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发帖数: 96 | 1 I cannot use Chinese right now, so I can only stick to English. My baby girl
was born the end of Aug, so it is almost 4 months since my delivery. Time
really flies, what amazing thing it is to have a little one to celebrate her
first Xmas after birth.
Let me talk about my current situation. My husband is living in US, just got
a job offer after graduation, I am not in US right now. So for the whole
pregnancy and these days, it is me and my parents taking care of the little
one.
My baby girl was born huge so I had a very difficult delivery, 4th degree
tear, the worst tear. I guess I had 20-30 stitches and needed to do some
repair surgery. I was asked to have blood transfusion but I refused two
times. It was really a very difficult time. I stayed in the hospital for 8
days. But I always think it is better me suffer than my little one. I cannot
bear my little baby suffer any pain. So I endured the unimaginable pain (I
had to sit on the "air bubble" for nearly two months. I cannot sit straight
on the chair due to my wounds.
I feel really grateful for my parents. They really helped me a lot taking
care of her. My parents suddenly became much older. Without them I dont
think I can take care my baby girl alone. It is also not easy to take care
of my baby girl without my husband. It is really not easy to live separate
with my husband. But things can work out. When I was pregnant, the US
economy was really in a bad shape and it was uncertain whether my husband
will stay in US or not. I decided not to come to US until he settles down.
And now I think it is a wise decision not to quit my job so soon though both
of my husband and me make certain sacrifices ourselves. I saw my husband
only once for the past one year.
So when I read the message on whether to accept the offer written by a mum,
I think I am in a similar situation. If I am asked whether I will accept the
offer, I will say "Yes". If I am given a job offer but not in the same city
, I think I will go there for one year. After giving birth to my baby girl,
I really felt the great responsibilities. This world offers more
opportunities to those who are able to afford good education, who have
worldwide vision. It is so important to WORK and have sense of financial
security.
Things will work out. That is really my conclusion. the pain I suffer sooths
out, the problems I face with taking care of baby also can work out step by
step. We need to have strong faith in ourselves to deal with difficult time
. Also I want to say big Thank you to my parents. I also want to say to my
husband we are a family, though we are living in two different places, we
have a common goal. We will live together soon. | y****o
发帖数: 1478 | | y*******y
发帖数: 1093 | | j******i
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发帖数: 463 | | s*******n
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发帖数: 96 | 7 几点补充：
虽然说顺产比较好，也要看妈妈身体状况和小孩大小。这次我4度撕裂就是医生一再要
求我顺产，虽然ultrasound 显示我宝宝比较大，头比较大。结果就是头出不来，宝宝
paulse suddenly drops, 又来不及C SECTION, 强行把小孩子拉出来，导致我伤口大，
当时是blood is everywhere. 及时来了几个医生和护士，把我团团围住哦。所以如果
ULTRASOUND就显示小孩子大个子，尤其头大，就要考虑是否要C.
2。 不哭闹得小宝宝真的比较少，大家要有充分的心理准备。我的宝宝头一两个月睡前
CRY AND WHINE， it takes 2-3 hours to get her sleep. 不过慢慢情况有所好转。
日子慢慢澳出来， 小孩子哭啊闹啊都正常，每个小孩子都不一样，不能比较。Some
have feeding problem, some have sleep problem, some have stomach problem,
some have skin problem. But things will work out. 还是那句话。 |
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