m********8
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B******1
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b*******c
发帖数: 20683 | 3 孩子爸赚钱多就请保姆，如果赚的又少又不体谅老婆不干活，就参见楼上的建议。
【在 m********8 的大作中提到】
: 我每天天昏地暗暗无天日度日如年阿
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r****z
发帖数: 12020 | 4 Re
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: Divorce!
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m********8
发帖数: 7463 | 5 梨了孩子就没爹了。好歹装装样子也比没有强吧
你们都太狠了
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: Divorce!
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 6 那就忍着。忍无可忍，从头再忍。过上几十年，习惯了就好了。 |
B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 7 Not necessarily true.
【在 m********8 的大作中提到】
: 梨了孩子就没爹了。好歹装装样子也比没有强吧
: 你们都太狠了
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l***r
发帖数: 1257 | 8 这样的爹也不是孩子的好榜样。
从小事开始，从他力所能及的开始慢慢培养吧，比如陪玩，读书，接送等等。慢慢感情
好了他就自觉参与了。是不是mm以前太大包大揽，把老公惯坏了。 |
x*******g
发帖数: 1363 | 9 先从一周一次开始。找个借口，比如锻炼身体，出去2，3个小时。等爸爸上手了，再加
一个session\week。爸爸不喜欢有妈妈在旁边指手画脚。
【在 m********8 的大作中提到】
: 我每天天昏地暗暗无天日度日如年阿
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s*********t
发帖数: 4279 | 10 哎，跟我的想法一样啊。纠结啊。
仔细想想挺讨厌他的。当初还说喜欢孩子想要孩子，结果孩子生了，原来他是一个怕麻
烦的主儿。日现在什么不做什么不管居然还说想要第二个。
【在 m********8 的大作中提到】
: 梨了孩子就没爹了。好歹装装样子也比没有强吧
: 你们都太狠了
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s*********t
发帖数: 4279 | 11 举个例子说明一下。奥巴马除外。
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: Not necessarily true.
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s*********t
发帖数: 4279 | 12 可是人家觉得和孩子在一起没劲怎么办？反复说了多次父亲对小孩子的重要性，就是不
愿意花时间怎么办？
老公的坏习惯坏德行不是老婆弄出来的，是自己的修养不好。自己的修行好坏，怪不得
别人。
【在 l***r 的大作中提到】
: 这样的爹也不是孩子的好榜样。
: 从小事开始，从他力所能及的开始慢慢培养吧，比如陪玩，读书，接送等等。慢慢感情
: 好了他就自觉参与了。是不是mm以前太大包大揽，把老公惯坏了。
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 13 梨了孩子就没爹了。好歹装装样子也比没有强吧
Answer: Not necessarily true.
Choice:
1) Find a better one. That is the best option.
2) No disrespect to LZ's hubby, but according to LZ' short description, he
did almost nothing when raising a child is concerned. I assume that LZ must
have spent some time TAKING CARE of her hubby from time time. So the net
contribution (other than financially) is NEGATIVE or merely a liability.
Most financial advisor might say: Get rid of the debt and liability!
3) An added benefit is that once the non-contributing member is removed from
the household, the total output of that family might increase due to the
efficiency of the operation. No need to cook a huge dinner for two everday!
No need to wash those dirty laundries. No need to work hard in the kitchen
while listening to the hubby cheering over his favorite teams. You are in
full control. You decide what is the priority. You are in the driver's seat.
4 ) If the hubby is contributing nothing, I do not see anything positive for
him to stay in the formula except for provided weekly private entertainment
for LZ. Maybe you need his muscles when lifting a 20 lb rice bag. But the
little one will reach that weight in no time! And who will carry him/her?
5) Finally, an independent woman may have much more confidence entering the
workforce later. As to to financial support part, there are laws to protect
single mom who has no income.
Hope the above helps.
【在 s*********t 的大作中提到】
: 举个例子说明一下。奥巴马除外。
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f*****e
发帖数: 1889 | 14 这个回复太强了.
must
from
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: 梨了孩子就没爹了。好歹装装样子也比没有强吧
: Answer: Not necessarily true.
: Choice:
: 1) Find a better one. That is the best option.
: 2) No disrespect to LZ's hubby, but according to LZ' short description, he
: did almost nothing when raising a child is concerned. I assume that LZ must
: have spent some time TAKING CARE of her hubby from time time. So the net
: contribution (other than financially) is NEGATIVE or merely a liability.
: Most financial advisor might say: Get rid of the debt and liability!
: 3) An added benefit is that once the non-contributing member is removed from
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N*****m
发帖数: 42603 | 15 那你是怎么找到这样的老公的？
【在 s*********t 的大作中提到】
: 可是人家觉得和孩子在一起没劲怎么办？反复说了多次父亲对小孩子的重要性，就是不
: 愿意花时间怎么办？
: 老公的坏习惯坏德行不是老婆弄出来的，是自己的修养不好。自己的修行好坏，怪不得
: 别人。
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p*i
发帖数: 1328 | 16 You are truly an idealist. When governments are in deficit, nobody except
you and your spouse will provide for the family. Two paychecks are always
better than one. When people are old, they kinda stick to what they have
because it is more likely than not that you will never find a better one, at
least for your kid.
must
from
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: 梨了孩子就没爹了。好歹装装样子也比没有强吧
: Answer: Not necessarily true.
: Choice:
: 1) Find a better one. That is the best option.
: 2) No disrespect to LZ's hubby, but according to LZ' short description, he
: did almost nothing when raising a child is concerned. I assume that LZ must
: have spent some time TAKING CARE of her hubby from time time. So the net
: contribution (other than financially) is NEGATIVE or merely a liability.
: Most financial advisor might say: Get rid of the debt and liability!
: 3) An added benefit is that once the non-contributing member is removed from
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 17 Once divorced, the spouses will split their common assets. The working
spouse has to provide monthly allowance to the counterpart who is
raising the child. Those are the laws I referred to, not the money from the
government.
at
【在 p*i 的大作中提到】
: You are truly an idealist. When governments are in deficit, nobody except
: you and your spouse will provide for the family. Two paychecks are always
: better than one. When people are old, they kinda stick to what they have
: because it is more likely than not that you will never find a better one, at
: least for your kid.
:
: must
: from
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N*****m
发帖数: 42603 | 18 哪有这么简单？
有的打官司都能打7、8年，孩子都成年了
一家子的钱都给了律师
the
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: Once divorced, the spouses will split their common assets. The working
: spouse has to provide monthly allowance to the counterpart who is
: raising the child. Those are the laws I referred to, not the money from the
: government.
:
: at
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m**n
发帖数: 9010 | 19 基本上不争抚养权的话, 官司没太多好打的.
家庭财产对半分, allowance法律规定的相对比较清楚 - 当然
有法官灵活掌握的部分, 但这些总比较好商量.
要争抚养权的话, 就没的商量了.
【在 N*****m 的大作中提到】
: 哪有这么简单？
: 有的打官司都能打7、8年，孩子都成年了
: 一家子的钱都给了律师
:
: the
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N*****m
发帖数: 42603 | 20 争抚养权的目的是啥，还不是为了钱
啥事情都想得太简单
【在 m**n 的大作中提到】
: 基本上不争抚养权的话, 官司没太多好打的.
: 家庭财产对半分, allowance法律规定的相对比较清楚 - 当然
: 有法官灵活掌握的部分, 但这些总比较好商量.
: 要争抚养权的话, 就没的商量了.
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m**n
发帖数: 9010 | 21 未必吧.
【在 N*****m 的大作中提到】
: 争抚养权的目的是啥，还不是为了钱
: 啥事情都想得太简单
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N*****m
发帖数: 42603 | 22 嗯，是绝对了点
【在 m**n 的大作中提到】
: 未必吧.
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p*i
发帖数: 1328 | 23 Even if there is no lawsuit, two households are more expensive than one
household. Any divorcee can tell you that most child support barely covers
the child's food and clothes, assuming the ex-spouse will indeed pay the
child support. If you want to collect child support from the deadbeat ex,
you need to bring another lawsuit. As one of my lawyer friends said, a
lawsuit means money for lawyers and misery for both plaintiff and defendant.
For a family with income just enough to make ends meet, divorce is probably
not the best option.
the
【在 B******1 的大作中提到】
: Once divorced, the spouses will split their common assets. The working
: spouse has to provide monthly allowance to the counterpart who is
: raising the child. Those are the laws I referred to, not the money from the
: government.
:
: at
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i*****k
发帖数: 2576 | 24 你就不能找个理由趁他在家的时候出门？比如站在门口说出门，不管答应不答应，立刻
出门开车走。
【在 s*********t 的大作中提到】
: 哎，跟我的想法一样啊。纠结啊。
: 仔细想想挺讨厌他的。当初还说喜欢孩子想要孩子，结果孩子生了，原来他是一个怕麻
: 烦的主儿。日现在什么不做什么不管居然还说想要第二个。
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i*****k
发帖数: 2576 | 25 那就不要劝说，改成分派，和家务一样分摊。谁都不愿意干家务，觉得干家务没劲就可
以逃过吗？
修养不好的人也可以用约束让他的行为符合普遍的标准。
【在 s*********t 的大作中提到】
: 可是人家觉得和孩子在一起没劲怎么办？反复说了多次父亲对小孩子的重要性，就是不
: 愿意花时间怎么办？
: 老公的坏习惯坏德行不是老婆弄出来的，是自己的修养不好。自己的修行好坏，怪不得
: 别人。
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