m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 1 Are you in Utah? If so, that kind of explains why guys don't participate
much in housework and taking care of babies. |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 2 If your husband insists on moving, ask him if your in-laws would be willing
to help taking care of your baby and doing housework. If so, your baby stays
with his father, and you keep your current job and visit your family as
often as possible, until you find a new position in their city.
I know as a mom, not being able to see your baby everyday is very hard to
deal with, but the situation will be temporary.
Bottom line: Do not quit your job! |
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c********n
发帖数: 1964 | 3 来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 求催产妙方 housework! My due date was 9/14. My mom came over on 9/2 telling me to clean
everything in the house for the newborn. I did vacuum, laundry, moving
furniture etc on 9/3 and had the baby the next day (38 weeks). Good luck! |
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w*****9
发帖数: 696 | 4 For me, a little bit better than before is that my husband will cook. But
still lots of other housework. I agree the most enjoyable time is feeling
fetal kicks. |
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j******l
发帖数: 10445 | 5 the problem is, you thought you could take care of baby and housework alone,
but you can't.
what you should do is , 1,split house work with him. 2,stop complaining his own job. |
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c*******u
发帖数: 12899 | 6 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
jacky2007 (LL) 于 (Sun Jun 3 13:22:52 2012, 美东) 提到:
见过这么懂事稳重的宝宝吗...?
我和老公汗颜。。。
事情：和老公晚饭的时候因为一句不投机，吵起来，两人从院子里吃饭吵到厨房，声音
放大，表情不凶，我有点委屈想哭。宝宝见状，开始收拾碗筷和调味料，把院子里的桌
子上的碗筷收拾到厨房，又把桌椅往室内搬，桌椅都是很轻的塑料。晚饭喜欢院子里露
台上吃。我们吵着吵着，发现宝宝把活都干完了。。
收声，去谢谢宝宝去，不吵了。
好几次了，发现宝宝在我们不和时候会主动干家务。有时候还过来劝架，说：爸爸别吵
，妈妈别吵，还会拉走其中一个。。。。。
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dodo72 (dodo72) 于 (Sun Jun 3 13:25:11 2012, 美东) 提到:
好懂事的宝宝。父母还是尽量不要当着孩子的面吵架吧。
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c********6
发帖数: 870 | 7 这两天娃爸不在家，我也一个人带，不过比LZ好一点，好几天下午有nanny来帮我带几
个小时。
你们家娃走路好早，现在是累点，等他会走了是不是就好一点呢？我觉得最主要是家里
要child proof, 这样你可以留他在一个比较大的安全的area玩，自己可以乘机做点
housework.
我一般白天也是干不了什么活，都是承晚上宝宝睡了以后在工作的。所以经常到
midnight才睡觉。 |
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p***h
发帖数: 1462 | 8 来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 如何加快开指 housework... |
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R*********i
发帖数: 7643 | 9 That's how much I can do, while maintaining my own career progress and
family income. I think I can finish most of the weekly housework on the
extra day, and play with the little one for a while. Now I almost have no
time for him except for nursing and bathing. |
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r*f
发帖数: 39119 | 10 you can tell her that you will share at least half of the housework,
including taking care of the baby. |
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C*****a
发帖数: 1025 | 11 Should be fine. My son is also 2.5 and both my husband and I have full-time
job, we were doing fine before my in-law came recently. My husband sleeps
with the kid, so I can get up early to prepare breakfast and do some
housework. |
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S**P
发帖数: 1290 | 12 It's all because of small things: he was complaining things were not clean
or not sorted well, I didn't make the home very "attractive", etc.
He didn't yell, just said those words like a normal talk. But I was very
upset when he complained. Because we are long distance and I am pregnant. I
also need to work for a long time. It's a lot of stress. I feel I need to
get good food and have good rest first, and also I need to relax, make
myself feel happy instead of depressed. The priority of ke... 阅读全帖 |
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q****i
发帖数: 6923 | 13 给新妈妈们写个DIY找preschool／daycare的简单介绍吧。family care就不提了目的不
同，familycare是让娃吃好睡好玩好身体好。preschool是让娃开始受教育的同时吃好
睡好玩好身体好。如果发现自家娃开始对这个世界感兴趣了，有学习的动力了，不甘于
局限于自己的小天地了，就可以去上学了。。一般特别好的preschool都有waiting
list所以要提早。我找过的preschool里，最长的waiting list是２年。一般最好是春
夏季开始送学校，４－８月。实在不行夏秋也凑合。比如我家是８月底。冬天就不送了
。容易生病，不利于娃的生长发育。如果要求比较完美主义的家长要提前做好准备。不
过我家娃最后去的是一个没有waiting list的学校，而且我觉得比那２个要等很久的学
校好。
先上网站：http://www.schoolandhousing.com/
在这个上面可以找出家附近的所有preschool。我个人的建议是早点送孩子去daycare和
preschool。我家娃去学校后，短短２个月变化非常大，从不那么喜欢玩玩具，变得非
常喜欢玩玩具。从... 阅读全帖 |
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q****i
发帖数: 6923 | 14 给新妈妈们写个DIY找preschool／daycare的简单介绍吧。family care就不提了目的不
同，familycare是让娃吃好睡好玩好身体好。preschool是让娃开始受教育的同时吃好
睡好玩好身体好。如果发现自家娃开始对这个世界感兴趣了，有学习的动力了，不甘于
局限于自己的小天地了，就可以去上学了。。一般特别好的preschool都有waiting
list所以要提早。我找过的preschool里，最长的waiting list是２年。一般最好是春
夏季开始送学校，４－８月。实在不行夏秋也凑合。比如我家是８月底。冬天就不送了
。容易生病，不利于娃的生长发育。如果要求比较完美主义的家长要提前做好准备。不
过我家娃最后去的是一个没有waiting list的学校，而且我觉得比那２个要等很久的学
校好。
先上网站：http://www.schoolandhousing.com/
在这个上面可以找出家附近的所有preschool。我个人的建议是早点送孩子去daycare和
preschool。我家娃去学校后，短短２个月变化非常大，从不那么喜欢玩玩具，变得非
常喜欢玩玩具。从... 阅读全帖 |
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m**********2
发帖数: 2646 | 15 maybe one month.It is possible that the baby comes a little early. Mine was
two weeks early. Two months are not necessary if you are very healthy. My
husband had to go out of town a lot and I was cooking and doing all the
housework ( except mowing the lawn) till the day I went to hospital. |
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c********h
发帖数: 7827 | 16 3 year old girl eagerly wants to do all housework, though she usually makes
it to be more work for me. |
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y********3
发帖数: 787 | 17 来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 神烦某些人 re
it is better than someone told you. ok, you are good ,you are not sick you
just have a baby.you should do all the housework after a day's work. |
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p******b
发帖数: 523 | 18 Admiring you all strong Moms! Especially those whose LG is away or is not
doing housework |
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e***y
发帖数: 262 | 19 你说的这个难道不是买房的好处吗？地方大，想自己呆着就自己呆着，想呆一起就一起，
不象APT,不管怎么都要在眼皮下晃，不觉得挤吗？ 房子大的好处就是可以买很多东西
而且还不觉得拥挤。象你说的WII啥的，在房子里就没感觉到存在，无所谓了。
割草什么的HOUSEWORK，把自己的房子收拾一下也是很高兴的。要么你可以买YARD很小的
房子。 |
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g***t
发帖数: 83 | 20 I have similar situations. My oldest one is in K, too. My husband works at
night, too.
In my opinion, putting most of your time into the older child is the way to
do it. Don't feel bad for your boy.
In our house, the youngest one gets least attention.
I do spend time helping my oldest child with homework, reading, math and
Chinese. But she does about half an hour a day, only once Chinese a week .
While helping her, her little sister (2 years old) always watches, I can
tell that she's absorbing e... 阅读全帖 |
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n***y
发帖数: 7036 | 21 not all 男人大老爷们, my ld cooks and does a lot of housework. |
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E*********e
发帖数: 10297 | 22 set a routine schedule
simplify housework, either hire nanny or cleanlady
back-up may be required if you don't have too many off-days to handle
since for the first year in daycare, kids get sick easily |
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j***e
发帖数: 708 | 23 most of men in america do housework, yardwork and especially good at home
improvement. usually 老外 is doing better than 老中 |
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s****t
发帖数: 206 | 24 Are you out of your mind? I don't even see what to be 纠结 about.
This is the final time you can stay with your mom and you have sabbatical!
What are you hesitating for???!!!
What's so special about your son comparing with so many children in China?
And you will be in Beijing where the medical care is probably one of the
best places in China. To be honest, the doctors in Beijing Children's
Hospital are a lot better than the doctors in US. Hiring a nanny to help
with housework is much easier in Bei... 阅读全帖 |
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l******2
发帖数: 2994 | 25 1. we have the same temperament.
2. Their crying won't last forever, my son now turns out a sweet boy by 3
years old.
3. The way I did to survive is I distracted myself thinking other things or
focusing on housework while my son was crying. His crying now is white noise
to me. be sure to keep them within your eyesight for safety. |
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q****6
发帖数: 837 | 26 I think your overall time spend on all your own activities is the same. And
once they fall asleep, you can be more efficient doing other things. He
sleeps early, you have more time AFTER he sleeps now to finish all
essentials. Of course, daddy needs to be involved to take care half of the
housework. I still think it's doable. And you don't need to make calls and
log onto internet every night anyways. |
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p*******h
发帖数: 184 | 27 A good read from journal today - we need to teach kids to be patient.
When my daughter was 18 months old, my husband and I decided to take her on
a little summer holiday. We picked a coastal town that's a few hours by
train from Paris, where we were living (I'm American, he's British), and
booked a hotel room with a crib. Bean, as we call her, was our only child at
this point, so forgive us for thinking: How hard could it be?
We ate breakfast at the hotel, but we had to eat lunch and dinner at t... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 28 估计LZLG收入是LZ几倍到几十倍， 要指望人家干活很难
啊。
-- In that case, he should hire a nanny to help with housework. As a family
member, he should either contribute money, or time, or both, but not neither. |
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s****7
发帖数: 1873 | 29 What a life!!!
LZ is accerating depreciating herself.
Why don't find a nanny to handle all this housework? Or find a easy job? |
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j***e
发帖数: 708 | 30 my neighbor mom with her baby son in the slinger on her back and does all
kind of yard work. I was totally speechless when it's getting really noisy..
Have to admire lots of white women doing amazing houseworks. |
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z*z
发帖数: 1309 | 31 太感谢了， 小孩儿病了， 所以回复晚了。
我是那种恨不能把那几百个parts 全配好了 sets 再给娃儿玩儿的那种. 如果找不到，
我再私下问你吧。
再问个问题，小儿 ＂启蒙＂ set 是 6913，3 in 1 creator cars. 我找到了另外6-7
种新的设计， 都是 Lego digital designer file. 可以做成 HTML 的 guide, 但是每
个都是四五十页。 有什么别的好方法打印出了吗。 小儿现在对看图拼非常入迷。
again, he just started a week ago, don't think he can design his own at this
stage. Also, he can't operate computer now, I'm thinking of making a book
so he can work on that while I do housework. After he did it first several
times, my job mostly is to separate the par... 阅读全帖 |
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w*********Z
发帖数: 88 | 32 Agree with you. I work and choose to work since I don't think I can handle
my two kids all day every day if they don't go to daycare. Can't imagine to
handle even more than that and my husband helps a lot on housework. "我估计
自己在中国人里
是最娇最弱的"- same here too. |
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q****i
发帖数: 6923 | 33 【 以下文字转载自 NextGeneration 讨论区 】
发信人: qingxi (作为兔子一定要长得呆), 信区: NextGeneration
标 题: 讲讲如何给娃找preschool／daycare
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Dec 4 20:14:55 2013, 美东)
给新妈妈们写个DIY找preschool／daycare的简单介绍吧。family care就不提了目的不
同，familycare是让娃吃好睡好玩好身体好。preschool是让娃开始受教育的同时吃好
睡好玩好身体好。如果发现自家娃开始对这个世界感兴趣了，有学习的动力了，不甘于
局限于自己的小天地了，就可以去上学了。。一般特别好的preschool都有waiting
list所以要提早。我找过的preschool里，最长的waiting list是２年。一般最好是春
夏季开始送学校，４－８月。实在不行夏秋也凑合。比如我家是８月底。冬天就不送了
。容易生病，不利于娃的生长发育。如果要求比较完美主义的家长要提前做好准备。不
过我家娃最后去的是一个没有waiting list的学校，而且我... 阅读全帖 |
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k****r
发帖数: 851 | 34 好榜样 is that they have to give love back to those who loved them, no
matter in which form.
Reciprocity is the base of any value system in modern world.
Lz's lg can't give up his work and responsibility to go back to china(the
trip itself cost over 1000 dollars). he needs to send some money to make
himself less guilty. period. I think this is very easy to understand.
If 对方的娘 is sick and need money, of course they should split money into
two and treat everybody's parents equally. If this really hap... 阅读全帖 |
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l**a
发帖数: 5175 | 35
You are a family, people should help each other with houseworks.
What is the concept of family, so we can help each other to move forward.
I ask my daughter to help me all the time, you are my hands and my legs.
I help you and you help me, we are a happy family...
That is normal relationship between parents and children, even husband and
wife.
Family is meant to help. So we can overCome the hard times. |
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J******d
发帖数: 287 | 36 MM's situation is very similar to my family. My husband has a very demanding
job. Basically he does not do any housework and is not around most of time.
I have a full-time job. The only thing I did to save time is cutting the
cooking time.
Here is what I did: cut all the vegetables the night before, put them in a
sealed bag in frig. All the pork were cut into pieces when they were bought
back and frozen in separated small bags. Fish and chicken wings were cooked
in oven. Beef were cooked in slow... 阅读全帖 |
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q*****8
发帖数: 95 | 37 如下,想着尽量让父母过来看看，父母在农村，父亲退休，我看了很多本版的经验教训
，所以主要围绕父母写，
但是我感觉与国内的联系纽带还不够，还有本人英语也比较一般。请大家帮帮我!
或者有些有点罗嗦？
Dear visa officer
Thank you for your time to process my parent's visa application. I hope this
letter will make it easier for you for the process.
My parents plan to visit U.S. in March this year. During their two-month
long visit, they will stay with us in xxx, New York. We are planning to
visit several nearby cities, including New York, Washington D.C., and we are
also planning to go to Niagara Fa... 阅读全帖 |
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f*******r
发帖数: 26 | 38 Dude, you all right? if you are willing to pay more $$$ tax dollar to support
the US government having more wars around the middle east, no one is going
to stop you. And do we hurt our parents at all by claiming them as
dependents for tax purpose? And plus, I didn't ask my mom to do any
housework for me. We take her out for dinners, for shopping, for trips, etc.
.. Literally, we are financially supporting her when she is here in the
States. Don't try to use your assumption to judge other people, |
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x********e
发帖数: 41 | 39 说起找help，不知道有没有人找Au pair的？有的是可以不住家的，价钱也不贵。
不过Au pair大多只管看娃和light housework，不太可能帮做饭。。。 |
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S*******s
发帖数: 10098 | 40 长期护理的benefit claim 不是为医疗治疗， 而是为了代替和帮助老人&伤病人士的日
常生活功
能：
Activities of Daily Living (ADLs), such as:
◾Bathing
◾Dressing
◾Using the toilet
◾Transferring (to or from bed or chair)
◾Caring for incontinence
◾Eating
此外， 长期护理也支持日常Instrumental Activities of Daily Living (IADLs)
including:
◾Housework
◾Managing money
◾Taking medication
◾Preparing and cleaning up after meals
◾Shopping for groceries or clothes
◾Using the telephone or oth... 阅读全帖 |
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x******i
发帖数: 148 | 41 关键字: 钟点工(charlotte,NC)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Nov 21 22:46:32 2011, 美东)
Charlotte, NC, near UNCC area
Need one person to be my home 3:00PM to 6:30PM Monday to Friday.
cook dinner, monitor 8 yr old 3rd grade girl for homework( English & Chinese
). simply housework (vacumn & wash clothese each one time one week).
Prefer someone UNCC student. need able to driving to my home.
Start right after Thanksgiving day.
please e-mail to this MITBBS mail box.or e-mail x******[email protected]
thanks |
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t*a
发帖数: 24 | 42 LP will go to Boston this week. So, there will be one room available.
Anyone interested? En..., Hopefully, I will move out after May. ( I am
still not sure
about that for I have not found any room available yet.)
Our rooms is 2-bed room apartment besides that there is another
computer room for
study. Rent: 550 per month, not including utilities. Also, you need to
do some
housework(quite little) for host.
Thanks.
Pls. email to x***********[email protected] |
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a****m
发帖数: 37 | 43 恭喜找到合适的房子了。
这些是别人给我推荐的，我没有用过。
Stan, HOUSEWORKS HOME INSPECTIONS, LLC 203 876-0353.
Warren Tomak owner of Five Star inspections in Madison. 203-245-0144. He has
an engineering background. Very good at explaining issues and gives a good
detailed report with photos.
Bob Dietz(engineer/builder) tiger Home inspections. 203-245-3020 and they
offer a $25.00 coupon.
Ron Griffith, owner, NPI 860-227-4949. Very detailed. |
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a****m
发帖数: 37 | 44 看版上很多问inspector的，我推荐一个：
Stan Bajerski
s********[email protected]
HOUSEWORKS HOME INSPECTIONS, LLC
203 876-0353
他价格不是最便宜，我们是realtor介绍的，给减了100刀。他非常仔细，顺带教我们如何维护房子，3000多尺的房子，一共花了4个小时。但是他的report写的一般，条理不够好，内容都在那里，就是你要花点时间理一理。
septic我们这次没有查，但上次用了bill roy septic service,(203) 270-6422,不错。 |
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x*y
发帖数: 32 | 45 Great! You are such a nice person. I have heard many friends(adults) who
live in midtown got paid $5-$7/hour(even $3.5-$4/hour) for babysitting with
simple housework.
Normally, the marketing price is $10/hour, it depends on how long they need
the sitter and how far the sitter drives, if it is less than 3 hours and it
is far, they pay more like you said.
I think your sitters are very lucky to have you as the boss!
Thank you for your time and advice! |
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t*******s
发帖数: 3031 | 46 Well, it depends on the contract between them. From what he posted, he is
not going to pay any extra money to a female roommate, but a waiver of house
rental and a free ride for trip. So it does not make much sense to me, as
he is looking for a girl to take care of his house life and do part
housework if not all, but he is not going to pay. What I can suggest is to
lift the salary, at least to as much as a nanny. Anyway, he seems not
serious and some people may find his post useful. |
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P*******e
发帖数: 39399 | 47 just some(all) housework, that is all? nothing else?
house |
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j***k
发帖数: 2719 | 48 My building is in downtown 10 mins away from the PATH, no water view, just
empire state building view. I could take the shuttle bus to PATH from
downstairs. Its $1 each way and 2 mins to the train station, but I walk most
of the time.
Hoboken has a small town feel, of which I enjoy very much. Newport feels a
lot more like being in an office commercial district, doesn't feel like home
.
Tax is a little cheaper in Hoboken though. A little under $7K a year for my
condo with 1300 sq ft. The problem ... 阅读全帖 |
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j*********g
发帖数: 1273 | 49 70-80 bucks a day, for live in nanny, take care of the baby and do housework
12 buck an hour for korean nanny... take care of the baby and do no nothing.
old |
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u********d
发帖数: 437 | 50 Any idea about hiring a part time chinese baby sitter from 4pm to 6;30pm?
Any difference?
thanks.
housework
nothing. |
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