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发帖数: 172 | 1 (A self reflection many years. To the old times.)
Today a casual reading on the train unexpectedly offered me a tip about
grief which sounds surprisingly true. It states that there is such a single
definition of the grieving process that has permeated our modern cultural
consciousness, the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining,
depression and acceptance. People are not meant to feel them in that order
and for a prescribed amount of time. Yet I do think it provides an accurate
account of the feelings I have been going through, and I suspect such have
been experienced by most people, especially after being lost in a
wholeheartedly devoted relationship. So I have to ask myself where I am now.
Where am I? I am no longer "married" to my dreamgirl. I cannot believe that
this thought has never occurred to me before: that it is my dreamgirl in my
illusion whom I’ve been faithful to all along, and I know there couldn’t be
such an illusionary dreamgirl whom I can and I should be faithful to any
longer. So is it good thing? Sadly enough, maybe it is. |
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