l******y
发帖数: 21 | 1 12年了。虽然磕磕碰碰，但我一直爱她。儿子都要十岁了。她对我绝望了。不关心她，
不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着。她找律师，申请交法院了。我认识到我的错，
恳请她再给我一次机会。可她绝不改口。我该怎么办？ |
k***n
发帖数: 11247 | |
p**h
发帖数: 737 | |
m***6
发帖数: 884 | 4 Are you sure "不关心她，不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着" is the only
reason?
If it is, just let it go. What I am afraid of is that the above might not
be the true reason. A man should not do "我认识到我的错，
恳请她再给我一次机会" easily, MAN! |
l******y
发帖数: 21 | 5 是。她对我太失望了。
我不在乎什么脸面了，我只希望挽救婚姻，以为我还爱她。
【在 m***6 的大作中提到】
: Are you sure "不关心她，不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着" is the only
: reason?
: If it is, just let it go. What I am afraid of is that the above might not
: be the true reason. A man should not do "我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会" easily, MAN!
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l******y
发帖数: 21 | 6 是。她对我太失望了。
我不在乎什么脸面了，我只希望挽救婚姻，因为我还爱她。
【在 m***6 的大作中提到】
: Are you sure "不关心她，不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着" is the only
: reason?
: If it is, just let it go. What I am afraid of is that the above might not
: be the true reason. A man should not do "我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会" easily, MAN!
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p*********g
发帖数: 9527 | 7 看能不能争取先分居，不离婚。
【在 l******y 的大作中提到】
: 12年了。虽然磕磕碰碰，但我一直爱她。儿子都要十岁了。她对我绝望了。不关心她，
: 不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着。她找律师，申请交法院了。我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会。可她绝不改口。我该怎么办？
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m***6
发帖数: 884 | 8 try to gain your confidence back! You will not be able to win your wife
back if you are not a man with determined vision. Love to mid-aged men and
women is nothing!
I know quite a few cases where the wives were fed up with the husband
because they were not 'capable' enough. Weel, usually it was the woman who
would be regretful a few years after the separation. A lady of wisdom
should not judge situations like that, but there are always women of shallow
minds. |
c***1
发帖数: 3281 | 9 你确定你能做到她想要的吗？如果能那么容易做到，为什么要等十二年，等到她心凉呢。
anyway, 如果你确定你能改变，那就争取分居，不直接离婚，期间用行动表示给她说你
已经改变。 |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 10 back off a little bit and leave her room to think
pay attention to her words ( if there is any) and needs
keep the conversition short
dont beg or chase her, live your own life and if it ever makes her wonder
about you again, there maybe hope.
karma!
【在 l******y 的大作中提到】
: 12年了。虽然磕磕碰碰，但我一直爱她。儿子都要十岁了。她对我绝望了。不关心她，
: 不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着。她找律师，申请交法院了。我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会。可她绝不改口。我该怎么办？
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w********t
发帖数: 18315 | 11 这个恐怕有点难，多数女人离婚只是嘴里说说，或者跟LG抱怨，希望得到改善
如果直接都找律师，交法院了，说明她真的下定决心了
如果没有太原则的矛盾，我觉得 还是有希望挽回的
但你得做点什么来表明你改的决心啊，BBS上的人不知道你LP需要什么
【在 l******y 的大作中提到】
: 12年了。虽然磕磕碰碰，但我一直爱她。儿子都要十岁了。她对我绝望了。不关心她，
: 不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着。她找律师，申请交法院了。我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会。可她绝不改口。我该怎么办？
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 12 honestly, I don't think your wife would change her mind. she's waited 12
years, probably wait for her son to grow up, and now the day for her release
has come. |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 13 You are still young
there is a lot for you to learn
woman changes mind all the time
release
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: honestly, I don't think your wife would change her mind. she's waited 12
: years, probably wait for her son to grow up, and now the day for her release
: has come.
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 14 all the time about all kinds of other things maybe, but when a woman has
made the determination to divoce, nothing stops her.
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: You are still young
: there is a lot for you to learn
: woman changes mind all the time
:
: release
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 15 It takes a lot to save a marriage
but unless the othe partner is a rare find, divorce usually is not the best
option, but most people only get to know it afterwards.
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: all the time about all kinds of other things maybe, but when a woman has
: made the determination to divoce, nothing stops her.
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 16 the two ladies I know who are divorced live much better than before, maybe
not finacially better, by freedom is priceless.
best
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: It takes a lot to save a marriage
: but unless the othe partner is a rare find, divorce usually is not the best
: option, but most people only get to know it afterwards.
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 17 freedom can become chicken rib later after you have it
the next man may not be necessarily better
but you make judgement and create your own life
I agree that there are some people who should never step into a relationship
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: the two ladies I know who are divorced live much better than before, maybe
: not finacially better, by freedom is priceless.
:
: best
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m********n
发帖数: 4570 | 18 这个就是女人的特点嘛
先忍，忍到一定阶段爆发，9头牛都拉不回 |
V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 19 the next man may not be necessarily better. |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 20 The thing is,
->
hehe, that is what you think right now and what cherishlife thought back
then.
check what cherishlife is doing now
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 21 not necessarily a second marriage, but boyfriends maybe.
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: The thing is,
: ->
: hehe, that is what you think right now and what cherishlife thought back
: then.
: check what cherishlife is doing now
: ,
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d******0
发帖数: 3640 | 22 如果仅仅是你所说的原因，没什么值得挽回的，这样
的老婆，对当丈夫的来说，就是一个阑尾，割掉的时
候的确很肉疼，但是想一想，其实这个阑尾不仅没什
么用处，还时不时地给你来个阑尾炎，让你疼得死去
活来。总之，这次发炎，你就狠下心，别再保守疗法
了。 |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 23 cherishlife said the same thing , :-)
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: not necessarily a second marriage, but boyfriends maybe.
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 24 who's cherishlife ah?
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: cherishlife said the same thing , :-)
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 25 a lady just divorced with 2 kids
If the two of you can not work out your problems, divorce is not the end of
world,
enjoy your freedom for now, then when you feel you are ready, you can go for
your next relationship.
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: who's cherishlife ah?
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V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 26 2 kids... that's tough
of
for
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: a lady just divorced with 2 kids
: If the two of you can not work out your problems, divorce is not the end of
: world,
: enjoy your freedom for now, then when you feel you are ready, you can go for
: your next relationship.
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m****c
发帖数: 2416 | 27 $5000
【在 k***n 的大作中提到】
: 离了好找新的越南老婆
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e*********m
发帖数: 1145 | 28 有点不明白，很多人建议分居，分居对要崩溃的婚姻有什么帮助呢？尤其是这种老婆抱
怨不关心的情况。真心请教。 |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 29 give him a chance to find out his problems and change
you be the judge
【在 e*********m 的大作中提到】
: 有点不明白，很多人建议分居，分居对要崩溃的婚姻有什么帮助呢？尤其是这种老婆抱
: 怨不关心的情况。真心请教。
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 30 and also give yourself some time to cool off and think it over
【在 e*********m 的大作中提到】
: 有点不明白，很多人建议分居，分居对要崩溃的婚姻有什么帮助呢？尤其是这种老婆抱
: 怨不关心的情况。真心请教。
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 31 Do you play Guitar?
sing this song to her
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNip_m-TDYA&NR=1&feature=fvwp
【在 l******y 的大作中提到】
: 12年了。虽然磕磕碰碰，但我一直爱她。儿子都要十岁了。她对我绝望了。不关心她，
: 不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着。她找律师，申请交法院了。我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会。可她绝不改口。我该怎么办？
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A****a
发帖数: 160 | |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 33 I believe both are victims
he never knew how important those craps were to her
not necessarily 珍惜, he did not want to change the 12 year habits of living
with the same woman, he wanted the kid to have a family
but she thinks exit is the only way to survive |
w********g
发帖数: 1809 | 34 没戏了，找律师交法院了，就是彻底下定决心了。
【在 l******y 的大作中提到】
: 12年了。虽然磕磕碰碰，但我一直爱她。儿子都要十岁了。她对我绝望了。不关心她，
: 不和她交流。她说的话不想办的就拖着。她找律师，申请交法院了。我认识到我的错，
: 恳请她再给我一次机会。可她绝不改口。我该怎么办？
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w******o
发帖数: 1006 | 35 how about u？
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: all the time about all kinds of other things maybe, but when a woman has
: made the determination to divoce, nothing stops her.
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l****a
发帖数: 459 | 36 恩，很多人自己都不知道自己的能力就随口承诺
呢。
【在 c***1 的大作中提到】
: 你确定你能做到她想要的吗？如果能那么容易做到，为什么要等十二年，等到她心凉呢。
: anyway, 如果你确定你能改变，那就争取分居，不直接离婚，期间用行动表示给她说你
: 已经改变。
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a*********8
发帖数: 5368 | 37 离吧.总算是听她的一回.
真有心离了再补偿,好了还是可以复婚的. |
