z****s
发帖数: 650 | 1 觉得生活不容易，有太多痛苦和挫折。小时候被淘气的男生欺负，工作了被领导欺负。
到美国读书被老板剥削，被实验室师姐欺负。生离死别各种的痛苦时不时就在生活中发
生。经常觉得这一切都只是为了生下来了就得要活下去，应了那句话：活着是一种修炼。
我有时候会想，如果当初我没有被生下来，这些痛苦的过程就不会发生，为什么我就被
生下来了呢？我父母经常在说我应该有小孩了，可是他/她真的就想要我把他/她生下来
吗？为了自己把一个生命带到这个世界上来，到底应不应该？ |
n****y
发帖数: 6260 | |
i*****8
发帖数: 6735 | 3 this sounds like depression...
炼。
【在 z****s 的大作中提到】
: 觉得生活不容易，有太多痛苦和挫折。小时候被淘气的男生欺负，工作了被领导欺负。
: 到美国读书被老板剥削，被实验室师姐欺负。生离死别各种的痛苦时不时就在生活中发
: 生。经常觉得这一切都只是为了生下来了就得要活下去，应了那句话：活着是一种修炼。
: 我有时候会想，如果当初我没有被生下来，这些痛苦的过程就不会发生，为什么我就被
: 生下来了呢？我父母经常在说我应该有小孩了，可是他/她真的就想要我把他/她生下来
: 吗？为了自己把一个生命带到这个世界上来，到底应不应该？
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R*********i
发帖数: 7643 | |
h*********e
发帖数: 6997 | 5 30年河东，30年河西。
你命运不好或者你觉得自己命不会，没准到你孩子这儿就变好了。
所以你如果有30了，由河东变河西了，是可以考虑要孩子了。
有了孩子后，教他乐观点，别让你的负面情绪影响孩子。
炼。
【在 z****s 的大作中提到】
: 觉得生活不容易，有太多痛苦和挫折。小时候被淘气的男生欺负，工作了被领导欺负。
: 到美国读书被老板剥削，被实验室师姐欺负。生离死别各种的痛苦时不时就在生活中发
: 生。经常觉得这一切都只是为了生下来了就得要活下去，应了那句话：活着是一种修炼。
: 我有时候会想，如果当初我没有被生下来，这些痛苦的过程就不会发生，为什么我就被
: 生下来了呢？我父母经常在说我应该有小孩了，可是他/她真的就想要我把他/她生下来
: 吗？为了自己把一个生命带到这个世界上来，到底应不应该？
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z****s
发帖数: 650 | 6 孩子长大了点儿背可以赖父母吗？
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 点儿背不要赖社会
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x**t
发帖数: 748 | 7 我觉得想开了人这一辈子就像走一段旅程，不到最后都不知道之间会发生什么，一帆风
顺固然好，到最后回头一看，也许经历的坎坷倒让这一辈子更丰富和宝贵。所以别在意
这些小事。
如果你总这样想就太悲观了，也许有点Depression？这样的话还是调整好再要孩子，家
长的情绪和思维习惯以及人生观会直接引导孩子的成长方向。你每天心里想什么，嘴里
说什么，对孩子说什么，他就会成长成那样的人。
炼。
【在 z****s 的大作中提到】
: 觉得生活不容易，有太多痛苦和挫折。小时候被淘气的男生欺负，工作了被领导欺负。
: 到美国读书被老板剥削，被实验室师姐欺负。生离死别各种的痛苦时不时就在生活中发
: 生。经常觉得这一切都只是为了生下来了就得要活下去，应了那句话：活着是一种修炼。
: 我有时候会想，如果当初我没有被生下来，这些痛苦的过程就不会发生，为什么我就被
: 生下来了呢？我父母经常在说我应该有小孩了，可是他/她真的就想要我把他/她生下来
: 吗？为了自己把一个生命带到这个世界上来，到底应不应该？
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z**c
发帖数: 7595 | |
c***e
发帖数: 1207 | 9 养孩子是个很大的责任, 还是准备好了以后再要好一些.
炼。
【在 z****s 的大作中提到】
: 觉得生活不容易，有太多痛苦和挫折。小时候被淘气的男生欺负，工作了被领导欺负。
: 到美国读书被老板剥削，被实验室师姐欺负。生离死别各种的痛苦时不时就在生活中发
: 生。经常觉得这一切都只是为了生下来了就得要活下去，应了那句话：活着是一种修炼。
: 我有时候会想，如果当初我没有被生下来，这些痛苦的过程就不会发生，为什么我就被
: 生下来了呢？我父母经常在说我应该有小孩了，可是他/她真的就想要我把他/她生下来
: 吗？为了自己把一个生命带到这个世界上来，到底应不应该？
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R****9
发帖数: 815 | 10 我以前也是这样想的，真的! 所以拖到很大龄才要小孩，还是在老公以离婚相逼的情况
下要的孩子。
可是，自从有了儿子，我整个的世界观都变了，觉得生命是多么美好. 以前觉得多活一天少活一天没有什么区别，现在觉得每天都要好好地活着。It is just so great!!!
我非常地感谢我的老公的坚持，孩子真是上帝的礼物！ |
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 11 that's what you feel, can't gaurantee what your kid will feel
一天少活一天没有什么区别，现在觉得每天都要好好地活着。It is just so great!!!
【在 R****9 的大作中提到】
: 我以前也是这样想的，真的! 所以拖到很大龄才要小孩，还是在老公以离婚相逼的情况
: 下要的孩子。
: 可是，自从有了儿子，我整个的世界观都变了，觉得生命是多么美好. 以前觉得多活一天少活一天没有什么区别，现在觉得每天都要好好地活着。It is just so great!!!
: 我非常地感谢我的老公的坚持，孩子真是上帝的礼物！
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p**********l
发帖数: 1411 | |
D**********R
发帖数: 25234 | 13 小时候也被欺负，但是有朋友站出来撑腰，让我在3岁多的年纪就体会到了友谊的可贵；
上学了也遇到各种各样的老师，优点缺点交织，让我知道了人可以这么复杂，心胸可以
这么宽广；
上班了被领导批评过，被同事责备过，让我学会了做事先为他人考虑，把自己的工作放
到整个项目的高度去考虑，更好的合作，更好地生存；
刚出人世的小bb以为他就是世界的中心，只有不断碰壁，才能把自己塑成合适的社会人
，同时也塑造着身边的社会。 |
B**W
发帖数: 2273 | 14 Nothing is more precious than the gift of life.
As a matter of fact, most young kids are very happy as long as they receive
attention and love besides basic needs. If they are not happy, it is not
because they don't get the best food, the best education, whatsoever; it is
because they don't feel the love from their parents.
!!
【在 k***n 的大作中提到】
: that's what you feel, can't gaurantee what your kid will feel
:
: 一天少活一天没有什么区别，现在觉得每天都要好好地活着。It is just so great!!!
|
k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 15 you can only have some influence when the kid is young, once he's grown up,
the parents rarely have any control what the kid will experience and feel
receive
is
【在 B**W 的大作中提到】
: Nothing is more precious than the gift of life.
: As a matter of fact, most young kids are very happy as long as they receive
: attention and love besides basic needs. If they are not happy, it is not
: because they don't get the best food, the best education, whatsoever; it is
: because they don't feel the love from their parents.
:
: !!
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y*****a
发帖数: 253 | 16 "准备好"的标准是什么啊？等大家准备好了，可能青春就一晃而过了。
是有不少人后悔当初生了孩子，但是有更多的人后悔没有生孩子或者早生孩子。 |
B**W
发帖数: 2273 | 17 That's exactly why we need families. Whenever you think of your parents,
your children, who trust you, support you, and share their love with you,
you will feel strong no matter how hard times are. Of course, if your
parents are not like what you wished, that is a different story.
Plus, grow up, please. Don't behave like a baby. Your parents have no
obligation to take care of you all the time, even though they always love
you and support you. Take on your own responsibility.
,
【在 k***n 的大作中提到】
: you can only have some influence when the kid is young, once he's grown up,
: the parents rarely have any control what the kid will experience and feel
:
: receive
: is
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 18 you're really funny, the parents don't have obligation for their kids when
they grow up that's true, but how can you make sure that it won't be better
for them if they were not born in the first place? you give birth to the
kids out of selfish reasons, not from the children's angle.
【在 B**W 的大作中提到】
: That's exactly why we need families. Whenever you think of your parents,
: your children, who trust you, support you, and share their love with you,
: you will feel strong no matter how hard times are. Of course, if your
: parents are not like what you wished, that is a different story.
: Plus, grow up, please. Don't behave like a baby. Your parents have no
: obligation to take care of you all the time, even though they always love
: you and support you. Take on your own responsibility.
:
: ,
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B**W
发帖数: 2273 | 19 I have no problem if you hate your parents who "gave" you a miserable life,
but I would never think that way.
Plus, it is kinda funny to say parents are more selfish than those who don't
want to sacrifice their money, time, energy, and career to raise kids, in
the name of giving their baby better life. Their "babies" don't even have
life, what does better life mean then?
Last words.
better
【在 k***n 的大作中提到】
: you're really funny, the parents don't have obligation for their kids when
: they grow up that's true, but how can you make sure that it won't be better
: for them if they were not born in the first place? you give birth to the
: kids out of selfish reasons, not from the children's angle.
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 20 it's not just me, do you know how many people suffer from depression? if you
're not aware of the sufferings of the wide population, you're simply
ignorant. you brought a life to the world and refuse to be responsible for
the consequences, what can i say? you're just an irresponsible person.
,
't
【在 B**W 的大作中提到】
: I have no problem if you hate your parents who "gave" you a miserable life,
: but I would never think that way.
: Plus, it is kinda funny to say parents are more selfish than those who don't
: want to sacrifice their money, time, energy, and career to raise kids, in
: the name of giving their baby better life. Their "babies" don't even have
: life, what does better life mean then?
: Last words.
:
: better
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D*a
发帖数: 6830 | |
