d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 1 【 以下文字转载自 USANews 讨论区 】
发信人: dcbang (认真学习，努力思考，使劲白唬), 信区: USANews
标 题: 扮演受害者:Victim playing
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 18 10:18:19 2016, 美东)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing
扮演受害者:
１。往往是为了欺负别人。欺负别人的人喜欢说对方怎么怎么欺负我了。以此来麻痹自
己的良心。以及获取别人对他的欺负行为的支持。
２。往往是为了逃避自己的责任。好比酗酒的人说我好可怜啊。好比不努力的人说我真
的使出吃奶的劲，但你看我咋这么笨。
Victim playing (also known as playing the victim or self-victimization) is
the fabrication of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify
abuse of others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy or attention
seeking. Where a person is known for regular victim playing, the person may
be referred to as a professional victim.
By abusers[edit]
Victim playing by abusers is either:
diverting attention away from acts of abuse by claiming that the abuse was
justified based on another person's bad behavior (typically the victim)[
citation needed]
soliciting sympathy from others in order to gain their assistance in
supporting or enabling the abuse of a victim (known as proxy abuse).[
citation needed]
It is common for abusers to engage in victim playing.[citation needed] This
serves two purposes:
justification to themselves – as a way of dealing with the cognitive
dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat
others and what they believe about themselves.[citation needed]
justification to others – as a way of escaping harsh judgment or
condemnation they may fear from others.[citation needed]
By manipulators[edit]
Manipulators often play the victim role ("poor me") by portraying themselves
as victims of circumstances or someone else's behavior in order to gain
pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from
another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone
suffering, and the manipulator often finds it easy and rewarding to play on
sympathy to get cooperation.[1]
Other types[edit]
Victim playing is also:
an attention seeking technique (see for example Münchausen syndrome, Mü
nchausen syndrome by proxy and Münchausen by Internet).
a strategy used by alcoholics to elicit constructive criticism, rescue, or
enabling behavior from others.[2]
In corporate life[edit]
The language of "victim playing" has entered modern corporate life, as a
weapon of use even for the most competent of professionals.[3] To define
victim-players as dishonest may be an empowering response;[4] as too may be
awareness of how childhood boundary issues can underlay the tactic.[5]
In the hustle of office politics, the term may however be abused so as to
penalize the legitimate victim of injustice, as well as the role-player.
Underlying psychology[edit]
Transactional analysis distinguishes real victims from those who adopt the
role in bad faith, ignoring their own capacities to improve their situation.
[6] Among the games Eric Berne identified as played by the latter are "Look
How Hard I've Tried" and "Wooden Leg".[7]
R. D. Laing considered that “it will be difficult in practice to determine
whether or to what extent a relationship is collusive” – when “the one
person is predominantly the passive 'victim'”,[8] and when they are merely
playing the victim. The problem is intensified once a pattern of
victimization has been internalised, perhaps in the form of a double bind.[9]
Object relations theory has explored the way possession by a false self can
create a permanent sense of victimisation[10] - a sense of always being in
the hands of an external fate.[11]
To break the hold of the negative complex, and to escape the passivity of
victim-hood, requires taking responsibility for one's own desires and long-
term actions.[12] | d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 2 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis
Transactional analysis翻译成“沟通分析”？ 好像没听说过。。。后福罗依德？
人生四态:
1.我好你好 I'm OK and you are OK. - This is the healthiest position about
life and it means that I feel good about myself and that I feel good about
others and their competence.
2.我很好，但别人都有病 I'm OK and you are not OK. In this position I feel
good about myself but I see others as damaged or less than and it is usually
not healthy,
3.就我不好，别人都特好 I'm not OK and you are OK. In this position the
person sees him/herself as the weak partner in relationships as the others
in life are definitely better than the self. The person who holds this
position will unconsciously accept abuse as OK.
4.我有病，全社会都有病 I'm not OK and you are not OK. This is the worst
position to be in as it means that I believe that I am in a terrible state
and the rest of the world is as bad. Consequently, there is no hope for any
ultimate supports.[8] | d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 3 One more : 啥是控制狂
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_and_control_in_abusive_rela
Control freaks are
often perfectionists[2] defending themselves against their own inner
vulnerabilities in the belief that if they are not in total control they
risk exposing themselves once more to childhood angst.[3]
Such persons manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having
to change themselves,[4] and use power over others to escape an inner
emptiness.[5]
about
about
usually
【在 d****g 的大作中提到】
: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis
: Transactional analysis翻译成“沟通分析”？ 好像没听说过。。。后福罗依德？
: 人生四态:
: 1.我好你好 I'm OK and you are OK. - This is the healthiest position about
: life and it means that I feel good about myself and that I feel good about
: others and their competence.
: 2.我很好，但别人都有病 I'm OK and you are not OK. In this position I feel
: good about myself but I see others as damaged or less than and it is usually
: not healthy,
: 3.就我不好，别人都特好 I'm not OK and you are OK. In this position the
| M********s
发帖数: 24729 | 4 扮演受害者都是家长溺爱惯出来的毛病，如果自己是强者就不必耍花招装可怜强迫对方
给予了，可怜之人必有可恨之处，哀其不幸怒其不争，Loser！
【在 d****g 的大作中提到】
: One more : 啥是控制狂
: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_and_control_in_abusive_rela
: Control freaks are
: often perfectionists[2] defending themselves against their own inner
: vulnerabilities in the belief that if they are not in total control they
: risk exposing themselves once more to childhood angst.[3]
: Such persons manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having
: to change themselves,[4] and use power over others to escape an inner
: emptiness.[5]
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