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发帖数: 2153 | 1 By Stephanie Pappas | LiveScience.com
Gay marriage, and especially gay parenting, has been in the cross hairs in
recent days.
On Jan. 6, Republican presidential hopeful Rick Santorum told a New
Hampshire audience that children are better off with a father in prison than
being raised in a home with lesbian parents and no father at all. And last
Monday (Jan. 9), Pope Benedict called gay marriage a threat "to the future
of humanity itself," citing the need for children to have heterosexual homes.
But research on families headed by gays and lesbians doesn't back up these
dire assertions. In fact, in some ways, gay parents may bring talents to the
table that straight parents don't.
Gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual
parents on average, because they chose to be parents," said Abbie Goldberg,
a psychologist at Clark University in Massachusetts who researches gay and
lesbian parenting. Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident,
compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among
heterosexuals, Goldberg said. "That translates to greater commitment on
average and more involvement."
And while research indicates that kids of gay parents show few differences
in achievement, mental health, social functioning and other measures, these
kids may have the advantage of open-mindedness, tolerance and role models
for equitable relationships, according to some research. Not only that, but
gays and lesbians are likely to provide homes for difficult-to-place
children in the foster system, studies show. (Of course, this isn't to say
that heterosexual parents can't bring these same qualities to the parenting
table.) [5 Myths About Gay People Debunked]
Adopting the neediest
Gay adoption recently caused controversy in Illinois, where Catholic
Charities adoption services decided in November to cease offering services
because the state refused funding unless the groups agreed not to
discriminate against gays and lesbians. Rather than comply, Catholic
Charities closed up shop.
Catholic opposition aside, research suggests that gay and lesbian parents
are actually a powerful resource for kids in need of adoption. According to
a 2007 report by the Williams Institute and the Urban Institute, 65,000 kids
were living with adoptive gay parents between 2000 and 2002, with another
14,000 in foster homes headed by gays and lesbians. (There are currently
more than 100,000 kids in foster care in the U.S.)
An October 2011 report by Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute found that,
of gay and lesbian adoptions at more than 300 agencies, 10 percent of the
kids placed were older than 6 — typically a very difficult age to adopt out
. About 25 percent were older than 3. Sixty percent of gay and lesbian
couples adopted across races, which is important given that minority
children in the foster system tend to linger. More than half of the kids
adopted by gays and lesbians had special needs.
The report didn't compare the adoption preferences of gay couples directly
with those of heterosexual couples, said author David Brodzinsky, research
director at the Institute and co-editor of "Adoption By Lesbians and Gay Men
research suggests that gays and lesbians are more likely than heterosexuals
to adopt older, special-needs and minority children, he said. Part of that
could be their own preferences, and part could be because of discrimination
by adoption agencies that puts more difficult children with what caseworkers
see as "less desirable" parents.
No matter how you slice it, Brodzinsky told LiveScience, gays and lesbians
are highly interested in adoption as a group. The 2007 report by the Urban
Institute also found that more than half of gay men and 41 percent of
lesbians in the U.S. would like to adopt. That adds up to an estimated 2
million gay people who are interested in adoption. It's a huge reservoir of
potential parents who could get kids out of the instability of the foster
system, Brodzinsky said.
"When you think about the 114,000 children who are freed for adoption who
continue to live in foster care and who are not being readily adopted, the
goal is to increase the pool of available, interested and well-trained
individuals to parent these children," Brodzinsky said.
In addition, Brodzinsky said, there's evidence to suggest that gays and
lesbians are especially accepting of open adoptions, where the child retains
some contact with his or her birth parents. And the statistics bear out
that birth parents often have no problem with their kids being raised by
same-sex couples, he added.
"Interestingly, we find that a small percentage, but enough to be noteworthy
, [of birth mothers] make a conscious decision to place with gay men, so
they can be the only mother in their child's life," Brodzinsky said.
Good parenting
Research has shown that the kids of same-sex couples — both adopted and
biological kids — fare no worse than the kids of straight couples on mental
health, social functioning, school performance and a variety of other life-
success measures.
In a 2010 review of virtually every study on gay parenting, New York
University sociologist Judith Stacey and University of Southern California
sociologist Tim Biblarz found no differences between children raised in
homes with two heterosexual parents and children raised with lesbian parents.
"There's no doubt whatsoever from the research that children with two
lesbian parents are growing up to be just as well-adjusted and successful"
as children with a male and a female parent," Stacey told LiveScience.
There is very little research on the children of gay men, so Stacey and
Biblarz couldn't draw conclusions on those families. But Stacey suspects
that gay men "will be the best parents on average," she said.
That's a speculation, she said, but if lesbian parents have to really plan
to have a child, it's even harder for gay men. Those who decide to do it are
thus likely to be extremely committed, Stacey said. Gay men may also
experience fewer parenting conflicts, she added. Most lesbians use donor
sperm to have a child, so one mother is biological and the other is not,
which could create conflict because one mother may feel closer to the kid.
"With gay men, you don't have that factor," she said. "Neither of them gets
pregnant, neither of them breast-feeds, so you don't have that asymmetry
built into the relationship."
The bottom line, Stacey said, is that people who say children need both a
father and a mother in the home are misrepresenting the research, most of
which compares children of single parents to children of married couples.
Two good parents are better than one good parent, Stacey said, but one good
parent is better than two bad parents. And gender seems to make no
difference. While you do find broad differences between how men and women
parent on average, she said, there is much more diversity within the genders
than between them.
"Two heterosexual parents of the same educational background, class, race
and religion are more like each other in the way they parent than one is
like all other women and one is like all other men," she said. [6 Gender
Myths Busted]
Nurturing tolerance
In fact, the only consistent places you find differences between how kids of
gay parents and kids of straight parents turn out are in issues of
tolerance and open-mindedness, according to Goldberg. In a paper published
in 2007 in the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Goldberg conducted in-
depth interviews with 46 adults with at least one gay parent. Twenty-eight
of them spontaneously offered that they felt more open-minded and empathetic
than people not raised in their situation.
"These individuals feel like their perspectives on family, on gender, on
sexuality have largely been enhanced by growing up with gay parents,"
Goldberg said.
One 33-year-old man with a lesbian mother told Goldberg, "I feel I'm a more
open, well-rounded person for having been raised in a nontraditional family,
and I think those that know me would agree. My mom opened me up to the
positive impact of differences in people."
Children of gay parents also reported feeling less stymied by gender
stereotypes than they would have been if raised in straight households. That
's likely because gays and lesbians tend to have more egalitarian
relationships than straight couples, Goldberg said. They're also less wedded
to rigid gender stereotypes themselves.
"Men and women felt like they were free to pursue a wide range of interests,
" Goldberg said. "Nobody was telling them, 'Oh, you can't do that, that's a
boy thing,' or 'That's a girl thing.'"
Same-sex acceptance
If same-sex marriage does disadvantage kids in any way, it has nothing to do
with their parent's gender and everything to do with society's reaction
toward the families, said Indiana University sociologist Brian Powell, the
author of "Counted Out: Same-Sex Relations and Americans' Definitions of
Family" (Russell Sage Foundation, 2010).
"Imagine being a child living in a state with two parents in which, legally,
only one parent is allowed to be their parent," Powell told LiveScience. "
In that situation, the family is not seen as authentic or real by others.
That would be the disadvantage."
In her research, Goldberg has found that many children of gay and lesbian
parents say that more acceptance of gay and lesbian families, not less,
would help solve this problem.
In a study published online Jan. 11, 2012, in the Journal of Marriage and
Family, Goldberg interviewed another group of 49 teenagers and young adults
with gay parents and found that not one of them rejected the right of gays
and lesbians to marry. Most cited legal benefits as well as social
acceptance.
"I was just thinking about this with a couple of friends and just was in
tears thinking about how different my childhood might have been had same-sex
marriage been legalized 25 years ago," a 23-year-old man raised by a
lesbian couple told Goldberg. "The cultural, legal status of same-sex
couples impacts the family narratives of same-sex families — how we see
ourselves in relation to the larger culture, whether we see ourselves as
accepted or outsiders."
http://news.yahoo.com/why-gay-parents-may-best-parents-13190267 | n*******t
发帖数: 7254 | 2 u believe it?
than
last
homes.
the
【在 m******8 的大作中提到】
: By Stephanie Pappas | LiveScience.com
: Gay marriage, and especially gay parenting, has been in the cross hairs in
: recent days.
: On Jan. 6, Republican presidential hopeful Rick Santorum told a New
: Hampshire audience that children are better off with a father in prison than
: being raised in a home with lesbian parents and no father at all. And last
: Monday (Jan. 9), Pope Benedict called gay marriage a threat "to the future
: of humanity itself," citing the need for children to have heterosexual homes.
: But research on families headed by gays and lesbians doesn't back up these
: dire assertions. In fact, in some ways, gay parents may bring talents to the
| L*******e
发帖数: 2202 | 3 我相信这一点，我觉得同志完全没有必要对自己歧视，包括对自己当父母能力的歧视。
【在 n*******t 的大作中提到】
: u believe it?
:
: than
: last
: homes.
: the
| D**S
发帖数: 24887 | 4 没必要不等于不存在.自恨者还远未到消失的程度.
【在 L*******e 的大作中提到】
: 我相信这一点，我觉得同志完全没有必要对自己歧视，包括对自己当父母能力的歧视。
| n*******t
发帖数: 7254 | 5 哦，多性伴ms对孩子影响特别不好。
【在 L*******e 的大作中提到】
: 我相信这一点，我觉得同志完全没有必要对自己歧视，包括对自己当父母能力的歧视。
| m******8
发帖数: 2153 | 6 It's a big effort and a decision for gays to adopt or have own kids. This
self-screening and self-preparation will make a huge difference, compared to
the fact that many heterosexuals simply make babies without careful
thinking.And you can't "drop the baby" once inside a woman's belly in some
states. | L*******e
发帖数: 2202 | 7 汗，怎么又扯到多性伴上来了？ 多性伴的同志一般不会去领养小孩吧。多性伴的异性恋没有考察，不知
道。
【在 n*******t 的大作中提到】
: 哦，多性伴ms对孩子影响特别不好。
| k*****e
发帖数: 22013 | 8 任何事情都可以扯到多性伴。
比如：
骗婚好不好？——骗婚总比多性伴好！
宣传防治艾滋病。——是不是想着不怕爱滋了就可以放心滥交啦？
同志当父母好不好？——多性伴当父母肯定对孩子不好！
回国生活真爽啊。——多性伴都可以BSO，回国当然也可以BSO。
今天天气真好啊！——在这好天气里，更要打倒多性伴！
【在 L*******e 的大作中提到】
: 汗，怎么又扯到多性伴上来了？ 多性伴的同志一般不会去领养小孩吧。多性伴的异性恋没有考察，不知
: 道。
| g********d
发帖数: 4174 | 9 上了弦了，多性伴。。。,多性伴。。.
【在 n*******t 的大作中提到】
: 哦，多性伴ms对孩子影响特别不好。
| m******1
发帖数: 19713 | 10 强烈反对多性伴侣的和强烈反对同性恋的理由和做法如出一辙。
反对同性恋的总是一副为了人类大义的样子，唯恐如此泛滥下去同性恋就把人类毁了；
反对多性伴侣的也是如此，提到多性伴侣就如临大敌，以为如此下去，同性恋群体的道
德堡垒完全就要毁在多性伴侣的手里了。。。
真是笑话啊！！
当我们与恐同者斗争的时候，我们讥笑他们的所谓人类大意是多么的虚伪和荒谬，可是
为什么当我们面对多性伴侣的时候，却看不到自己的荒谬了？？
担心多性伴侣毁了道德堡垒也是杞人忧天。
你以为不干涉别人的多性伴侣自由就能让选择多性伴侣生活方式的人数比例增多了吗？
你以为任凭什么人想要多性伴侣就能有多性伴侣的吗？
能选择所谓“滥交”的生活方式的毕竟也只是正态分布里的一小部分人，首先，你得有
那个资本，你个人条件得好，不说你貌比潘安也要赛过刘德华吧？否则，你想多性伴侣
？做梦去吧，谁要你啊。所以你凭什么就以为多性伴侣只要一“提倡”就能野火燎原了
呢？你担心什么多性伴侣你不是杞人忧天是什么？ | n*******t
发帖数: 7254 | 11 赞
【在 k*****e 的大作中提到】
: 任何事情都可以扯到多性伴。
: 比如：
: 骗婚好不好？——骗婚总比多性伴好！
: 宣传防治艾滋病。——是不是想着不怕爱滋了就可以放心滥交啦？
: 同志当父母好不好？——多性伴当父母肯定对孩子不好！
: 回国生活真爽啊。——多性伴都可以BSO，回国当然也可以BSO。
: 今天天气真好啊！——在这好天气里，更要打倒多性伴！
| v**********m
发帖数: 5516 | 12 唉，遗弃孩子的父母真是垃圾啊。
than
last
homes.
the
【在 m******8 的大作中提到】
: By Stephanie Pappas | LiveScience.com
: Gay marriage, and especially gay parenting, has been in the cross hairs in
: recent days.
: On Jan. 6, Republican presidential hopeful Rick Santorum told a New
: Hampshire audience that children are better off with a father in prison than
: being raised in a home with lesbian parents and no father at all. And last
: Monday (Jan. 9), Pope Benedict called gay marriage a threat "to the future
: of humanity itself," citing the need for children to have heterosexual homes.
: But research on families headed by gays and lesbians doesn't back up these
: dire assertions. In fact, in some ways, gay parents may bring talents to the
| a**********0
发帖数: 1091 | | D**S
发帖数: 24887 | 14 下次你扯淡的时候，请最起码检查一下拼音是否正确。
【在 a**********0 的大作中提到】
: chi dan
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