught up in a disturbed family and who
was responding to the stresses in the family; and third, that Dylan was
coached or influenced by her mother, Ms. Farrow. While we can conclude that
Dylan was not sexually abused, we can not be definite about whether the
second formulation by itself or the third formulation by itself is true. We
believe that it is more likely that a combination of these two formulations
best explains Dylan’s allegations of sexual abuse.”
Could it be any clearer? Mr. Allen did not abuse Dylan; most likely a
vulnerable, stressed-out 7-year-old was coached by Mia Farrow. This
conclusion disappointed a number of people. The district attorney was
champing at the bit to prosecute a celebrity case, and Justice Elliott Wilk,
the custody judge, wrote a very irresponsible opinion saying when it came
to the molestation, “we will probably never know what occurred.”
But we did know because it had been determined and there was no equivocation
about the fact that no abuse had taken place. Justice Wilk was quite rough
on me and never approved of my relationship with Soon-Yi, Mia’s adopted
daughter, who was then in her early 20s. He thought of me as an older man
exploiting a much younger woman, which outraged Mia as improper despite the
fact she had dated a much older Frank Sinatra when she was 19. In fairness
to Justice Wilk, the public felt the same dismay over Soon-Yi and myself,
but despite what it looked like our feelings were authentic and we’ve been
happily married for 16 years with two great kids, both adopted. (
Incidentally, coming on the heels of the media circus and false accusations,
Soon-Yi and I were extra carefully scrutinized by both the adoption agency
and adoption courts, and everyone blessed our adoptions.)
Mia took custody of the children and we went our separate ways.
I was heartbroken. Moses was angry with me. Ronan I didn’t know well
because Mia would never let me get close to him from the moment he was born
and Dylan, whom I adored and was very close to and about whom Mia called my
sister in a rage and said, “He took my daughter, now I’ll take his.” I
never saw her again nor was I able to speak with her no matter how hard I
tried. I still loved her deeply, and felt guilty that by falling in love
with Soon-Yi I had put her in the position of being used as a pawn for
revenge. Soon-Yi and I made countless attempts to see Dylan but Mia blocked
them all, spitefully knowing how much we both loved her but totally
indifferent to the pain and damage she was causing the little girl merely to
appease her own vindictiveness.
Here I quote Moses Farrow, 14 at the time: “My mother drummed it into me to
hate my father for tearing apart the family and sexually molesting my
sister.” Moses is now 36 years old and a family therapist by profession. “
Of course Woody did not molest my sister,” he said. “She loved him and
looked forward to seeing him when he would visit. She never hid from him
until our mother succeeded in creating the atmosphere of fear and hate
towards him.” Dylan was 7, Ronan 4, and this was, according to Moses, the
steady narrative year after year.
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I pause here for a quick word on the Ronan situation. Is he my son or, as
Mia suggests, Frank Sinatra’s? Granted, he looks a lot like Frank with the
blue eyes and facial features, but if so what does this say? That all during
the custody hearing Mia lied under oath and falsely represented Ronan as
our son? Even if he is not Frank’s, the possibility she raises that he
could be, indicates she was secretly intimate with him during our years. Not
to mention all the money I paid for child support. Was I supporting Frank’
s son? Again, I want to call attention to the integrity and honesty of a
person who conducts her life like that.
NOW it’s 21 years later and Dylan has come forward with the accusations
that the Yale experts investigated and found false. Plus a few little added
creative flourishes that seem to have magically appeared during our 21-year
estrangement.
Not that I doubt Dylan hasn’t come to believe she’s been molested, but if
from the age of 7 a vulnerable child is taught by a strong mother to hate
her father because he is a monster who abused her, is it so inconceivable
that after many years of this indoctrination the image of me Mia wanted to
establish had taken root? Is it any wonder the experts at Yale had picked up
the maternal coaching aspect 21 years ago? Even the venue where the
fabricated molestation was supposed to have taken place was poorly chosen
but interesting. Mia chose the attic of her country house, a place she
should have realized I’d never go to because it is a tiny, cramped,
enclosed spot where one can hardly stand up and I’m a major claustrophobe.
The one or two times she asked me to come in there to look at something, I
did, but quickly had to run out. Undoubtedly the attic idea came to her from
the Dory Previn song, “With My Daddy in the Attic.” It was on the same
record as the song Dory Previn had written about Mia’s betraying their
friendship by insidiously stealing her husband, André, “Beware of Young
Girls.” One must ask, did Dylan even write the letter or was it at least
guided by her mother? Does the letter really benefit Dylan or does it simply
advance her mother’s shabby agenda? That is to hurt me with a smear. There
is even a lame attempt to do professional damage by trying to involve movie
stars, which smells a lot more like Mia than Dylan.
After all, if speaking out was really a necessity for Dylan, she had already
spoken out months earlier in Vanity Fair. Here I quote Moses Farrow again:
“Knowing that my mother often used us as pawns, I cannot trust anything
that is said or written from anyone in the family.” Finally, does Mia
herself really even believe I molested her daughter? Common sense must ask:
Would a mother who thought her 7-year-old daughter was sexually abused by a
molester (a pretty horrific crime), give consent for a film clip of her to
be used to honor the molester at the Golden Globes?
Of course, I did not molest Dylan. I loved her and hope one day she will
grasp how she has been cheated out of having a loving father and exploited
by a mother more interested in her own festering anger than her daughter’s
well-being. Being taught to hate your father and made to believe he molested
you has already taken a psychological toll on this lovely young woman, and
Soon-Yi and I are both hoping that one day she will understand who has
really made her a victim and reconnect with us, as Moses has, in a loving,
productive way. No one wants to discourage abuse victims from speaking out,
but one must bear in mind that sometimes there are people who are falsely
accused and that is also a terribly destructive thing. (This piece will be
my final word on this entire matter and no one will be responding on my
behalf to any further comments on it by any party. Enough people have been
hurt.) | B****n
发帖数: 11290 | 2 Do you like his movies?
adopted
following
【在 p***y 的大作中提到】
: This has nothing to do with Taiwan. Just want to share.
: http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/09/opinion/sunday/woody-allen-sp
: Woody Allen Speaks Out
: By WOODY ALLENFEB. 7, 2014
: Mia Farrow, Woody Allen, and their children Dylan and Ronan, January 1988.
: Time & Life Pictures/Getty Images
: Last Sunday, Nicholas Kristof wrote a column about Dylan Farrow, the adopted
: daughter of Woody Allen and Mia Farrow. Mr. Allen has written the following
: response to the column and Dylan’s account.
: TWENTY-ONE years ago, when I first heard Mia Farrow had accused me of child
| p***y
发帖数: 18037 | 3 I have every one of his movies.
【在 B****n 的大作中提到】
: Do you like his movies?
:
: adopted
: following
| B****n
发帖数: 11290 | 4 wow, which one is your favorite?
我姐姐也很喜歡他 她也看了他幾乎每一個片子
我覺得他的電影很特別 不用看幾分鐘就知道是他的電影
他在片子裡自己演的角色總是絮絮(神神)叨叨的 讓人想到現實生活的他
很多紐約人應該很喜歡他 雖然我對紐約了解有限 也可以感到他的片子很有紐約的感覺
我有次在upper east side 走路 他的鄰居和路人說 那房子就是他的
他算是紐約的一個標誌
【在 p***y 的大作中提到】
: I have every one of his movies.
| p***y
发帖数: 18037 | 5 几乎可以猜到你下个问题就是要问这个。
基本上我都喜欢。虽然最近的片子和以前不太一样，但还是很有他的特色。
其实我最喜欢他的文字。用字很特别但精准。
【在 B****n 的大作中提到】
: wow, which one is your favorite?
: 我姐姐也很喜歡他 她也看了他幾乎每一個片子
: 我覺得他的電影很特別 不用看幾分鐘就知道是他的電影
: 他在片子裡自己演的角色總是絮絮(神神)叨叨的 讓人想到現實生活的他
: 很多紐約人應該很喜歡他 雖然我對紐約了解有限 也可以感到他的片子很有紐約的感覺
: 我有次在upper east side 走路 他的鄰居和路人說 那房子就是他的
: 他算是紐約的一個標誌
| B****n
发帖数: 11290 | 6 恩 我覺得最有意思的是他寫的劇本 當然這和用字也是分不開的 只是我對英語用字沒
那麼敏感
紐約不下雪的時候感覺也挺好的
【在 p***y 的大作中提到】
: 几乎可以猜到你下个问题就是要问这个。
: 基本上我都喜欢。虽然最近的片子和以前不太一样，但还是很有他的特色。
: 其实我最喜欢他的文字。用字很特别但精准。
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