d******u
发帖数: 121 | 1 姐姐不到5岁，弟弟快2岁，姐姐白天上daycare,晚上回来和弟弟玩，10分钟不到就开始
掐架，大多是弟弟看到姐姐的玩具就想要，知道叫好姐姐或是拿手上的玩具交换，但如
果姐姐坚持不给就开始吼叫，姐姐也特别倔，不给就是不给，结果就是我们训姐姐或是
让弟弟哭，真是头疼 |
f*******r
发帖数: 1348 | 2 进来学习，我家两姐弟和你家的年龄差距一样。还好现在弟弟还小。感觉也会迟早发生
你家的这情况。 |
q****m
发帖数: 1094 | 3 就是就是，天天抢。
怎么办？
曾经试过买两个一样的玩具，结果还是抢对方手里的那个，偏要说两个就是不一样。 |
a**e
发帖数: 5794 | 4 带去教堂，让耶稣感化他们。
【在 d******u 的大作中提到】
: 姐姐不到5岁，弟弟快2岁，姐姐白天上daycare,晚上回来和弟弟玩，10分钟不到就开始
: 掐架，大多是弟弟看到姐姐的玩具就想要，知道叫好姐姐或是拿手上的玩具交换，但如
: 果姐姐坚持不给就开始吼叫，姐姐也特别倔，不给就是不给，结果就是我们训姐姐或是
: 让弟弟哭，真是头疼
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S******7
发帖数: 219 | 5 抢着抢着就长大了，我家一个6一个4，还抢，都抢了好多年了，哈哈！ |
m*******a
发帖数: 2947 | 6 确实抢着抢着就长大了。对父母的要求就是：对哭声要容忍度高些，哭一哭，有利于疏
通堵住的鼻子。 |
x*******g
发帖数: 1363 | 7 I have been using this rule for years, very useful in my case:
If I heard that kids are fighting a toy, I don't care whose fault it is , i
will take the toy away immediately for 5 mins so nobody can play it.
I learned that trick from the book -- help kids to solve their problems by
themselves. They will know once they started fighting, none of them can
play. So they will try to persuade the other side or take turn.
For a 2 years , you may have to add a little twist to it. since the 2 years
old really can't understand the rule yet. |
k******b
发帖数: 4501 | 8 设立规则，和娃在外面时一样对待?
比如说，2岁娃在外面玩抢别人的玩具怎么办? 你可能会说: wait until it is your
turn. 家里也如此。 弟弟下，应该逐渐学习遵从规则。 家长不能认为姐姐年纪大就该
无条件的让弟弟。
这是从前一老美同事的经验。他有3 个10 多岁的孩子，我们问他如何管理。他说就是
制定规则,大家都按规则办事。 |
k******b
发帖数: 4501 | 9 A little information on how to teach the toddlers manners from http://www.babycenter.com:
........
Try for playdate civility. Toddlers' first quarrels are usually over sharing
their toys, which from their perspective is an outrageous thing to ask of
them. Don't expect sainthood, but you'll do your child a favor if you start
teaching her now that when other kids are around she can't hog all the toys,
whether at home or at daycare or preschool. Lay down some simple ground
rules: If there's a favorite one-person toy, everybody takes a turn with it.
Nobody gets to decide how somebody else plays with a toy, as long as the
toy's not being damaged. Nobody gets to hit, shove, or call people names.
Respond to infractions with a clear warning, and, if necessary, an immediate
end to the playtime. Finally, don't forget to praise your child —
specifically naming the swell thing she just did ("It was nice of you to let
Tyler throw your ball") — when she does behave generously or thoughtfully
around other kids. And don't forget to lead by example; grabbing the TV
remote from your spouse and changing the channel is the exact sort of
behavior you want to discourage in your child.
【在 k******b 的大作中提到】
: 设立规则，和娃在外面时一样对待?
: 比如说，2岁娃在外面玩抢别人的玩具怎么办? 你可能会说: wait until it is your
: turn. 家里也如此。 弟弟下，应该逐渐学习遵从规则。 家长不能认为姐姐年纪大就该
: 无条件的让弟弟。
: 这是从前一老美同事的经验。他有3 个10 多岁的孩子，我们问他如何管理。他说就是
: 制定规则,大家都按规则办事。
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v********e
发帖数: 2558 | 10 规定时间啊，一人玩5分钟，每人可以有2、3样属于自己的玩具，只有他们自己才能说
了算，其余的玩具全部“充公”。
【在 d******u 的大作中提到】
: 姐姐不到5岁，弟弟快2岁，姐姐白天上daycare,晚上回来和弟弟玩，10分钟不到就开始
: 掐架，大多是弟弟看到姐姐的玩具就想要，知道叫好姐姐或是拿手上的玩具交换，但如
: 果姐姐坚持不给就开始吼叫，姐姐也特别倔，不给就是不给，结果就是我们训姐姐或是
: 让弟弟哭，真是头疼
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z********e
发帖数: 8818 | 11 喜欢这个！
我家一开始也很头疼这个问题，后来我制定规则：任何人不能抢别人手上玩具，但一旦
妈妈看到有一方看中另一方手上的玩具，马上告诉持有方，你还有五分钟的时间玩，接
下来就轮到别人了。（如果等五分钟的那个是小的，他会哭，哭就让他哭，必须等五分
钟）。这样坚持了几天，基本就不怎么抢了，估计他们觉得等来等去挺烦的哈哈。
个人觉得具体什么规矩不重要，重要的是有规矩且一视同仁，坚持执行。
【在 x*******g 的大作中提到】
: I have been using this rule for years, very useful in my case:
: If I heard that kids are fighting a toy, I don't care whose fault it is , i
: will take the toy away immediately for 5 mins so nobody can play it.
: I learned that trick from the book -- help kids to solve their problems by
: themselves. They will know once they started fighting, none of them can
: play. So they will try to persuade the other side or take turn.
: For a 2 years , you may have to add a little twist to it. since the 2 years
: old really can't understand the rule yet.
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