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社会上的人好到哪里
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小飞象进了洞，叫一声桂芳我的亲娘
问亲娘，ldy我的亲爹，我的亲爹他去了何方
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发帖数: 1 | 3 Coworkers Are Not Your Friends
People should just do their job
Maribel Martinez
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Nov 11, 2019 · 4 min read
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Working at the Parks and Recreations Department at the City of Pawnee is my
dream job. Everyone is best friends with everyone else, they know each other
’s hopes and dreams and support each other through their personal and
professional lives. The entire team hangs out inside and outside the office
and just has fun. Plus, they work with Leslie Knope!
Unfortunately, that’s just TV and most of us work in a very different type
of environment. Sure, we may get along with our coworkers and our boss.
Given the time we spend at work, getting along with everyone is probably a
good situation. I spend more time awake at work than I do anywhere else;
except for the weekends. Being happy at the office makes a difference in my
overall mental health.
It’s easy to think of our coworkers as confidants and buddies. Having
friends at work makes getting up in the morning easier. It makes us feel
like we’re part of something and increases job satisfaction. Because of
that, it’s tempting to over-share stories from our personal lives, online
dating mishaps, or talk about other coworkers behind their backs. But, the
reality is that our coworkers are not our friends.
I’ve learned this the hard way.
Ultimately, we are all competing for promotions, salary raises, and
recognition. When one person in your department gets promoted over you,
dynamics at the office can change. While you should always act professional,
nice, and friendly, you don’t need to tell every person at work your deep
dark secrets.
You need to set boundaries.
There are few, let’s call them, “work personalities” I have encountered
while working in an office environment.
The subtle backstabber
The subtle backstabber is someone who acts like they’re your best friend,
but they’re far from it.
This person comes across as someone who has your best interest at hand. He
or she will ask you details about your weekend, your family, your dating
life, and will share some of their grievances with management or office
politics. They will also listen to your grievances and pretend you’re both
on the same page. This person acts like they really care about you as a
person and want you to succeed in life.
However, this person is sharing every detail of your conversations with your
boss or other people in upper management. Why? Because this person’s goal
is to get ahead of everyone else in the company. This person is working
behind the scenes to advance their career ahead of everyone else’s at
whatever cost.
Everything you tell this person will be used against you during a
performance review or during the opportunity for a promotion.
Recognizing this person may be difficult at first, but eventually, you will
realize none of your conversations are safe, and it is better to keep your
thoughts to yourself and behave professionally while keeping your distance.
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The Non-So-Subtle Backstabber
The Non-So-Subtle Backstabber is someone you know right away can’t be
trusted. This person may have a reputation already at the time you first
start your job. Someone will warn you to not trust or share any information
with them unless it is absolutely necessary. You may also immediately
recognize this person as soon as you interact with them.
The Non-So-Subtle Backstabber is someone who is constantly trying to get the
boss’s attention, walking into his or her office all the time to casually
drop in for a conversation, and telling stories nobody cares about.
This coworker is also likely the type to complain about being paid less than
everyone else, or getting less recognition than others without recognizing
they’re probably not that good at their job.
This coworker may also follow in the same category as the following
personality.
The Gossiper
The definition of a gossiper speaks for itself. This is someone who will
share all of your secrets with anyone who will listen. They may even
exaggerate or lie about anything you tell them.
Over-sharing details about your personal life and finances will this person
can come back to haunt you.
Share nothing about your life with this person.
The One Who Knows Your Ex (somehow!)
It doesn’t matter how big the town is where you live, it is a damn small
world.
It’s very likely someone you work with is somehow connected to someone from
your world outside of work. Your new coworker may go to the same yoga class
as your ex or is married to your new girlfriend’s sister. Who knows!
Next thing you know, word gets around about you having one too many drinks
or flirting with the cute office mate at the company’s Christmas party.
Being professional becomes even more important in this situation since your
worlds have merged.
Trust me, this has happened to me.
You won’t recognize this personality until it is too late. Social media may
be the culprit to discover these connections.
The goal at work is to be very cordial, and make small talk when it’s
appropriate, but it’s better to avoid any drama or problems that could
arise from mixing personal relationships with professional ones.
Always act professionally at work. You don’t need to be best buds with your
coworkers. Be respectful, nice, and friendly. Refrain from gossiping and do
your job.
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: 我从小到大 同学里很多还不如同事呢 各种煞笔同学嫉贤妒能要不就是损人利己 没比
: 社会上的人好到哪里
: 同事里面照样也有人品好的
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发帖数: 1 | 4 Cold Hard Truths About The Workplace I Learned The Hard Way
co workers are not your friends
5 min read
Have you ever been let down by a colleague who you thought was a friend? Or
how about getting drunk at the office party? If so, you’re not alone.
But here’s the thing: You can’t mix your professional and personal life.
And that’s not a great thing to hear, right? We all desperately want to
have a great time at work. And I get it.
You spend more time at work than any other place in your life, so it’s
important to enjoy what you do. But doing what you love and workplace rules
are two different things.
That took me a long time to understand. Granted, I’m a stubborn idiot who
has to learn things the hard way. But one thing I’ve learned about the
workplace is this: Things are not what they seem.
Here are five cold hard truths about the workplace. Understanding them will
help improve your professional life.
1. Co-Workers Are Not Your Friends
You’re supposed to be best friends with your co-workers. At least, that’s
what people who call the shots at organizations want you to believe. But don
’t be fooled by all the phoniness.
It all starts with the recruitment process. Recruiters, HR folks, hiring
managers, they all try to convince you that they have an open culture. That
they value teamwork. And honesty.
It’s all BS. All organizations are the same. Why? Because people are the
same. We just can’t help it. We’re all competitive. It’s naïve to
pretend that’s not true.
Is that a bad thing? No, not at all. Just don’t look at your co-workers as
friends because you expect too much from them. It’s a whole different
dynamic. At work, people are there to earn a living.
What do you think? That they will sacrifice a paycheck for your friendship?
Not going to happen. Just be mindful of that and do your job.
Stay professional. And have a good time with people at work. See them as
professional relationships. Nothing more. Nothing less.
2. Perception Is Reality
This one is my least favorite truth and the one that I never got used to.
And probably never will. That’s my flaw.
Look, you can pretend it’s not about appearances at work, but it is.
Looking busy and actually being busy are the same thing.
Why? Because perception equals reality. If you’re perceived as the office
clown, you are one. No matter how hard you work.
If you’re perceived as a naysayer who always goes home at 5 pm, you are one
. And no one will offer you any opportunities.
Now, all this doesn’t mean you should ONLY be about appearances. Of course
not. The reality is much more subtle. It’s about understanding that you
have to be ‘visibile’, as people at corporations love to call it, and
professional.
3. Open Doors Are Not Really Open
How familiar does this scenario sound?
You’re in a meeting. And your manager or co-worker says that you’re free
to speak your mind. In fact, you’re always welcome to walk in the office of
your boss. “The door is always open.” Literally and figuratively.
So you decide to speak your mind. You listen to them and try to be honest
with your feedback. What happens? Suddenly, you become an enemy. A defector.
Someone who doesn’t fit in.
Think that scenario is too harsh? Think again. That’s what brutal honesty
does to people. Why? Feedback, criticism, etc, is often viewed as an attack.
That has nothing to do with you. Most people are bad at receiving feedback.
Again, we’re human beings. We don’t like it.
So never be too honest. Does that make you fake? No, it makes you empathetic
. Work on the way you deliver your feedback or criticism.
The ignorant people always say something like: “Why the hell should I
change? Those people should grow up and not be offended by my criticism.”
And that’s exactly the problem with ‘honest’ people. They’re idiots (me
included). Why? You can’t change others. But you can change yourself.
4. Couples Are Targets
Research shows that the more you see someone, the more attractive they
become. That’s why you’re suddenly attracted to that co-worker you didn’t
notice before. And on one TGIF drinks, you start talking, some light
touching happens, and boom: A spark. So you grab dinner together.
And the rest happens automatically. Before you know it, you’re in a
relationship with a co-worker. Shit happens. And I’ve been there too. It’s
not necessarily a bad thing.
But it sure can be if you handle it wrong. Because couples often get this ‘
us against the rest’ feeling at work. And that’s not good. Because if you
rely too much on each other, you become targets of gossip. And that kind of
stuff is not helpful when you want to make your next move in the company.
It’s best to keep your love life and work-life separated. Literally.
5. Irreplaceable People Get Special Treatment
“It’s not fair. John gets away with everything!” Yes, because John is a
superstar. That’s how it works.
Every firm, business unit, and the team has a John or Johanna. Someone who’
s accountable for the majority of the results. Someone the company relies on
. Naturally, Johanna is favored and gets special treatment. And what happens
? Others get jealous and say it’s not fair.
Sure, most businesses are very obvious about the way they reward their Johns
. They could be more subtle. But when they do that, they risk that John or
Johanna leaves their company. And when that happens, the company loses. You
can cry or complain about it. But you’re not helping your company or
yourself.
The truth is: Some people are irreplaceable, and some can be replaced easily
. It’s time to become the former.
There you go. These are my observations about the workplace. It’s not all
based on scientific research. It’s based on my experience and common sense.
Can I be wrong? For sure. In fact, I want to be wrong.
So please, prove me wrong and make change happen at your company. Because I
hope that these truths become misconceptions in the future.
But we need you to make that happen.
【在 r******e 的大作中提到】
: 我从小到大 同学里很多还不如同事呢 各种煞笔同学嫉贤妒能要不就是损人利己 没比
: 社会上的人好到哪里
: 同事里面照样也有人品好的
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