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发帖数: 10182 | 4 Beth's real-life story
On the night of my attack I had an argument with my then boyfriend, and as a
lot of people normally do, I went to the pub to talk about it with my
friend.
At this pub I saw a guy that I'd seen around the area at many student nights
and he recognised me.
He came over, we got talking and I explained that I'd had an argument with
my boyfriend and I was upset. He started to buy me drinks.
He was quite friendly and quite chatty. We spent most of the time talking
about this argument.
It got quite late and my friend decided to go home and I stayed at the pub
with this boy.
I had been telling my boyfriend exactly where I was and then at closing time
this boy said to me "would you like to come back to mine, we can watch a
movie and cheer you up a bit more," and so I said "yeah that sounds great
fun".
Glasses in a a pub
I rang my boyfriend and I told him where I was going, who I was going there
with and then everything starts to get a bit hazy.
We were sat on his bed watching the movie and he kept trying to kiss me and
I kept turning away and trying to push him off saying "no, no I've got a
boyfriend, don't kiss me" and then I passed out.
When I came to, he was on top of me and he kept trying to kiss me again, and
I was trying to push him off but I was so drunk and tired and in and out of
consciousness that I was really struggling to push him off.
I couldn't put up a fight any more, but I remember saying no.
I kept it quiet for about two or three years after. Eventually I broke down
and told my boyfriend. That was the first time I admitted to myself and
anybody else that I had been raped and I realised that it was rape.
For a while after I was on self-destruct, so I was drinking and going out
too much. Just doing anything I could to prove to myself that I was
worthless as I felt.
The majority of people who drink have at some point done something that they
really regret and I think that proves that you're just not in a place to
consent. You're not of stable mind.
Everybody knows that if someone's drunk you don't take advantage of them.
When guys say "oh but she was drunk and she came on to me," well don't sleep
with a drunk girl then, and then there's no worry that she might turn
around and accuse you of rape. |
