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发帖数: 117 | 1 我提议本版建立一个教育子女Journal Club
dcbang的学术贴提供了一个绝佳的模板
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发信人: dcbang (dcb), 信区: Parenting
标 题: 学术贴：亚裔小孩成长的烦恼
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Jan 23 15:34:54 2014, 美东)
本来不想单贴了。因为在隔壁高楼讨论ABC中文问题，随便狗了一下。发现近年来（九
零后）有挺多这方面的学术文献。随便看了看，有些观点自己还真是没想过。要说发贴
讨论，我自己也还需要消化理解。但还是随便发一个LINK吧，挺重要的一个话题。
对于我们做家长的，其实靠直觉就够了。大家随便看看。这个学术贴，不会再盖高楼了。
http://btci.stanford.clockss.org/cgi/content/full/8/3/251
列几点印象深的：
１。Assimilation Theories。说欧洲移民是到第三代就达到＂通婚＂这个阶段。但亚
裔是＂perpectual foreigner". unassimi... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 837 | 3 就是用了很多dissonant chords和非传统的音阶让人感到整个人都不好了...
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发帖数: 7460 | 4 【 以下文字转载自 USANews 讨论区 】
发信人: dcbang (认真学习，努力思考，使劲白唬), 信区: USANews
标 题: 扮演受害者:Victim playing
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 18 10:18:19 2016, 美东)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing
扮演受害者:
１。往往是为了欺负别人。欺负别人的人喜欢说对方怎么怎么欺负我了。以此来麻痹自
己的良心。以及获取别人对他的欺负行为的支持。
２。往往是为了逃避自己的责任。好比酗酒的人说我好可怜啊。好比不努力的人说我真
的使出吃奶的劲，但你看我咋这么笨。
Victim playing (also known as playing the victim or self-victimization) is
the fabrication of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify
abuse of others, to manipulate others, a ... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 8905 | 5 SYDNEY (MarketWatch) -- When it comes to the rebound in U.S. banking stocks,
investors, bankers and many Wall Street analysts alike seem to have
embraced Oliver Goldsmith's advice: "Ask me no questions, and I'll tell you
no lies."
But the much-heralded improvements in the fortune of banks may be
misleading.
Federal Reserve policies, especially low interest rates and large liquidity
flows (from central banks through quantitative easing ("QE"), have
supported bank earnings to a large degree. Low s... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 2257 | 6 中国教育与美国教育，最大区别是什么？ 2016-06-16 09:15:49
美国学生的是非观比中国学生清晰，若有教师对学生说，过去美国蓄奴正确，后来
废奴也正确；以前歧视黑人是对的，今天不歧视黑人也是对的，学生肯定会认为是胡说
八道。但在中国不同：前30年正确，后30年也正确，没有人敢说是胡说八道
老高按：前几天有博友发表文章谈到几十年来移居美国的中国人的内心纠结——到
底移民值不值？以前回国时的心理优势不再，而国内的同龄人反而显得更有“自信”，
那么当时自己来到美国（与西方），这一步到底是走对了还是走错了？
这个问题不自今日始。随着中国经济起飞，人民生活大有改善，海外和国内同龄人
相互比较的天平，就有了微妙的倾斜。海归了的作家赵无眠好几年前有一次回美国来，
就谈起对中美两边生活和心态的对比：“美国是：好山好水好寂寞，中国是：好脏好乱
好快活！”他更调侃美国华人回国能维持心理平衡越来越困难：现在能对国内亲友夸耀
的美国好处，“只剩下空气新鲜了”！
上个月，接触了几位从中国前来美国自由行的退休女性，她们和丈夫在国内日子过
得都不错，都算中产阶级，退休前，有的... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 100 | 7 Below is a review from Amazon:
When we first got this we absolutely loved it. Great action, decent sound,
felt as good as the 1500 yamaha electronic keyboards. However, after about 6
months, the lowest register black keys began to go out of tune with the
white keys, Playing major 3rd's in the bottom octave became almost painful
to listen to.
Casio repair sent me to the *only* designated repair shop in the new york
area - a small shop in 30th street in manhattan. I dropped the keyboard off,
and w... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 100 | 8 Below is a review from Amazon:
When we first got this we absolutely loved it. Great action, decent sound,
felt as good as the 1500 yamaha electronic keyboards. However, after about 6
months, the lowest register black keys began to go out of tune with the
white keys, Playing major 3rd's in the bottom octave became almost painful
to listen to.
Casio repair sent me to the *only* designated repair shop in the new york
area - a small shop in 30th street in manhattan. I dropped the keyboard off,
and w... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 628 | 9 由小松树基金会发起、巴克莱银行赞助的“第九届希望摇滚音乐节“将于2013年11月2
日在位于纽约的Tammany Hall举办。主办方表示，届时会有六支以乐曲风格为主的乐队
进行演出，无论是从乐队数量上还是举办场地规模上，本次“希望摇滚音乐节”都超越
了往届。而在门票收入全部用于为中国贫困学子筹款之外，此次义演也再度为纽约的音
乐爱好者们带来一场狂欢的万圣节盛宴。
国际儿童节，梦想无国界
小松树教育基金最初由几位清华大学校友在美国发起。基金筹备于2008年，正式成立于
2009年。基金会的宗旨是给中国弱势群体，尤其是贫困学生，提供经济资助和精神支持
。希望通过教育开阔他们的视野，给他们提供更多成功的机会，帮助他们过上更好的生
活，将来有机会的话回馈社会。
“自2010年以来，小松树基金会举办了多次希望摇滚音乐节，希望通过音乐这个形式来
唤醒大家对中国农村儿童教育现状的认知，同时也为基金会筹集款项,” 小松树基金会
的董事成员说道。“所有的门票收入和捐款将直接用于资助内地贫困的高中生和大学生
。同时作为一个乐手，我也很自豪这一系列的音乐节融合了不同地域文化和音乐风格，
成为纽约亚裔音乐社... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 82482 | 10 这样会造成Cognitive dissonance的，导致这个笑点不容易识别…… |
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发帖数: 21010 | 11 来自主题: LeisureTime版 - 星期一歌曲 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3fLn4FYWH0
wire - eardrum buzz
这歌的mv我也是头一次看到，主唱太有表演天赋了。。
这是89年的作品
Wire
70年代末成立
The most innovative of British punks, an art band with a penchant for
dissonant, minimalist arrangements and lyrical abstraction.
-- allmusic
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发帖数: 1 | 12 Foot-in-the-door (FITD) technique is a compliance tactic that involves
getting a person to agree to a large request by first setting them up by
having that person agree to a modest request.[1][2][3] The foot-in-the-door
technique succeeds owing to a basic human reality that social scientists
call "successive approximations". Essentially, the more a subject goes along
with small requests or commitments, the more likely that subject is to
continue in a desired direction of attitude or behavioral c... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1 | 13 How do we attach meaning to other's behavior, or our own? This is called
attribution theory. For example, is someone angry because they are bad-
tempered or because something bad happened?
“Attribution theory deals with how the social perceiver uses information to
arrive at causal explanations for events. It examines what information is
gathered and how it is combined to form a causal judgment” (Fiske, |
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发帖数: 1 | 14 Another good read on "risk":
《Presidential Temperament》
节选：
#Alleged Clinton Risks
Dementia risk (because of age)
Low energy (maybe can’t perform the job)
Temperament (alleged to yell and throw things)
Might allow more terrorists into country via immigration
Influenced by lobbyists to start wars (Eisenhower warned of this)
Drinks alcohol (We don’t know how much or how often)
General brain health is questionable lately
Adversaries won’t know who she serves or how she will react.
#Alleged Trump Ri... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 558 | 15 So Long
We, walked many a furlong,
So long,
The roads that were young.
We, lost in a throng,
So long,
The clouds that were young.
We, sang a dissonant song,
So long,
The hearts that were young.
inspired by the MVs of 1022女声， 中年大叔对逝去的青春掉几滴泪 :-)
选择 So long， 取其 漫长 和 告别 双重含义， 中文叫做 “漫长的告别” 该很合适。 |
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发帖数: 5697 | 16 纽约时报的A.O. Scott是这么写hurt locker的：
So let me put it another way, at the risk of a certain cognitive dissonance.
If “The Hurt Locker” is not the best action movie of the summer, I’ll
blow up my car. The movie is a viscerally exciting, adrenaline-soaked tour
de force of suspense and surprise, full of explosions and hectic scenes of
combat, but it blows a hole in the condescending assumption that such
effects are just empty spectacle or mindless noise. Ms. Bigelow, whose body
of work (including “Poin |
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发帖数: 1076 | 17 Lesson: 3
Title: BLUE NOTES AND PASSING TONES, BENDING.
Style: Blues, theory
Level: Intermediate
Instructor: Olav Torvund
If you read my previous lesson on the blues scale, you will remember
that the blues-tonality is unstable and unsettled, because you play a
minor of scale over major chords. You should also remember that one and
a half steps up from the root gives you a minor third, and two steps up
from the root gives you a major third. I will also remind you of the
VII note, where you have t... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 127 | 18 See, when ppl say the "D Dorian chord," D will be the root of the chord. And
in jazz, triads are rarely used, most of the time because it doesn't have
enough dissonance. The 7th chord is the chord right before we have wrap
around. Because to make a chord in root position, you lay the thirds together,
so it will be Root, 3rd, 5th and 7th. After the 7th, we will have to go out of
the current octave. The 9th is really the 2nd but an octave up. The 11th is
really the 4th up an octave. Once we get to |
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发帖数: 2353 | 19 dissonant增加音乐的趣味。不和谐有时候会更好听。
常见的例子就是12行blues的七和弦。还有很多，jazz大概是最不和谐的。
自己耳朵觉得好听有意思就好。除了啃书本，最好弹出来自己体会。
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发帖数: 10832 | 20 Goldberg Variation我倒是听过，不过没多少感觉
听了一下前面终结者推荐的yale open course的音乐欣赏课
还挺technical, 第一课就把我听晕了，讲什么consonance, dissonance
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发帖数: 127 | 21 where u been? gnr had no skills? slash has been hailed as one of the guitar
gods in recent history..
yah.. vocal does not need to be clear or melodic beautiful. it is angry
music.. do u sing when u r pissed off? or do u scream and yell at the top of
ur lungs? do u growl or do u think of beautiful melodies? the harsh vocal is
fitting just as dissonance is fitting in some jazz pieces.
if the bands r suckers, then what does that make their music? and the ppl who
listens to them? I think it is just |
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发帖数: 4394 | 22 stockholm's?
or dissonance?
or 中国特色的弱智 |
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发帖数: 58873 | 23 30～40年代中期，Swing and Big Band大行其道，获得了音乐上和商业上的巨大成功。
但是随着美国卷入二战，政治经济上的变化也不免再次影响到音乐。征兵，配给，备战
……显然给Big Band这种台上台下歌舞升平的形式带来了很大困难。在这种情况下，除
了少数大牌明星作曲家比如Duke Ellington等的orchestra可以继续繁荣下去, 更多的
jazz musician被迫重新回到club, 三四个人的ensemble形式。 简单说，因为备战备荒
，jazz又回到了小场子里。
3，4个人的小场子当然不如Big Band风光，但是却也给了jazz音乐家们很多自由，来释
放自己的个性和对Jazz的方向进行探索。一些人选择了重新回归到20年代和之前的New
Orleans风格，而另一些人，特别是集中在New York Harlem的一拨人，则选择了对
Traditional Jazz进行大刀阔斧的改造——Bebop 和Modern Jazz 就此诞生。
Swing and Big Band 时代的Jazz有着以下的特点——“较大规模的乐团演奏的带有一
定的Jazz音乐风格... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1014 | 24 尽管如此，直接上隔壁那间简单多了，也不会让听众产生cognitive dissonance. |
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发帖数: 21566 | 25 一早起来大家都在谈论 Swift，简单搜了下，感觉还挺喜欢的，大长腿，长的也不错。
急招Swift资深工程师，要求5年以上Swift语言开发经验，尊敬领导，服从指示，有狼
性，待遇从优。
“撸这件事怎么说才会显得高大上一点呢？”“手游。”
地铁上对面坐着个短裙妹子，情不自禁往大腿处多看了几眼，她瞪着我说：“看毛啊看
？” “恩，”我点了点头，“看到了。”
回笼教怎么还没定义为邪教组织？我加入该教多年了。
放学刚出校门口,一个小混混模样的少年拦住我,我怒骂道「你妹…」他晃了晃手中的钢
管,我不禁低下头接着说道「你魅..你魅力真大,人家看着你差点就把持不住了。」
这道菜的制作工序是这样的：首先，把猫从炒勺里赶出去。然后清洗炒勺。将炒勺置于
煤气灶上。从冰箱中取出油麦菜一把，豆豉若干，葱姜蒜少许。把猫从炒勺里赶出去。
清洗炒勺。将炒勺置于煤气灶上。清洗油麦菜，葱姜蒜切碎。从冰箱里取出鲜鱼一尾。
把猫从炒勺里赶出去。清洗炒勺。叫个外卖。
一无是处：形容一群人中没有一个是处女座，因此生活十分美好。
八卦一条：披头士最重要的经纪人爱泼斯坦，一直深恋列侬，在一次巡演期间，列侬很
无聊，便让爱泼斯坦给... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 3693 | 26 她一直在这里贴这些东西，证明心里还是有doubt的，不然欢天喜地地加入就是了，用
不着费心去研究这么久。把这些video什么的大段大段地发到版上，估计想convince的
不是别人，而是自己吧。这个心理学上好象叫cognitive dissonance. |
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发帖数: 25615 | 27 Cognitive dissonance is an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding two
contradictory ideas simultaneously.
好像跟我說的差不多不是嗎？ 就是同時相信互相矛盾的東西。 |
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发帖数: 1448 | 28 Jimmy Carter served as the 39th president of the United States, founded the
Carter Center and was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize. President Carter is
also a Sunday School teacher and has followed that avocation since his
earliest years. In this interview, HuffPost's Senior Religion Editor Paul
Brandeis Raushenbush spoke to President Carter by phone about the hardest
questions presented in the Bible: from gays, science, the role of women,
slavery passages and more. The former president offered ans... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 996 | 29 Religion and Psychiatry
Irvin Yalom
宗教与精神病学
欧文亚隆
The American Psychiatric Association awarded Irvin Yalom the 2000 Oscar
Pfister prize (for important contributions to religion and psychiatry.) Here
is his acceptance speech delivered at the American Psychiatric Association
annual meeting in May 2000 at New Orleans. A version of this lecture has
been published in the American Journal of Psychotherapy (number three –
2002)
美国精神卫生协会将2000年奥斯卡菲斯特奖颁给欧文亚隆，奖励他在宗教与精神病学方
面做出的重要贡献。下面是他在2000年5月新奥尔良举行的美... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 38403 | 30 網上基督教論壇 - 我第一個妥協
我本科修讀電腦，所以是很早使用撥號上網去互聯網的人。互聯網讓我看見一個普通信
徒平日未必接觸的世界。在那裡我才知道教會告訴信徒的都未必盡是真實，甚至是作假
、不確的。
初期，我在新聞組[24]除了和信徒討論，也和非信徒、反基督教、無神論者、和前信徒
激烈辯論。這是我第一次感到自己信念遇到危機的時候。
當時激烈討論的就是有關基督教機構或者教會只聘請信徒的問題[25]。
一般來說，基督教機構、神學院、教會任何人員，連掃地的，都必須是信徒。當時一個
討論就是，若果一個機構聘請的職位都不涉及傳教、帶宗教聚會、規劃宗教內容的工作
，例如會計文員，或者網頁設計，甚至普通的打掃，為何一定是基督徒？
非信徒認為這是屬於歧視，剝奪了人工作機會。他們提出有佛教機構不計較一個人是基
督徒而聘請他。我起初說因為機構事工是為神國的緣故，所以必須是基督徒。但網友說
，既然是這樣，為何基督教機構租用非信徒的物業、使用非信徒提供的電力、通訊等設
施呢？還有，基督教學校使用了政府公帑，怎可以這樣用來優待信徒？
我嘗試在不同地方找理由去解釋，但發現若果有關工作根本不涉及宗教成分，例如宣講... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 586 | 31
要么无我，要么有我，是指只有这两个可能性，而我当然否认无我，确认有我。
这是你强加给我的逻辑，我也从来没有这样认为，你为什么会这样呢，因为我挑战你的
信仰，一旦我的观点成立，就会让你信仰崩塌，就会让你痛苦，甚至无所适从，为了避
免这种心理不适带来的严重痛苦和冲突感，为了维持你的信仰，你要想办法找到辩解，
包括强行给我扣上帽子。
心理学上，这个叫认知失调（Cognitive Dissonance)，由社会心理学家利昂·费斯廷
格（Leon Festinger）在1957年提出，这种认知失调普遍存在于宗教徒，传销徒，以及
任何持有某种坚定信仰又遇到严重心理挑战的人身上。
利昂·费斯廷格在1956年首次于其著作《当预言失灵》中提出了此一理论，其观察末日
教派的成员们对这种反直觉信仰的坚持，以及其领导人的预言失败后，改信人数的增加
。因为地球灭亡的预言失败，“预期落空”增加了认知间的失调，结果使得大多数没有
心理准备的成员们，为了减缓此一心理失调而改去接受新的预言；亦即，外星人已经因
为他们而饶恕了这个星球。
观音法门信徒最明显了，因为他们经历了清海的2012年末日预言失败，感同身受啊。
这... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 7786 | 32 昨天整理电脑的时候翻出来一段不知道哪里抄来的东东，感觉满切题的，帖这里了。
What is important in my life? This has been a constant question that I ask
myself on and off. I really don’t know.
There's little correlation between money and happiness, beyond a minimum &#
8232;level of necessity (food, shelter, etc.) However happy you are today
serves
as the best indicator for how happy you will be in the future.
Unfortunately for in today's Chinese society, after decades of poverty and &
#8232;depravation, the ascendance of a valu... 阅读全帖 |
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jietan (bajie) 于 (Sun Dec 16 11:58:30 2012, 美东) 提到:
王朔谈女儿：我干嘛不对她宽容？我干嘛要对她严厉？我希望她干嘛呀？我什么都不希
望她。我希望她快快乐乐过完一生，我不要她成功。我最恨这词儿了。什么成功，不就
挣点钱，被SB们知道吗？
有感于子女上哈佛的讨论。
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middlemouse (mikey) 于 (Sun Dec 16 15:00:10 2012, 美东) 提到:
在大多数人眼里的成功就是钱。
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raki (Sela\'ma ashal\'anore!) 于 (Sun Dec 16 15:11:06 2012, 美东) 提到:
你对孩子宽容，她也不见得能快快乐乐过完一生。养人不是养猪，人有自我意识，如果
这孩子要有成就感，当家长的就得支持。不能你半辈子的经验放在哪里... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 889 | 34 I think cognitive dissonance is people's common reaction when big decisions
are made for their lives. But if one really understands what he is good at,
and what he really values and favors through the experience he gained in his
life, such defensive attitude can be avoided to some extent. We don't need
to justify our choices by looking down upon others. Even if the choices can
be measured by a certain standard, such as its market value in terms of
money, i.e. they become "comparable" somehow, ou... 阅读全帖 |
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FRANZ: [cont.]
Doctors and philosophers all tell me how marvellously
the inclinations of the mind harmonise with those of the
machine it lives in. Convulsive seizures are inevitably
accompanied by dissonant vibrations in the machine;
passions damage the vital force; the overloading of the
spirit weighs down the vehicle. What then? If one could
find how to smooth this untrodden road for Death to
enter the very fortress of life! how to destroy the body
via the soul! An incompara |
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