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发帖数: 605 | 1 I have been feeling so depressed in the past 48 hours, especially from the
Princeton Chinese community. It's not news that Chinese are pro-Trump this
time, but it's so shocking to see people who harassed or humiliated females/
LGBT/ minority claim they were never sexists/ racist/ xenophobes.
I'm not saying people can't have their own political opinions, but this may
way beyond a president preference. A guy just commented under some twitter
photos where minority people were attached since the election. He said "I'm
not a black or Latino, not a gay, not Muslim, not an illegal immigrant, not
a female, why should I care about them?"
Yea, why?
It's so sad that I can't simply explain why.
Two years ago when I just arrived Princeton, a male Chinese phd who
accomplished his bachelor degree in the U.S., questioned me, "Why do you, a
girl, also came here for a doctoral degree? Do you know anything about the
latest Chanel bag? Shame on you." And other men at the same table laughed. I
have to admit I'm weak; even now, I don't know how to respond.
I'm not 100% straight - more than a handful men at Princeton told me LGBT
were mental disease. They looked so confused: "You are a pretty girl, why do
you want to hang out with gays or lesbians?"
I have had the wish to adopt a Hispanic girl for a while. They are scared by
this idea and tell me no no no don't interact with those people.
Even worse, I was almost raped a few months ago, and a few "friends"
responded oh you know, your fight might hurt that guy's feeling...
...... ......
All of these happened here, our lovely peaceful bubble Princeton. I bet they
, who usually look shy and smile, will never say the above things to a white
lady, or a black/ latino woman, but will and have already to me, and maybe
other Chinese girls.
I write all these down not to show how "political right" I am and how nasty
others are. I just simply can't hold all these negative feelings I have
gathered in the past two years and a half to myself any more. It hurts SO
much when all the attacks are from my own ethnic group, especially when many
of them may explain as "that's all because you are not a good person".
Why should you care?
I don't know. | l********1
发帖数: 605 | 2 Hey guys, thank you all for the support! I really appreciate it. I got a lot
of messages from Chinese friends saying they are with me, and they feel the
same but are not brave enough to speak for themselves. In the meanwhile I
also received messages requiring me to delete the post and apologize,
because I'm creating a terrible image of Chinese people. First, I won't
delete. I mean it. Second, can I say some of those people who required
deleting are from whom I, and others got suffer from? Sometimes people can't
realize when they are hurting people. Maybe they just forgot how they
regarded females as a whore just because they were able to talk about sex in
the public. Maybe people think it's not a big deal to say "don't you feel
shamed about your A-cup? Look at that white girl!" It may also be okay to
comment "why do you dress so weirdly? Didn't know your bf like this type!"
and laugh loud. Plus examples are endless like "I don't want to have lunch
with you because of your gay friend; I'm not against gay I just feel
uncomfortable seeing them". It's highly likely that some people think all of
these are JUST jokes and it's my fault to take them this seriously. Yes I (
and not only me) take them seriously, but it's NOT my (our) fault. I admit I
did say extreme words on the election night in a group chat and I feel
truly sorry for those I hurt. However, it's not because I got different
opinions from that chat that I came here to revenge. It's because I have
encountered bad things and got crashed when I saw people who harassed or
humiliated females/ LGBT claim they were never sexists, and so forth. People
also question why I posted this on Facebook and in English, accusing that I
just want to throw mud to Chinese people to show I'm political right or "
white". This is not true. I have lived in the mainland China for 22 years,
and I went to college in Beijing. All those wonderful memories brought me to
the person I am today. I share my experience of the past two and a half
years at Princeton here to speak for myself, and support everyone who is
undergoing discrimination or harassment but doesn't dare to express. Stay
strong. | k**0
发帖数: 19737 | 3 depressed my ass
Learn how to accept the fact and stop being a loser! | h*******i
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