L**y 发帖数: 128 | 1 早上跟老公聊起要不要给宝宝再买一张毯子,
我说,挺贵,是不是有必要买两张一样的,而且宝宝很快就不能用了,
老公说,买啊,以后二宝还要用的。
我温和地应答,是啊,那我去买了。
可是,我心里想的是什么。
我想,老公,没有以后了,也不会有二宝,因为我要离开你了。
今年是他事业上关键的一年,所以我一直那么乖,支持他,只等他一切尘埃落定。在他
眼里,也许我就是一个二十四孝老婆,也许他真的从来没有想过我会走。
可是,有时候我也很困惑,这么不留一点蛛丝马迹,是我太残忍,还是他真的太自信。
在他面前,我像一个演员,演着完美的的剧情。只有在那无数个不眠夜里,在痛苦的徘
徊和衡量中,我才做着真正的自己。这种煎熬真的很难忘。
我是个简单的人,只想过简简单单的生活,可是,连这样的愿望,却都成了一种奢望。
我的心情,没有一个人可以倾诉,只能在这里安静的地方,娓娓道来。 |
b***e 发帖数: 4591 | 2 what makes you think leaving ur husband?
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 早上跟老公聊起要不要给宝宝再买一张毯子, : 我说,挺贵,是不是有必要买两张一样的,而且宝宝很快就不能用了, : 老公说,买啊,以后二宝还要用的。 : 我温和地应答,是啊,那我去买了。 : 可是,我心里想的是什么。 : 我想,老公,没有以后了,也不会有二宝,因为我要离开你了。 : 今年是他事业上关键的一年,所以我一直那么乖,支持他,只等他一切尘埃落定。在他 : 眼里,也许我就是一个二十四孝老婆,也许他真的从来没有想过我会走。 : 可是,有时候我也很困惑,这么不留一点蛛丝马迹,是我太残忍,还是他真的太自信。 : 在他面前,我像一个演员,演着完美的的剧情。只有在那无数个不眠夜里,在痛苦的徘
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a********y 发帖数: 8573 | 3 co ask
为什么不快乐的人这么多。。。。。
【在 b***e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : what makes you think leaving ur husband?
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L**y 发帖数: 128 | 4 value, responsibility.
I rushed into marriage without waiting long enough to figure out whether we
share the same value about life, love,family, etc.
I gave us a chance, no, multiple chances to work on it. I thought we could
work out so that we reach the point where we can share similar life goals.
But it didn't work out.
I'm not happy, well, very unhappy instead. He thought he could change me so
that I will share the same value with him. No, it won't work. I'm much
happier being the way I was.
【在 a********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : co ask : 为什么不快乐的人这么多。。。。。
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m********t 发帖数: 814 | 5 eh... what about the baby? Have you told him about all these unhappiness?
we
so
by
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : value, responsibility. : I rushed into marriage without waiting long enough to figure out whether we : share the same value about life, love,family, etc. : I gave us a chance, no, multiple chances to work on it. I thought we could : work out so that we reach the point where we can share similar life goals. : But it didn't work out. : I'm not happy, well, very unhappy instead. He thought he could change me so : that I will share the same value with him. No, it won't work. I'm much : happier being the way I was.
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b***e 发帖数: 4591 | 6 想想孩子,她怎么办
we
so
by
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : value, responsibility. : I rushed into marriage without waiting long enough to figure out whether we : share the same value about life, love,family, etc. : I gave us a chance, no, multiple chances to work on it. I thought we could : work out so that we reach the point where we can share similar life goals. : But it didn't work out. : I'm not happy, well, very unhappy instead. He thought he could change me so : that I will share the same value with him. No, it won't work. I'm much : happier being the way I was.
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L**y 发帖数: 128 | 7 I thought about it ALL the time. If not for her, I would have made the
decision much sooner and firmer. That is what I am suffering from now.
I can't (have no right to) make decision for her, but I can for myself. At
this point, all I can do is to assume that she prefers a mother who can
contribute more time and enthusiasm in the process of her growing up. If I stay with my
husband, it is going to be hard because he constantly pushes me to be more enthusiastic on my career (money making) instead
【在 b***e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 想想孩子,她怎么办 : : we : so : by
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b***e 发帖数: 4591 | 8 不知道你lg有什么问题之前,我只是公平地说一句,一个婚姻出了问题,
往往很少是某一个人有问题的结果。
先反省下自己在这个婚姻中做的如何,再来做决定是否逃避离开是最好的解决方法。
记住,离婚是为了离开一个不得不离开的人,不是为了找到一个更好的人。
stay with my
enthusiastic on my career (money making) instead of family. He will fight
with me all the time
family
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : I thought about it ALL the time. If not for her, I would have made the : decision much sooner and firmer. That is what I am suffering from now. : I can't (have no right to) make decision for her, but I can for myself. At : this point, all I can do is to assume that she prefers a mother who can : contribute more time and enthusiasm in the process of her growing up. If I stay with my : husband, it is going to be hard because he constantly pushes me to be more enthusiastic on my career (money making) instead
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L**y 发帖数: 128 | 9 You are right. I am perfectly aware of it. I examined myself constantly, and
improve accordingly (at least trying). That's why in his mind, we have a
reasonably good marriage.
Thinking about leaving but not communicating with him is something I shouldn
't do. But I do that just because I don't want his career future being
negatively impacted by this. This year is critical for him and I can wait.
Actually I do need some one from the against side because my parents are
firmly encouraging (even pus
【在 b***e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 不知道你lg有什么问题之前,我只是公平地说一句,一个婚姻出了问题, : 往往很少是某一个人有问题的结果。 : 先反省下自己在这个婚姻中做的如何,再来做决定是否逃避离开是最好的解决方法。 : 记住,离婚是为了离开一个不得不离开的人,不是为了找到一个更好的人。 : : stay with my : enthusiastic on my career (money making) instead of family. He will fight : with me all the time : family
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b***e 发帖数: 4591 | 10 我觉得你在他critical的时候选择沉默和stay with him,说明你是个非常知情达理的
女孩。所以我很赞赏你。
和他好好谈谈是必须的,有时还可以发动你们trust的共同的朋友一起谈谈,男人的
想法和女人不大同,他认为已经做为一个丈夫够好了,但你可能认为他完全没有给你
你所想要的。他根本不知道。
有些男人EQ比较低,但不能否认他们是很好的男人,但未必会是好老公。
如果他没有你再也无法容忍的缺点,比如,欺骗,赌博,那么还是可以给他一些机会的,
离婚没有你想想的那么轻松,离了以后虽然天也塌不下来,但是生活会有很大不同,
对你的一生都会是非常大的影响。
and
shouldn
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : You are right. I am perfectly aware of it. I examined myself constantly, and : improve accordingly (at least trying). That's why in his mind, we have a : reasonably good marriage. : Thinking about leaving but not communicating with him is something I shouldn : 't do. But I do that just because I don't want his career future being : negatively impacted by this. This year is critical for him and I can wait. : Actually I do need some one from the against side because my parents are : firmly encouraging (even pus
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c**e 发帖数: 2558 | 11 找專業人士咨詢一下吧
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shouldn
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everybody'
fight
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : You are right. I am perfectly aware of it. I examined myself constantly, and : improve accordingly (at least trying). That's why in his mind, we have a : reasonably good marriage. : Thinking about leaving but not communicating with him is something I shouldn : 't do. But I do that just because I don't want his career future being : negatively impacted by this. This year is critical for him and I can wait. : Actually I do need some one from the against side because my parents are : firmly encouraging (even pus
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p********0 发帖数: 195 | |
w*********y 发帖数: 7895 | 13 生活不是演戏,是真实的人生。不仅仅有愉快,但更多的是不快乐。
但是一种平衡问题。我自己本人也不是做的很好,所以没有办法告诉你
有什么经验。
不过,我觉的你和你LG可能更多的是MISCOMMUNICATION。 比如说,你说
你给了他机会,那你怎么给的呢?你有告诉他你在给他机会么?如果他什么
都不知道,自然不会做出什么改变。夫妻间的默契也是一点一点积累的,
大家都是不停的COMPROMISE的。不是一开始就有的。
女人,如果你不把自己的心思或者真实想法说出来,谁会知道呢?就是上帝都
不知道。
所以,我强烈建议你们找个家庭咨询的地方好好谈谈吧。
【在 L**y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 早上跟老公聊起要不要给宝宝再买一张毯子, : 我说,挺贵,是不是有必要买两张一样的,而且宝宝很快就不能用了, : 老公说,买啊,以后二宝还要用的。 : 我温和地应答,是啊,那我去买了。 : 可是,我心里想的是什么。 : 我想,老公,没有以后了,也不会有二宝,因为我要离开你了。 : 今年是他事业上关键的一年,所以我一直那么乖,支持他,只等他一切尘埃落定。在他 : 眼里,也许我就是一个二十四孝老婆,也许他真的从来没有想过我会走。 : 可是,有时候我也很困惑,这么不留一点蛛丝马迹,是我太残忍,还是他真的太自信。 : 在他面前,我像一个演员,演着完美的的剧情。只有在那无数个不眠夜里,在痛苦的徘
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j****d 发帖数: 1675 | 14 我估计她老公有强迫症,喜欢强迫老婆按自己的想法改变。却从不改变自己,也从不反
省自己的问题和错误。如果楼主不服,她老公会大吵大闹甚至动粗直到楼主屈服为止。
我看过很多这样的夫妻。
【在 w*********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 生活不是演戏,是真实的人生。不仅仅有愉快,但更多的是不快乐。 : 但是一种平衡问题。我自己本人也不是做的很好,所以没有办法告诉你 : 有什么经验。 : 不过,我觉的你和你LG可能更多的是MISCOMMUNICATION。 比如说,你说 : 你给了他机会,那你怎么给的呢?你有告诉他你在给他机会么?如果他什么 : 都不知道,自然不会做出什么改变。夫妻间的默契也是一点一点积累的, : 大家都是不停的COMPROMISE的。不是一开始就有的。 : 女人,如果你不把自己的心思或者真实想法说出来,谁会知道呢?就是上帝都 : 不知道。 : 所以,我强烈建议你们找个家庭咨询的地方好好谈谈吧。
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