t****e
发帖数: 2737 | 1 今天因为讨论以后生活要不要AA制争执起来了。我觉得AA制很难实行，也觉得很奇怪。
留着自己的钱，确实灵活一些，可是我觉得，既然要成立家庭，有什么花销不可以两个
人商量着来？为什么要去留个小金库。我们都是花钱挺节省的人，从来也没有不合理的
花费。
如果男的赚钱是女的两倍以上，应该怎么分配共同基金的投入比例？
而且，女人要生孩子，要做家务必然影响晋升机会，影响收入，怎么样投入才算合理？
家务事不是也应该aa?以后只做自己的饭吃？ |
z*********a
发帖数: 285 | 2 蛮好
【在 t****e 的大作中提到】
: 今天因为讨论以后生活要不要AA制争执起来了。我觉得AA制很难实行，也觉得很奇怪。
: 留着自己的钱，确实灵活一些，可是我觉得，既然要成立家庭，有什么花销不可以两个
: 人商量着来？为什么要去留个小金库。我们都是花钱挺节省的人，从来也没有不合理的
: 花费。
: 如果男的赚钱是女的两倍以上，应该怎么分配共同基金的投入比例？
: 而且，女人要生孩子，要做家务必然影响晋升机会，影响收入，怎么样投入才算合理？
: 家务事不是也应该aa?以后只做自己的饭吃？
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k***0
发帖数: 1260 | 3 如果你是女的，你LG很不地道。建议飞之。
【在 t****e 的大作中提到】
: 今天因为讨论以后生活要不要AA制争执起来了。我觉得AA制很难实行，也觉得很奇怪。
: 留着自己的钱，确实灵活一些，可是我觉得，既然要成立家庭，有什么花销不可以两个
: 人商量着来？为什么要去留个小金库。我们都是花钱挺节省的人，从来也没有不合理的
: 花费。
: 如果男的赚钱是女的两倍以上，应该怎么分配共同基金的投入比例？
: 而且，女人要生孩子，要做家务必然影响晋升机会，影响收入，怎么样投入才算合理？
: 家务事不是也应该aa?以后只做自己的饭吃？
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s********n
发帖数: 162 | 4 分太清还结婚干嘛 是找roommate吗
【在 t****e 的大作中提到】
: 今天因为讨论以后生活要不要AA制争执起来了。我觉得AA制很难实行，也觉得很奇怪。
: 留着自己的钱，确实灵活一些，可是我觉得，既然要成立家庭，有什么花销不可以两个
: 人商量着来？为什么要去留个小金库。我们都是花钱挺节省的人，从来也没有不合理的
: 花费。
: 如果男的赚钱是女的两倍以上，应该怎么分配共同基金的投入比例？
: 而且，女人要生孩子，要做家务必然影响晋升机会，影响收入，怎么样投入才算合理？
: 家务事不是也应该aa?以后只做自己的饭吃？
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c*******r
发帖数: 527 | 5 it should not be half-half between couples. Instead, couples should
contribute to the living expense in propotion to their income. For example,
if the husband makes twice, he could at least contribute 60% of their
expense. |
d******i
发帖数: 632 | 6 bullshit.
,
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: it should not be half-half between couples. Instead, couples should
: contribute to the living expense in propotion to their income. For example,
: if the husband makes twice, he could at least contribute 60% of their
: expense.
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c*******r
发帖数: 527 | 7 You are deadly wrong. You might be still simple.
If couples share what they earn during the marriage (divorce term), it will
end up like that no matter of whose hands are covering that money. If you
calculate money well in a marriage when the resource is limited, it would be
better that everyone is acessible to similar amount of money even in
different accounts. Otherwise the marriage is kinda doomed if money become
the issue.
【在 d******i 的大作中提到】
: bullshit.
:
: ,
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A**k
发帖数: 4253 | |
A**k
发帖数: 4253 | 9
,
剩下的40%咋办，小金库？
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: it should not be half-half between couples. Instead, couples should
: contribute to the living expense in propotion to their income. For example,
: if the husband makes twice, he could at least contribute 60% of their
: expense.
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g****0
发帖数: 449 | 10 可以AA，但是不能以支出50%来分，要以收入50%，比如他收入的50%和你收入的50%，不
够的话，两个人各自余下的钱里再各拿各自的50%。另外跟他说，家务事也要AA，生孩
子，带孩子，养孩子，等等一切，全要AA。还有一种办法，就是你去找个愿意把钱合起来用，不计较这些的男人。 |
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a****a
发帖数: 29 | 11 AA个毛毛球啊，生活费AA，那么家务就得AA，告诉他，如果他肯替你怀孕5个月，你来
怀剩下的5个月，那就可以一辈子AA了。 |
B**i
发帖数: 1660 | 12 算了，A来A去真是太麻烦了，还是找个能合起来过日子的老公吧。 |
B**i
发帖数: 1660 | 13 算了，A来A去真是太麻烦了，还是找个能合起来过日子的老公吧。 |
c*******r
发帖数: 527 | 14 You never consider traveling, investment, emergency money and kids' college
fund? You really don't need hide the money because it is hard to hide if the
spouse really wants to know. Otherwise, you will have a lot of problems in
the marriage. Considering that Money is the no.1 reason of divorce in US (
followed by religion and kids), you could see the importance to fingure this
out before the wedding.
【在 A**k 的大作中提到】
:
: ,
: 剩下的40%咋办，小金库？
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A**k
发帖数: 4253 | 15
college
the
in
this
你没懂我的意思。我是反对aa，都夫妻了还aa什么，就应该钱放一块
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: You never consider traveling, investment, emergency money and kids' college
: fund? You really don't need hide the money because it is hard to hide if the
: spouse really wants to know. Otherwise, you will have a lot of problems in
: the marriage. Considering that Money is the no.1 reason of divorce in US (
: followed by religion and kids), you could see the importance to fingure this
: out before the wedding.
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c*******r
发帖数: 527 | 16 well, some couple prefer keeping some personal money seperate because they
have difference ideas on investing and spending. They contribute to a common
account in a form of AA for regular expenses and common investment (like
college fund or realestate). Although marriage means sharing everything
earned, sometimes it is just better for somebody, like me, to have some
independency. So I could take him out for dinners or buy him gifts, or
compete who earn a better in a year.
【在 A**k 的大作中提到】
:
: college
: the
: in
: this
: 你没懂我的意思。我是反对aa，都夫妻了还aa什么，就应该钱放一块
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d******i
发帖数: 632 | 17 well, good luck with your marriage. and have fun safeguarding and competing
money with your husband. for a lot of chinese couple here in USA, marriage
still is a very serious thing. this social and legal bond between a man and
a woman means a lot.husband/wife,children, family, joyful and bitter moments
in life together. If one day the bond is broken, who will care for money?
common
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: well, some couple prefer keeping some personal money seperate because they
: have difference ideas on investing and spending. They contribute to a common
: account in a form of AA for regular expenses and common investment (like
: college fund or realestate). Although marriage means sharing everything
: earned, sometimes it is just better for somebody, like me, to have some
: independency. So I could take him out for dinners or buy him gifts, or
: compete who earn a better in a year.
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A**k
发帖数: 4253 | 18
common
谁挣钱多，看w-2不就好了。要分开投资的话，也可以从同一个账户出钱么。不过我家
也是一个joint account主要管钱，各自有自己的小账户
夫妻之间完全细分contribution是很无聊的
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: well, some couple prefer keeping some personal money seperate because they
: have difference ideas on investing and spending. They contribute to a common
: account in a form of AA for regular expenses and common investment (like
: college fund or realestate). Although marriage means sharing everything
: earned, sometimes it is just better for somebody, like me, to have some
: independency. So I could take him out for dinners or buy him gifts, or
: compete who earn a better in a year.
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c*******r
发帖数: 527 | 19 My marriage is pretty good and I have been lucky. It seems that you think
that we don't have serious marriage if we keep some money apart. Well, you
are wrong. People have different personalities. A little meanless
competition for us sometimes is fun for us and some private account make our
life more romantic (if yours is not the same, it is ok). We both have very
clear ideas on the situation of our joint account and personal accounts and
we know we share all those money if the bond is broken (p
【在 d******i 的大作中提到】
: well, good luck with your marriage. and have fun safeguarding and competing
: money with your husband. for a lot of chinese couple here in USA, marriage
: still is a very serious thing. this social and legal bond between a man and
: a woman means a lot.husband/wife,children, family, joyful and bitter moments
: in life together. If one day the bond is broken, who will care for money?
:
: common
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d******i
发帖数: 632 | 20 Romance can not sustain one's marriage.
good luck with your marital life. as long as you are having fun this way,
savoring the moment! No matter what happens, you can always cheer yourself
up in your private account, especially when the account is a big one. Just
do not let your husband and children know about it. You go, girl!
our
very
and
so
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: My marriage is pretty good and I have been lucky. It seems that you think
: that we don't have serious marriage if we keep some money apart. Well, you
: are wrong. People have different personalities. A little meanless
: competition for us sometimes is fun for us and some private account make our
: life more romantic (if yours is not the same, it is ok). We both have very
: clear ideas on the situation of our joint account and personal accounts and
: we know we share all those money if the bond is broken (p
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s***y
发帖数: 3042 | 21 从来都搞不懂，aa制的婚姻，有个什么意思？
【在 t****e 的大作中提到】
: 今天因为讨论以后生活要不要AA制争执起来了。我觉得AA制很难实行，也觉得很奇怪。
: 留着自己的钱，确实灵活一些，可是我觉得，既然要成立家庭，有什么花销不可以两个
: 人商量着来？为什么要去留个小金库。我们都是花钱挺节省的人，从来也没有不合理的
: 花费。
: 如果男的赚钱是女的两倍以上，应该怎么分配共同基金的投入比例？
: 而且，女人要生孩子，要做家务必然影响晋升机会，影响收入，怎么样投入才算合理？
: 家务事不是也应该aa?以后只做自己的饭吃？
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c*******r
发帖数: 527 | 22 Talking to you like banging my head against the wall. If you want to discuss
a topic, you should pay attention to the information I provided. We don't
hide money from others but happy to keep money in different accounts. You
don't show the least respect for other, rather immersing yourself in your
extreme idea. I would say, good luck on your life if you could not learn to
listen.
Just
【在 d******i 的大作中提到】
: Romance can not sustain one's marriage.
: good luck with your marital life. as long as you are having fun this way,
: savoring the moment! No matter what happens, you can always cheer yourself
: up in your private account, especially when the account is a big one. Just
: do not let your husband and children know about it. You go, girl!
:
: our
: very
: and
: so
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f*******l
发帖数: 606 | 23 同意。上帝都说了，你的钱在那里，你的心就在哪里。
再说了，过生活不是下馆子，那算得清呢？而且，下馆子算得清也是西餐。中餐一起吃
，男
的肚量多大呀。
【在 s***y 的大作中提到】
: 从来都搞不懂，aa制的婚姻，有个什么意思？
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f********0
发帖数: 1129 | 24 哈哈，这个很牛！
【在 a****a 的大作中提到】
: AA个毛毛球啊，生活费AA，那么家务就得AA，告诉他，如果他肯替你怀孕5个月，你来
: 怀剩下的5个月，那就可以一辈子AA了。
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J*****a
发帖数: 4262 | 25 这方法不错啊
个人工资自己保管，家用放在共同账户
lg死活不肯给工资卡的，就用这办法了
think
you
make our
very
accounts and
get so
end).
【在 c*******r 的大作中提到】
: My marriage is pretty good and I have been lucky. It seems that you think
: that we don't have serious marriage if we keep some money apart. Well, you
: are wrong. People have different personalities. A little meanless
: competition for us sometimes is fun for us and some private account make our
: life more romantic (if yours is not the same, it is ok). We both have very
: clear ideas on the situation of our joint account and personal accounts and
: we know we share all those money if the bond is broken (p
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m*****s
发帖数: 2227 | |
